The Cure for Poverty


I live in Africa where I come face to face on a daily basis with the tragic reality of unnecessary and avoidable poverty and suffering.

From my own personal experience of poverty, and my near minute by minute encounters with it in my immediate and extended environments, I can assure you that poverty is evil.

Poverty is evil

I have watched in utter horror as poverty stripped people of their dignity, self-esteem, and confidence. I have seen it wear down multitudes of men and women with with worries and anxieties. The negative pressure of poverty has pushed young girls into prostitution, young men into armed and unarmed robbery, and degraded previously responsible people into liars and cheaters. The statistics of millions of children dying from hunger and preventable diseases as a direct consequence of poverty is heart breaking. I observe daily how poverty makes people aggressive, desperate, narrow minded, bitter, cynical, resentful, and negative.
And probably, none of the afore mentioned ills is more unfortunate than the fact that poverty restricts people’s options and choices in life thereby making them victims and slaves to external forces and circumstances.

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Poverty is a universal human phenomenon, but it’s effects seem more pronounced in certain societies than in others. A day in this country, a day on this continent is enough to convince you that poverty is an evil that must be eradicated from this planet!

Poverty is an artificial phenomenon

The most shocking aspect of poverty for me, is the realization that poverty is an alien phenomenon. It’s not natural. It’s artificial. Take one reflective look at the planet and you easily come to terms with the extravagant abundance of creation. From the abundance of sunlight to that of mineral resources in the earth, you realize that whereas people might be poor, the planet is not poor! The universe is in fact teeming and saturated with abundance of resources and provisions. This goes to show that the Creator never meant for man to be poor.

For this reason, I’m of the firm conviction that poverty is an unnatural and alien phenomenon. It is strange to the Creator’s design.

poverty 2Poverty is the compound effect of man’s accumulated mistakes, errors of thought and judgment, speech and deeds, passed down from generation to generation.
It is not something to be ashamed of if you found yourself in it due to circumstances which predated you or which are beyond your control. But it is an evil that you must strive to eradicate from your life and posterity.
I do not know that we’ll be able to eliminate poverty entirely from the human race. But I do know that you can eradicate it from your personal life, and that you should strive to do so.

Poverty is spiritual

My vocation as a Christian Pastor confers on me the sacred duty of extracting essential life principles from the Holy Scriptures and then communicating them to my flock with the aim of inspiring them into positive metamorphic experiences.
The more I search the Scriptures for clues and keys to transform people from poverty the more convinced I am that:

  • Poverty is more of a spiritual condition, than an economic one.
  • The solution for poverty is much deeper than mere financial aid. It’s beyond cash.

I believe that governments and corporate institutions have critical roles to play towards the eradication of poverty. I do not, however, address myself to them. I deliberately address myself rather to the individual sufferer because I’m a firm believer in the concept of personal responsibility.

The cure for poverty is not money!

Poverty is much deeper than the absence of cash. As a matter of fact, the chronic lack of money is just one of the various manifestations of poverty. Poverty is essentially the inability to realize the fullness of one’s potentials in time and space. Poverty is a spiritual phenomenon that operates primarily through the mind in the form of a poverty mentality. Here it regulates thoughts, ideas, and decisions. Finally it manifests as poverty enhancing and entrenching actions and habits, thereby creating the tragic results we see around the world today.

For obvious reasons, the African experience of poverty is my primary frame of reference. People here have become conditioned to believe that the cure for poverty is cash, and I can imagine that this is also true of other societies.
This mindset is flawed.
The cure for poverty is not money!

The cure for poverty lies in the liberalizing of the soul through life-transforming and energizing spiritual enlightenment. I have always challenged and continue to challenge my fellow Africans, and people of all societies plagued by poverty, to go beyond cash in their search for lasting solutions to poverty. What we need in Africa and the rest of the world where people are suffering, is not more financial aid from rich donor countries, but rather a greater capacity for self-determination; a greater level of personal responsibility.

This greater capacity can only happen as each individual is inspired to expand their personal spiritual and mental awareness of their full rights and privileges as off springs of divinity.
This understanding is an underlying force behind my founding of the Success Academy Nigeria where young African men and women are challenged to develop a crystal clear awareness of the broadest range of life’s choices and options.

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What do you think?

Are you touched by the plight of the world’s poor?
Do you believe that poverty can be eradicated from the world?
What do you think the individual and families caught in this vicious net can do to change their conditions?
Please share your thoughts.
Thank you.

