I’ve found out that there are essentially 2 things that make people — that is, those who desire to get married — not to get married in time and for some not to even get married at all. One of the causes is what I call insincerity — aka, coyness. The other one is fear. I will briefly touch on the first cause – insincerity.
A lot of folks are insincere to themselves regarding what they want. They don’t “keep it real” when it comes to their true feelings and desires concerning marriage. So they hide under the mask of spirituality. They make bogus “spiritual” claims about what they are looking for in a marriage partner. They conceal their true yearnings under the cloak of spirituality.
Be someone who walks in authenticity. Never be embarrassed about what you want. Learn to keep things real when it comes to your genuine desires regarding your choice of a marriage partner. Don’t ever be ashamed about what you want in life. In fact, knowing what you want is more than 60% of all you need to get it.
So, you’ve got to first of all ask yourself, “Do I want to get married?” Make up your mind about that and on time too.
“…a blind man, Bartimaeus was sitting by the roadside begging. When he heard that it was Jesus of Nazareth, he began to shout, ‘Jesus, Son of David, have mercy on me!’ Many rebuked him and told him to keep quiet, but he shouted all the more…What do you want me to do for you? Jesus asked him. The blind man said, ‘Rabbi, I want to see.’ ‘Go’ said Jesus, ‘your faith has healed you.’ Immediately he received his sight and followed Jesus along the road.”
Father, please give me the strength of character to walk in authenticity. May I never be embarrassed about what I want, in Jesus’ name.