Success Habits

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Success Habits


Success Habits will fill your life with success and free you from stress.


Living is like a game, a journey, a race, a battle.

Consequently you either succeed or fail in it.

You either win or lose in it.

So it demands specific skills, what I’ll refer to as Success Habits.


Success Habits are behavioural patterns based on the principles of God’s word and the immutable laws of the universe that while maximizing the pleasures of living, minimizes suffering in life.


If you master these Success Habits your life will be full of success and free from stress.


The more of these Success Habits you master, the faster you succeed and the happier you become in life.



Success Habit #1:  Patience



Patience is an important Success Habit.


Hebrews 6:12

We do not want you to become lazy, but to imitate those who through faith and patience inherit what has been promised.


Patience is clearly an important Success Habit because it guarantees and enhances the output of faith.


Life is a marathon, not a sprint race.

Hence, you need Patience, not just intelligence.

Champions possess Patience.

Patience is an important Success Habit.


Proverbs 19:2b

…nor to be hasty and miss the way


Proverbs  21:5b

…as surely as haste leads to poverty.


Impatience is costly.

Your greatest mistakes will happen because of impatience.

Most businesses, ventures, and enterprises that fail do so because of lack of preparation and time.


Great businesses do not happen overnight.

‘Rome was not built in a day.’


Patience is essential for success.

It is a Success Habit.

So develop the habit of Patience.




Success Habit # 2:  Listening



Listening is a very important Success Habit.


Proverbs 17:27, 28

A man of knowledge uses words with restraint, and a man of understanding is even-tempered.

Even a fool is thought wise if he keeps silent, and discerning if he holds his tongue.



Benefits of Listening


‘A good listener is not only popular, but after a while he knows something’ – Wilson Mizner


82% of people prefer to talk to people who are great listeners, not great speakers.

People appreciate, respect, and value others who are great listeners.


‘A bore is a person who talks when you wish him to listen.’ – Ambrose Bierce


‘Knowledge speaks, but wisdom listens.’ – Jimi Hendrix


According to Linda Eve Diamond, author of the book, ‘Rule #1: STOP TALKING! – A Guide to Listening,  listening offers the following benefits:

Listening broadens us,

Lays the groundwork for peace,

Elevates the quality of our relationships,

Opens the way to success.

If nothing else, when you listen, you’ll find you are the most popular person in the room.



Listening is an art. 


It is a skill.  It is a very important success habit.


“Most of us think we’re born listeners just because our ears work. That’s like saying you are a born pianist because your family had a piano in the house.”

– Linda Eve Diamond


In other words, you have to LEARN to listen.

PRACTICE until you PERFECT listening.


You were given two ears as opposed to one mouth so that you can listen twice as much as you talk.


Listen for sounds and voices that are not audible.

Listen to what people are not saying.


“The most important thing in communication is to hear what isn’t being said.’ – Peter Drucker


Most people simply listen to the words that are being said to them, but words contain only 10% of the message. The remaining 90% is hidden in the body language and the tone of voice. Understanding body language can help you look beyond what people say to what they really mean.


Listening is respecting another person’s right and need to express himself/herself.

Listening is searching for inspiration in information and sounds


Listening is a very important Success Habit.


There is a time to talk.  There is a time to listen.

Insist on listening more than you talk.


John 21:5

He called out to them, “Friends, haven’t you any fish?”

Jesus assumed nothing.

He pursued information.

Ask questions, then listen.


Barriers to effective listening


What you ‘know’

You are looking for ‘confirmation’ not ‘information’.

What you know is often the greatest barrier to what you can and what you should know.


Information is the difference between your present and your future.



Important Keys towards Listening


Stop Talking!

If you are talking, you are not listening.

If you are thinking intently about what you want to say, you are not listening to what is being said.


Hold Your Judgements

Allow for a thoughtful pause between reacting, a space in which to ask yourself, “Do I have the whole story?”


Avoid Generalising

People are unique.


Ask Questions

Try to ask for clarifications on what the person is saying.  It aids the listening habit.



Are you listening to God?

Are you listening to nature?

Are you listening to the Holy Spirit?

Are you listening to your spouse?  To your customers?  To your children?

Your teachers?  Your staff?  Your parents?


Begin to day to practice listening.

It is a very important success habit.



Success Habit #3:  Generosity



Generosity is a very important Success Habit.


Here is what the bible has to say about generosity:


Proverbs 11:24:

There is that scattereth, and yet increaseth; and there is that withholdeth more than is meet, but it tendeth to poverty.  [KJV]

Proverbs 11:25

A generous man will prosper: he who refreshes others will himself be refreshed.