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The Core of Your Personal Success

Core of ExpertiseThere are things that you have the ability to do.
Call this your Circle of AbilitiesCircle A
Then there are things you have interests in.
Call this your Circle of Interests. Circle I

Let region A envelope those things for which you have the ability to do, but lack the interest and passion for.
Let region I envelope those things for which you have the interest and passion for, but lack the requisite ability to perform.
Finally, let region AI represent the area of intersection – that is, those things for which you have both the ability and interest for.

Continue reading “The Core of Your Personal Success”

Enjoy Giving!

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“It is more blessed to give than to receive.”
-Jesus Christ [Acts of the Apostles 20:35]

Giving is clearly more powerful than receiving.
Impact and influence come from giving, not owning.

Shift from the paradigm that reckons divine blessings solely in terms of what you receive, to one that sees them in terms of what you give.

In these times of tough economic challenges, it is tempting and convenient to shift into a self-preservatory mode. But, is that really a safe strategy? Remember that the best defense is normally a good offense. In other words, rather than shrinking into a shell of selfishness and fear, stick out your neck and, as I pointed out in a previous article, look for ways to help those less fortunate than yourself.

The size of your life is actually determined by the size of your gifts to your follow men. The moment you stop adding value to the lives of others, you are actually committing some form of self destruction. Selfishness is destructive.

Become more excited at giving, than at receiving.
Move to the point where you derive pleasure from helping others.
God’s plan for you is to be blessing, not a beggar.

It does not matter how much or how little you have, attitude is what counts.
Enjoy giving!

You do not need to go far to find opportunities for helping others. Such opportunities abound all around you. mother penguin

  • In your own house family
  • In your neighborhood
  • In your place of work
  • In your school
  • In the bus or train station
  • Inside the airplane
  • In the church
  • In your club, recreation centre, or park
  • In the supermarket, or shopping mall.

Keep looking for even the smallest opportunity to help others. Even a mere smile could go a long way in helping someone get through another day!

God has blessed you.
Now go ahead and be a blessing.
Enjoy giving!

Are You Prepared for a Global Economic Recession?

The big question in everyone’s mind today is, “Are we headed for a global economic recession?”

At the individual level, however, a more significant question is “Are you prepared for a global economic recession?”
Your personal answer to that question is what counts at this time.

So, what are you doing to insulate yourself, and your family against a possible global economic recession?

“A prudent man sees danger and takes refuge, but the simple keep going and suffer for it.”
-Proverbs 22:3

While it is okay to hold the governments of the nations accountable for their stewardship of this world’s resources, we must take responsibility over our own personal decisions with regards to the economic challenges of our times. How are you going to respond? In spite of what happens in the global economy, what will be your own personal experience and that of those who are directly dependent on you?

I’m aware that whether or not we are already in a recession is still open to argument; for some personal reasons, I think we’ve not yet hit the nerve centre of the recession. But I can assure you that there’s a bleak future for the global economy and a lot of suffering still lies ahead.
Are you able to see the danger ahead?
Are you going to pro-act or would you wait till the storm descends before you begin to react?

This is not the time to ‘wish’ that things would just change and that the ominous cloud of global economic recession will just go away.
This is not the time to whine and complain and point accusing fingers on the governments of your nation – blaming this person and that person for the economic woes that are now threatening to drown millions, and possibly billions of people.
This is not the time for panic either.
I believe that this is time for a decisive action at the individual level.

If you are a father, or single mother, or in whatever position of responsibility, you owe it to those that are dependent on you to make the right decisions; make decisions that are firmly rooted in accurate and prudent judgment of the future.
Suffering is ahead. But it is avoidable. It is better and even cheaper to prevent suffering, than to cure it.
So, regardless of whether or not you’ve already started to feel the pangs of an economic drought in your own sphere, you must still take firm steps to turn the tide in your favor and insulate yourself and your loved ones.

What can you do?

You can protect yourself from any economic calamity that could befall mankind at anytime from now.
You must begin right away to take insulatory measures to protect yourself from a possible rapid downward spiral of the global economy.

Don’t let anyone fool you, it’s not certain that government policies will turn the tide, because these are at the very root of the problem. The policies of global economies are predicated on greed and selfishness and so may not be able withstand the onslaught of the consequences of our arrogance and abuse.

