If you desire marriage and want to build a family, what’s the point waiting until you’re 40 to get married? Haven’t you heard that the Maker has reduced the life-span to 80 years?
“The length of our days is seventy years – or eighty, if we have the strength; yet their span is but trouble and sorrow, for they quickly pass, and we fly away.”
So if you wait till you’re 45 years to have a child, when will you have the time to train that child? Don’t you know that the greatest gift you can give to your children is to be young while you’re training them? Do you want to be 70 years older than your first son? Are you Abraham who had Isaac at age 100? (Genesis 21:5) By the time a lot of folks get married and have their children, they are already tired. I’d like you to know this: By the time you’re 40, you’ll be too tired to discipline a child.
God’s word says:
“There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven.”
Never forget that there is a time for everything. The best time to get married is in your 20s. The best time to have children is in your 20s; at most by your late 20s. God’s word tells us that it is good for a man to bear the yoke in his youth.
“It is good for a man to bear his yoke while he is young.”
You need to begin to build your family early. Your children need to come into the world while you’re still young, so you can have the strength and the time to guide and build them up. Your children should come into the world while you still have the vigor to shepherd them as they come into adulthood.
Fatherhood and motherhood doesn’t just end in bringing children out into the world and giving them food. Part of the work of a father is to help his children to grow up into maturity. It is part of the work of a father to be there to guide his son as he makes his choice of a wife and brings children into the world. A father should guide his daughter as she makes the decision for marriage, and to bring children into the world. You’ve got to be young to do that. If you wait until you’re 42 years old to get married, how in the world are you going to play that role?
A lot of folks come from some lousy traditions and cultural background, where they tell you have to make all the money in the world before you get married. They tell you that you should consider marriage after you’ve had some lofty achievements. Anybody who taught you that has cheated you. The person has robbed you of one of the most precious things in life – “time”. Thus, you spend your best years chasing money rather than training your children.
Don’t you know that your best years are your youthful years? If you do not imbibe this paradigm, you will spend your best years chasing paper. Instead of using your youthful vitality to raise your children, you will expend it on things that have no life. You will spend your strength chasing money, and by the time you’re 35 or 40 years old, you may have built a one silly mansion somewhere. Maybe you would have bought one silly Jeep, or have one silly 20 million naira bank account. Then you get married and what you give to your children is leftover strength and vitality. That’s foolishness! It is simply lack of wisdom.
The best period of your life to get married is in your 20s, whether you’re a man or a woman. Adopt this principle and you would be the happier for it. Enter the institution of marriage while you still have the time for it.
It is good for a man to bear his yoke while he is young.
Father, thank You for this teaching on marriage. Strengthen me with Your wisdom to apply this principle, in Jesus’ name.