Proverbs 19:6

Many curry favor with a ruler, and everyone is the friend of a man who gives gifts.

Ecclesiastes 11:1

Give generously, for your gifts will return to you later.  [TNLTB]


And here are somethings said by some great minds on the subject:


“In the same way that the magnet subtly draws iron to itself, so the gold and silver that a man gives attract the hearts of men.”


“We’re all generous, but with different things, like time, money, talent – criticisms.” – Frank A. Clark.


“Complete possession is proved only by giving.  All you are unable to give possesses you” – Andra Gide


“Giving is the only proof that you have overcome greed” – Mike Murdock.



Generosity is clearly a very important success habit.


Benefits of Generosity


1.       Generosity leads to prosperity.


2.       Generosity is probably the greatest key to influence.


Man looks at the outward. 

Man is influenced by what can be seen, touched, and felt. 

Until our love becomes tangible, it has no impact.


What is the use of following and serving a God who does not care about your needs?

What is the use of being in a ministry that cares nothing about your needs?

In short, what do I gain by following you?

People do not ask these questions consciously, of course, but it influences their decisions and actions at a very subconscious level.


There is no way you can demonstrate love and care without generosity.

We don’t care how much you know until we know how much you care.


Generosity  has very specific advantages for the man who desires to make his mark among his fellowmen.

It attracts people, softens them up, and makes friends out of them.





Be Generous!


Luke 16:9

I tell you, use your worldly resources to benefit others and make friends. In this way, your generosity stores up a reward for you in heaven.[3]The New Living Translation Bible.


Jesus is here encouraging generosity.

But He is also saying that you must be strategic in your generosity.

Being strategic with your gifts implies that you have to do more than just give. 

It implies the following:

1. Give in a way that meets genuine and desperate needs of individuals.  It means that you should not just give, put some thought into the gift. 

2. Give in a way that gives you influence.  Generosity softens people up.  Yes it does!

Generosity gives you direct access to the power of influence.

By strategically spreading your wealth, you add value to the lives of others, creating pleasure and making valuable friends.

Don’t just give your money away.  Use your money to solve problems, to make people happy, to add value to their lives, and ultimately to gain influence.




The best use for your money is not in buying things but in buying hearts.


What has worth is worth paying for.

And nothing has as much worth as the heart of people. 

The most important treasure to God is the heart of people.

The best thing you can give God is people!

In dealing with people, be lavish with your money and keep it circulating.

The best use for your money is not in buying things but in buying hearts.

Generosity is a demonstration of love.

It generates power and influence.

Powerful people give freely, buying influence rather than things. 



Stingy souls will never be great.


Proverbs 11:24:

There is that scattereth, and yet increaseth; and there is that withholdeth more than is meet, but it tendeth to poverty.  [KJV]


Stingy souls will never be great.

They will never have influence. 

They are unnattractive. 

They are repulsive and elicit resentment from their fellow human beings.

Stinginess is the direct result of the ‘love of money’

The love of money is the root of all evil, and poverty is one of the greatest evils. 

So love of money is the root of poverty. 

This is because the love of anything makes you cling to it and hoard it. 

And when you do that with money you tend to poverty!

Millions today are held in the evil grip of poverty because of their refusal to use money creatively and strategically.

They wonder why they are poor.



Generosity will fetch loyalty much faster than intimidation or manipulation.


Proverbs 19:4,7.

4Wealth maketh many friends; but the poor is separated from his neighbour

7All the brethren of the poor do hate him: how much more do his friends go far from him? he pursueth them with words, yet they are wanting to him.


Generosity is the fastest assess to greatness.

There is no room for the stingy in the congregation of the great.

Generosity pays great dividends in the end.

Generosity will fetch loyalty much faster than intimidation or manipulation.


Wealth gives its possessor the ability to give pleasure to others.  The more you can do this, the more you attract admiration.

Whoever wants to have friends must not love his possessions but must acquire friends by means generosity.

In the same way that the magnet subtly draws iron to itself, so the gold and silver that a man gives attract the hearts of men.



The use is more important than the amount.


What matters is not the amount you have.

 What matters is how you use it.

Powerful people give freely, buying influence rather than things. 

If you accept the inferior position of always having to receive because you have no fortune yet, you may find yourself in it forever. 

So imagine yourself as much a rich man as any on the planet – because you are! 

You are a god!

Give freely, open your doors, circulate the little that you have, and consequently transform wealth into influence.



Often to secure and multiply your wealth you have to ‘waste’ it.


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