The way out lies with you!
At the core of the prescription for escape is your personal decision to pull back from all excessive materialism.
You must arrest the waywardness of your affections and desires.

Then see how you can apply the following recommendations in your own personal life.

  1. Simplify your life.
  2. Develop your power to create wealth – that is, become more entrepreneuring.
    Tap into the power and potentials of an indispensable technical skill within you.
    Cultivate solid financial skills.
    Develop good and qualitative relational skills.
  3. Lay up for yourself treasures in heavenly places.
    The true measure of your wealth is not how much you have, but how much you freely give away.
    The only way to protect the little that you have is by sharing it.
    Regardless of your socio-economic status, there are those that are less fortunate than you. Join projects that are aimed at alleviating their suffering. Whatever you give comes back to you in multiplied measures.

Help others

Do you have other suggestions as to how the average person can cope with these trying times?
We need all the help that we can get. So share your thoughts below…and may God bless you.

The Easy Way To Abundance and Wealth

Selfishness is easy. It’s basic to human nature. It doesn’t require any efforts to be selfish, just look at any little baby as they grow, and you’ll see my point. It comes naturally to them!
But when you think of selflessness, the opposite of selfishness, you think of courage; you think of self esteem; you think of self awareness – because it takes these to be selfless.

Selfless sharing is the not so easy way to abundance and wealth…lol.

The person operating at a lower consciousness of being thinks that selfless sharing is a weakness, yet it is the highest expression of love; and love is the greatest of all forces operating in the universe. The more empowered you become in your innermost being, the more selfless you get. Then you begin to touch others and then you begin to bring healing both to individuals and to the human family. It is this positive impact of selfless sharing on others that attracts abundance and wealth to you.
Whatever you make happen for others, you attract to yourself.

Whereas it’s only natural to be selfish, selfless sharing is challenging, but empowering.
Selfless sharing connects you to the ultimate force in the universe – that force is love.

Selfishness is a sign of infanthood – immaturity.
It is a mask for low self esteem, fear, and insecurity.
It is a form of primitivity.
The selfish man is afraid of losing the little or much that he has, and this is exactly why what he has diminishes in value.

“The liberal soul shall be made fat: and he that watereth shall be watered also himself.”
-Proverbs 11:25

This is simply another way to say that selfless sharing is the way to abundance and wealth.
Selfless sharing makes the earth a pleasant paradise.

Think about blog traffic building, for instance; how do you increase traffic to your blog? Is it by spamming every other site, blog, and social media with your URL and links? Of course not. Anyone with a significant traffic to their blog would easily agree that massive traffic is a mere result of selfless sharing.
When you are willing to part with what you have with the sole intention of adding positive value to the life of others, you are rewarded with more abundance and more wealth than you can handle.

My experience as a blogger is that I really don’t have to bother much about traffic. I enjoy the various social media and forums I’m active on. For instance, I enjoy the community over there at StumbleUpon. Yes, I do get hundreds of visitors from there daily, but that’s not my primary motivation for participating in that community. I just love to share my favorite discoveries and sites with others! In fact, most of the times that I’m browsing and doing online research, I’m thinking, “I need to share this…I need to share that..with my friends over at StumbleUpon.” I want to create the highest quality of value that I can for those that stumble upon my blog and those that subscribe to it.
Result? Hundreds of visits from those who are empowered by my collections.
What if all I cared about was for reciprocate stumbling? Then I’ll simply be diminishing my capacity to positively impact others. I’d be petty and selfish and ultimately shrink the sphere of my influence, thereby repelling, rather than attracting abundance and wealth.
Similarly, my aim at twitter is to transmit positive, inspiring, and life changing thoughts. I also want to stimulate life empowering discussions there. This is why I get a lot of testimonies, replies, and direct messages telling me the impact my tweets are having on twitters.
Result? Hundreds of page views and ad clicks from twitters.

The most important aspect of abundance and wealth is not what you have, it is what you selflessly share.
Everything you have is meant to be shared selflessly in one form or the other.
Regardless of what you think of your socio-economic status, you have a lot to share.
You can share your good thoughts.
You can share your life transforming and empowering experiences.
You can share your pains and your joys.
You can share your time and energy.
You can share your knowledge, skills, and abilities.
You can share your material resources.

The essence of relationships is selfless sharing.
When your connecting with others is strictly motivated by selfless sharing, you’ve attained the peak of freedom and wealth.

