I noted in Part 1 of this series, that as a result of socio-cultural conditioning, lots of women often feel incomplete, inadequate, and worthless outside the context of marriage. I do not know how this plays out in other cultures, but where I live, Africa, women feel quite incomplete without a husband. This is sad to observe, from the perspective of personal success, achievement, and leadership.
Yet, it all makes sense when you understand the second element of the ancient curse:
“Your desire will be for your husband…” ~ Genesis 3:16
I’ve seen countless numbers of women reduce themselves to mere slaves, all in the name of marriage.
A lot of the times that young women of ‘marriageable’ age come to me, it’s always to request for prayers and counsel on marriage related issues. It’s as though nothing else in their lives mattered.
I’ve seen women practically put their lives on hold, waiting for a so-called Mr. Right to appear and take over their life’s journey.
This is wrong! It’s the height of low self-esteem.
And I think this is a primary attitude that positions women for abuse; people can only abuse you to the extent that you’ve already abused yourself knowingly or unknowingly.
Every woman must understand that the ancient curse has been revoked! It’s no longer valid. It’s no longer in place. If you think you have to get married to a man before you live a life of relevance and significance, you are abusing yourself because of your own ignorance and mental indolence!
You don’t have to get married to a man to find fulfillment and significance in life.
Woman discover yourself!
A primary understanding upon which this ongoing series – woman discover yourself – is founded is that, when you, as a woman, discover yourself and experience the courage and empowerment that comes from beholding your original design and destiny, personal success and significant achievements become inevitable.
I wrote this post, as I stated Part 1, to place an important option of self awareness on your table, which is that your current religious, cultural, and traditional status, is not your original status! It’s what I’ve referred to as a curse-resultant status.
The woman must understand who she was in the beginning, and that a lot of the things she unquestioningly accepts as ‘culture’ and ‘tradition’ are not part of her original design and destiny.
So I ask again, as I did severally in Part 1, would you rather have a curse-resultant status, or your original status?
If your answer is that you’d rather have your original status, I anticipate that you will have questions like, how can I achieve that?
It’s this question that I want to deal with in this part of the series. I want to show you how you can recover your rightful position in creation and in destiny.
4 keys to recover your original status.
When you, as a woman, discover yourself and experience the courage and empowerment that comes from beholding your original design and destiny in creation, it becomes your personal responsibility to take the necessary steps to recover your rightful place in creation.
There are four important keys towards recovering your original and rightful status in creation:
#1 Understand your original status.
This was the subject of the first part of this series. In that part, I disclosed 5 Reasons I Believe the Woman originally had the top leadership role at the Garden of Eden.
Because I dealt extensively with this particular aspect in the first part of this series, I’ll suggest that you refer to it by clicking here.
An understanding of your original design and destiny in creation is a very empowering experience and is very vital for recovering your rightful place in creation.
#2 Understand that you don’t need to get married to live a life of fulfillment, relevance, and significance.
At the beginning of this post, I made reference to the second element of the ancient curse placed on the woman after the fall:
“Your desire will be for your husband…” ~ Genesis 3:16
You must understand that this ancient curse has been revoked! It’s no longer valid.
It’s no longer in place. If you think you have to get married to a man before you live a life of relevance and significance, you are abusing yourself because of your own ignorance and mental indolence! You don’t have to get married to a man to find fulfillment and significance in life.
You must establish yourself in this awareness that you don’t need to get married!
Now, let’s go back to the beginning for a while and analyze how things were before the fall:
The Lord God said, “it is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
~ Genesis 2:18
I guess you may never have thought about this, but it was the man that needed the woman!
In the beginning, it was the man that felt incomplete without a woman; it wasn’t a woman that felt incomplete without a man. You see, ignorant religious traditions have so distorted the true reality of the woman’s psyche that today, she seems to be the one in need of a man, in need of a husband.
“He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord.” ~ Proverbs 18:22
Seems to me like it’s always the man who needed the woman; it’s the man who has to find a wife.
It’s also significant that we never read, “it is not good for the woman to be alone…”, and neither do we read, “she who finds a husband finds what is good.”
You see, woman, you don’t need a husband – that’s not your reality!
It’s the man that needs a wife.
You just need God.
A woman was designed to be more spiritually aware than the man, which explains why she is more sensitive to and more easily swayed by spiritual and supernatural realities.
In the beginning, in spite of the fact that he had the companionship of God – a supernatural and spiritual Being, Adam still felt incomplete without a woman!
The opposite was the case for the woman; in spite of the fact that she had the companionship of man, she still felt incomplete without fellowship with a supernatural and spiritual being!
Adam’s first perceived need was for a woman; the woman’s first perceived need was for the knowledge and wisdom to be like God!
Here’s evidence to show that the man’s need for woman’s companionship is more than the woman’s need for man’s companionship.
Besides, it’s obvious from the curse, “your desire will be for your husband,” that in the beginning, it was not so! In other words, in her original design, her desires were for higher realities than a husband!
Why then do women appear more desperate to get married – particularly in places like Africa?
Here’s your answer:
Women are not as desperate to get married as egocentric men may think. They are just wary of the so-called consequences of not getting married; consequences that are the artificial fabrications of man-made religions, traditions, and cultures.
So it’s not a desperation to get married;it’s the wariness of the illusory consequences of singleness!
Men manipulate this fear, using religion, tradition, and culture as the main tools to control, and suppress the woman.
So if you want to recover your true and original position in creation and destiny, you must understand that you really don’t need to get married.
Never forget that when you, as a woman, discover yourself and experience the courage and empowerment that comes from beholding your original design and destiny in creation, it becomes your personal responsibility to take the necessary steps to recover your rightful place in creation.
There are two other important keys towards recovering your original status in destiny.
I’ll be posting them in the third part of this series. So stay tuned! Don’t miss a thing!