You make your life what you want it to be.
Wait a minute…
Is that opening sentence exactly accurate?
My guess is that, if you are more religiously inclined, you are right now wondering, “What of God?” I imagine you thinking, “Where is He in terms of deciding the course of my life? Do I really have the power to make my life what I want it to be?”
All of this remind me of Sharon’s response when I first wondered out loud to her what she thought of the idea of my getting married to her.
“What will be will be,” she said!
What will be will be.
R E A L L Y ?
Seems very much like you don’t have any influence over your fate.
Well, for some folks, that’s ok. But for others — like me — its kind of scary.
At the time, I told her I didn’t subscribe to the idea that what will be will be. I still don’t.
God’s will does not automatically happen on earth
Of course, I believe that the ultimate power to decide our fate belongs to God. However, I believe that He has disclosed this fate already in His Word. There’s nothing secret about God’s chosen outcome for our lives.
“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” ~ Jeremiah 29:11
Clearly, God’s plans for us are absolutely beautiful!
However, God has delegated to us the power to make the actual decisions as to the course our lives will follow.
“This day I call heaven and earth as witnesses against you that I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Now choose life, so that you and your children may live.” ~ Deuteronomy 30:19
Jesus reinforced this when He taught us to pray “…Your will be done on earth as it is in heaven.” ~ Matthew 6:10
That line in the LORD’s prayer clearly implies that God’s will does not automatically happen on earth. We have to ‘permit’ His will to happen on earth — in our lives — before it happens. Yes, He gave us the rights to do so.
For instance it is not His will that any man should perish ~ 2 Peter 3:9. Yet, what’s the reality today? Millions are perishing in spite of the fact that it’s not God’s will for that to happen!
Clearly what happens to us in time and space is more a matter of our will, than the will of God. As I’ve already stated, His will only happens on earth to the degree that you and I permit it.
Yes, God honours your daily decisions and will only interfere to the degree that you let Him.
Your daily decisions shape the course of your life
At the end of the day, pathway decides destination. Your daily decisions shape the course of your life. The course you choose to follow decides the place you end up.
It’s a pretty straightforward logic: if you have the power to decide your course, and if your destination is merely the consequence of your course, then you have the power to decide your destination.
How about that?
Sadly, a lot of people want one without the other. That is, they want the right to do what they want or feel like at any time, but let God pick up the mess and take them to paradise regardless.
Well, I’m sorry it doesn’t work that way. Once you’ve decided on a course of action, you’ve simultaneously decided the destination of that course of action.
If, for instance, you fall in love with a jerk and decide to marry him, then you’ve signed up for misery.
“He who walks with the wise grows wise, but a companion of fools suffers harm.” ~ Proverbs 13:20
God loves you and wants you to be happy. But, sorry, you made the wrong choice and have to live with it.
You have to live with it…
Now, wait a minute..
Do you really have to live with the consequences of your wrong choices?
Well yes, and no.
Yes, because even in the midst of your mess, it’s still within your power to chose your reactions and so decide the eventual outcome.
No, because God has a beautiful and powerful program of intervention, recovery, and restoration, just in case we messed up.
You see, though He delegated to us the authority to choose our course, yet in His wisdom and mercy He reserved the right to intervene should it become clear that we needed His help.
But we must ask for His help. He would never just barge in to save us regardless of whether or not we want Him to.
His intervention in our lives is predicated on the condition that we ask for His help.
This demands humility.
It also requires that we give up our own thoughts and ways of doing things, and seek His ways and His counsels.
God has made a way out of every mess that wrong decisions have plunged you into. This way is clearly revealed in His word. You must locate the road map and follow its course.
#1. Acknowledging that you made a mistake is usually the first step out. Blaming others won’t do you any good. Until you take full responsibility for your mistakes, you’ll continue to repeat them, and restoration will continue to elude you.
#2. Prayer is usually a second step. In prayer you acknowledge your faults before God. You repent of your wrong doings. You ask God for forgiveness. You seek His light on what has happened. Then He helps you realize the exact causes, and the solutions. But in prayer you also draw comfort from God to cope with the pain, and the strength to do the right thing.
With God we don’t have to lose hope at all. No errors are irredeemable if we are willing to humble ourselves before Him and submit to His word.
So there’s no point languishing in pain and hopelessness. No point wallowing in misery and self pity. And there’s no point too struggling alone when supernatural help is available.
You made the wrong choice. Yes.
It was a mistake. Oh yea.
You are now in a mess. Sure.
Well, I guess you know what.
So get on with it.
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Yes, you make your life what you want it. But you do so in more ways than is initially obvious.