I’ve discovered that the more I make the tough decision to think solely in terms of selfless sharing, the more inner joy and sense of fulfillment I get. It’s not about the absolutely inevitable consequence of abundance and wealth; it’s about the thrill and sense of empowerment that I feel deep inside me.

Have you ever experienced the feeling of empowerment as a direct result of selfless sharing? Please selflessly share it with us in the comment section.

Unconditional Love

We should always love others with unconditional love.
Right or wrong?
What do you think?

Should I swallow any junk from any person all in the name of of unconditional love? Isn’t it a form of weakness?
What do you think?

Isn’t it a form of subtle manipulation to expect me to show unconditional love to a cheating wife…an abusive husband…an unruly child…an inconsiderate boss…an irritating colleague…a class bully…an uncaring and selfish spouse?

What happens to my right to happiness if I must show unconditional love to others in spite of how they treat me?

I think that a whole lot of rubbish and abuses are condoned in human interactions all in the name of unconditional love.
What do you think?

She Touched Me

The pain was terrible, the agony unbearable.
I strutted along looking for relief from it all to no avail.
My right ribs were sticking out of my rib cage and piercing through my skin.
The pain was simply excruciating and unimaginable.

I went to a gathering of some people who were having church.
I sat in pain and listened to the songs.
They were beautiful songs.

Then I listened to the sermon.
It was a wonderful teaching, full of principles and wise sayings, exquisitely composed and dexterously delivered.
But I was still in pains.

So I went out on the streets.
They were advertising a very good hospital.
I went there and the medical personnel bound my chest with a white bandage.
That brought some relief from the pain, but it was momentary.

So I moved on and found an old man on a truck selling some herbs.
I applied it to my chest.
I even drank some portion concocted by him.
But the pains continued.
By now it was getting rather fiery and intense.

I sat by the road and wept in despair.
“Who will free me from this agony?” I cried.

“Sally, wake up. It’s time for lunch” It was the voice of my wife as she touched me and woke me up.
“What!” I shouted, “So I had been dreaming!”
I turned to her and said, “You came at the right time. Thanks for waking me up. I was really having a bad dream and I’m happy to wake up.”
She was puzzled, but I was really serious.

Someone around you now is passing through an emotional nightmare, a financial hell, physical pain and agony.
You can be the one that wakes them up from it just by touching them!
You can turn their suffering and pain into a mere dream?

I’m so glad she touched me and woke me from my pain.

What are you very good at?

What are you very good at?

This is a very important question because it helps you discover yourself .

I actually stumbled into this awareness.

As a pastor of a small Church in the University town of Nsukka, in South Eastern Nigeria, I felt like the congregation was bored with my Sunday sermons.
The reason for that was rooted in my own experience of boredom during Sunday sermons as a Junior Seminary student. I was so tormented by the boredom of Sunday sermons that I actually resorted to reading novels during Sunday sermons!

When I eventually found myself in the ‘undesirable’ position of pastoring my first church at the age of 23, I vowed never to bore any congregation with my sermons.
However, each Sunday, as I gazed into the faces of the people listening to me, I felt like I saw boredom! So I wanted to change everything. I wanted to make the services more interesting and exciting.

My first instinct was to reduce the sermon time to 25 minutes per service mainly because I felt that I was not very good at preaching. I also thought that the 45 minutes I was using was too much. I preferred an increase in the time allocated to music. Actually, I felt I was more of a pianist and singer, than a preacher. So my plan was to reduce the sermon time to 25 minutes and then increase the music and variety show times during each service.
The plan seemed good.

But another thought came.
Why not ask for the opinion of the congregation? Ask them what they wanted in the service.
This also made sense to me.
So we decided to create a questionnaire designed to survey the attitude of the members towards the various elements of the Sunday service.

The questionnaire contained one primary question, among others, which was this:
Which is your most interesting aspect of the Sunday worship service?
We asked the people to limit their answers to 5 items and to list them in a descending order of preference.

I didn’t think the questionnaire was going to alter my plan in any way. In fact, I needed it just to confirm what I felt I already knew.
The result, however, was shocking.

Over 90 people returned their questionnaires and the result was something like this:

  • Members who listed ‘Pastor’s preaching’ between no 1 & 3 = 85%!
  • Members who listed ‘Pastor’s preaching’ among their 5 most preferred aspects of the service = 100%!

I was literarily shocked by the result of the survey. All the questionnaires were filled anonymously and all the members had over two weeks to fill and submit their questionnaires. So I was sure that the answers submitted were accurate reflections of how the members perceived my work.

I was not just shocked, I had a revelation!
It was self discovery – a revelation of what I was good at.
Up until that time, I never even imagined that I was good at preaching. The thought that anyone could actually enjoy my sermons never crossed my mind.
Actually, as a direct consequence of that survey, we increased my preaching time to 1hr each Sunday and saw the attendance of the church increase by over 40% in a matter of weeks!

I was good at talking, teaching, and preaching; and I didn’t even know it.

What are you very good at?

Like I pointed out, the answer to this question helps you discover yourself.
Now, do not for one moment think that the answer to that question is obvious, because often times it isn’t.
As a matter of fact, if you are very good at something, you probably won’t know. This is because it’ll most likely be something that you do absent mindedly. It’s such a part of you and you are so good at it that you do it automatically without any conscious thought or effort, and you do it so well.

But do you know that what you are very good at will:

  • Attract more people to you? After all, is this not what they’ll probably admire the most about you?
  • Attract more resources and favors to you? Whatever attracts people to you will attract what people have!

In other words, what you are very good at has the potential to make you richer, wealthier, more successful, faster and easier.

Do you know what it is?
What are you very good at?

If you know, good.
If you don’t, do what I did. In fact, do what you do every morning – looking at yourself in the mirror.
Just that this time, that mirror might be other people that are around you, who know you intimately and who associate, relate, or work with you:

  • Your family members – spouse, siblings, and so on.
  • Your colleagues in the office.
  • Your course mates and classmates.
  • Your group members in the Church.
  • And so on, and so forth.

Simply ask them, “What do you like the most about me? What is it about me that most attracts you to me?”

You might be as shocked as I was with what you find out.
Better still, it might be a revelation that creates dynamic life adjustments that takes you to a whole new level of success and achievements.
Take the time today to discover yourself by knowing what you are very good at.

So, if I may ask, what are you very good at?

How to Cure Your Sadness

Have you ever been sad? I mean, real, deep, and persistent sadness – the kind you can almost touch?

I’ve had to endure sadness for the major part of my life. A greater measure of it was due to the discomfort associated with my 17-year ordeal with asthma. I hate to be sad because sadness is so demoralizing and energy sapping. My response to it up until now has always been to fight it until it gets out.
Recently, however, it visited again as usual. But this time, instead of trying to push it out, I decided to accommodate it, so as to study and understand it. So it stayed and festered for days and weeks, and I endured it, studied it and wrote about it. I choose to observe it at a very close range with the intention of learning:

  • The true meaning of sadness
  • The causes of sadness
  • The cure for sadness

I didn’t learn enough, of course, to make me an expert on sadness!
But I sure did learn enough to feel confident that any other time it happens to show up, I’ll be more than capable to deal with it constructively, creatively, and effectively.

The True Meaning of Sadness

Sadness is an emotional experience.
The emotion is a reactive component of the soul. It’s responsive. In other words, it’s always a resultant effect of some stimuli – external or internal.
Since sadness is an emotional experience, it’s a reaction of the soul to some form of internal or external stimulus. Sadness, hence is also a soulish experience.

In her article, Beyond Sadness, Nancy Schimelpfening writes, “Sadness is a part of being human, a natural reaction to painful circumstances. All of us will experience sadness at some point in our lives.”

There’s nothing strange about sadness. It’s a normal human emotional experience.
But it’s a deep experience, in the sense that it’s an experience of the soul.

Sadness Stimuli

Remember that sadness is the reaction of your soul to some form of internal or external stimuli.

Here are some of those stimuli:

  • A focus of the mind on negatives. This focus can be conscious. In this sense, you are thinking of negative things that have happened to you – loss of a loved one, loss of love, rejection, pain, and so on. But this focus can also be subconscious, and this in no way diminishes its impact. This second dimension of the mental focus is why sometimes someone says, “I don’t know why I’m so sad.” It is possible for your subconscious soul to focus on a negative incident that is stored away somewhere in the deep recesses of your memory.
    Sadness is the resultant effect of the negative focus of the subconscious mind. Whenever your heart is oriented towards the negatives in your life, a heavy and dark cloud descends on your heart and begins to press against it. You feel this in the form of sadness.
    You are not always aware of the shift in orientation because it happens subtly. This is why the bible encourages us to guard our hearts with all diligence because from it are the issues of life.
    This gradual re-orientation often happens without any effort on your part!
  • A disconnection from the soul’s designer . Whenever you act in a way that is contrary to the fundamental principles underlying your soul’s basic design, your soul reacts with sadness. In an excerpt from ‘A Biography of Fear’, Jonathan Bitz writes that “Melancholy is awareness, of our distance from God, meaning, and purpose?” In more practical terms, any time you break a moral code of the universe, deep inner feelings of sadness occur.
  • Loss of time control. Any individual soul is extremely happy whenever dominion, mastery, or control is gained with respect to time management. The soul reacts with sadness whenever it senses or perceives a loss of control with respect to time management.
  • Lack of mental companionship. This is a form of inner loneliness that also creates the feeling of sadness. This is normally experienced in the area of one’s responsibilities. Each time you feel the load of work and there’s no one to help share this burden constructively, the sense of being ‘alone’ might trigger off the feeling of sadness.
  • Frustrated expectations. Sadness also occurs when your inner speed is higher than your external speed. In other words, when your expectations do not match your realities.
  • Change. According to Mental Health, “Sadness can result from a change that you didn’t expect, or it can signal the need for a change in your life.Change is usually stressful, but it is necessary for growth.”
  • Tiredness. Physical exhaustion from overwork can also trigger off the feeling of sadness.
  • Fatigue. Mental exhaustion from excessive mental strain can also cause sadness.
  • Poor nutrition. Inadequate nourishment for your body can stimulate the emotional experience of sadness.
  • Lack of a definite life’s purpose. The happiest people on earth are those who have something to look forward to. They have goals and missions that are clearly defined and which give them a sense of relevance. This is something that keeps them constantly excited and motivated. The absence of such goals and missions creates the experience of sadness in the human soul.
  • Sad people! Yes, sadness is contagious! The more you associate with sad and depressed souls, the more your own soul is infected and contaminated with their sadness. I’ve often felt this as a pastor. Lots of times, after counselling with people who have deep emotional needs, I experience sadness for hours immediately after the counselling session.

This definitely is not an exhaustive list. Please, feel free to add your comments on this subject; let us know, from your own experiences, other causes of sadness. And, if you are experiencing sadness, what do you think is responsible for yours? Are any of the causes among those in my brief list above?

Sadness is dangerous

Sadness is a normal human emotional experience. But it is also a dangerous human emotional experience!
At the least, it predisposes the human soul to addictions. Many people plunge headlong into dangerous addictions as a result of their misguided efforts to eliminate sadness.
In an excerpt on Sadness, therapist and author Thayer White who has over 23 years experience as both therapist and client in the areas of therapy and self-growth writes that, “unless you are able to feel sadness (and its relatives: sobbing, grief and tears), you will forever be avoiding sadness. Avoidance makes you prone to addictive behavior, psychosomatic symptoms, high levels of anxiety and acting-out skewed behavior.”
During my recent prolonged studious engagement with sadness, I narrowly escaped addiction to alcoholism!

Addictions are not the only consequences of sadness. Sadness can negatively impact almost every aspect of our lives if not adequately handled.

  • It could lead to withdrawal, thereby impacting negatively on your relationships and crippling your productivity.
  • It could diminish your energy level and slow down your rate of accomplishments.
  • It could evolve into depression, if not managed properly.

Curing Sadness

Can sadness be cured?
I doubt it could.
I personally believe that sadness is an emotional experience akin to pain. Pain is a sign of life. A normal human being should feel pain in response to pain-causing stimuli, else there is cause for concern. Similarly, sadness, which is a normal emotional response, is a sign of healthy life. Hence I do not think it can be ‘cured’.
I also relate sadness to sweating. Sweating occurs under certain environmental conditions. It is normal. It is to be expected once those conditions exist. Such is the experience of sadness. Under certain conditions, like the stimuli we listed above, sadness should be expected to occur.
So I do not think that sadness can be ‘cured.’ But I do think that it can be resolved. By that I mean that it can be creatively managed any and everytime it shows up.

If you or a dear one is experiencing sadness, I believe the following constructive steps will help.

  1. Know that sadness is normal. You do have every right to feel sad under sadness stimuli.
  2. Try to find out why you are sad.
  3. Take out time to rest.
  4. Take adequate nourishment for your body.
  5. Meditate on positive and inspiring material.
  6. Interact and fellowship with positive and inspiring people.
  7. Take time to discover your life’s purpose.
  8. Recreate your mind through vacations, sight seeing and so on.

Do you have any other ideas on how sadness can be creatively managed?
Do you have personal experiences related to sadness?
Please comment below.

Do You Have An Addiction?

Do you have an addiction?

“…the term addiction is used to describe a recurring compulsion by an individual to engage in some specific activity, despite harmful consequences to the individual’s health, mental state or social life.” – Wikipedia

When we come across the term addiction, we often think in terms of drugs, alcoholism, or probably sex. Yet, the fact is that addiction has a broad application to all kinds of psychological dependence that lead to self destructive behaviors.

Does everyone have addictions?
Not necessarily.

Does everyone with addictions know that they have addictions?
Not really. In fact, most people with addictions don’t know that they have one. This is because the activities in which they are addictively engaged may be ‘productive’ or ‘positive’.
Yet, any activity in which you are engaged in a recurring manner, and which has harmful consequences to your health, mental state or social life, is an addiction, regardless of how ‘productive’ or ‘positive’ the activity may be.

As you can see, the definitive element of addictions is the fact that they have harmful consequences to:

  • your health,
  • mental state or
  • social life.

Do you have an addiction?
Do a personal check right away. Is there a specific activity, or a set of activities, that you are engaged in to the detriment of your health, mental state or social life? You might be blinded by the positive effects of that activity – probably you are making money from it or whatever: but if it’s hurting your health, mental state, or social life, its an addiction.

I’ve been thinking about addictions lately.
I believe that addictions happen when there’s a need in the human soul for meaning and joy beyond what is offered in the material dimension. We don’t always understand the nature of this need, but it’s always there and shows up at unexpected moments in our lives.
This need has an interesting identity – it’s called eternity!
Because you are an ‘eternity’ being, there’s a space in your heart called eternity. This space can only be filled by the Creator of the universe – God.
Any time you sense this need, and you attempt to fill it with any thing or activity, that thing or activity rapidly translates into an addiction.

Any addiction is bad.
Addictions create neurosis.
Addictions set up the human soul for depression, and frustration.
Addictions cripple interpersonal relationships.
Addictions are destructive to health and peace of mind.
In fact, addictions are dangerous.

Do you have an addiction?
Do you have a recurring compulsion to engage in some specific activity, despite harmful consequences to your health, mental state or social life.

Check that recurring compulsion to:

  • be with a certain individual at the expense of other important relationships – such as your marriage and so on?
  • pursue your career and professional activities at the expense of your health, mental state or social and family life?
  • take any form of food substance – alcohol, food, drugs, and so on – regardless of the harmful impact on your life?
  • pursue entertainment to the detriment of your family life and vital relationships?

Just take out time and think along the above lines. Do you have a compulsion to:

  • ……………………………….despite harmful consequences to your health, mental state or social life?
    (Fill out the space above with any such activity in your own life.)

My purpose in writing this post is to challenge you to check your life for the possible existence of addictions. I’ll post a sequel to this on how to eliminate addictions.

For the moment, however, is there any in your life? Please share with us in the comment spaces below.

Why is it easier to think negatively?

In the article, “Conquering Your Internal Critic So You Can Sing Your Own Song” posted on , Jack N. Singer, Ph.D. Professional Psychologist, renowned Speaker and Consultant, references Dr. Shad Helmstetter’s fascinating statistic;
“By the time the average youngster reaches the age of eighteen, he or she has been told something negative or something critical by parents, teachers and other authority figures an average of 148,000 times!. During the same eighteen year time frame, this individual has only heard a few thousand positive comments. It is no wonder, therefore that with this ratio of 148,000 to 3,000 most of us are programmed to think negatively, to fear taking risks, and to be internally critical of ourselves each and every day.”

My personal experience as a Pastor and counselor confirms the above statistics.
For instance, I was having a chat with my wife recently and I asked her, “If I were to give you 100k now, what would you do with it?”
She paused for just a second and then in less than 3 minutes, I heard a list that would actually consume three times that amount! And the fascinating thing was that it would all be within an hour.
Then I asked her, “can you give me just 5 ideas on how I can make that kind of money in 24 hours?”

I guess you could imagine the rest…she paused for over 5 minutes; I actually never got an answer on that one.
So I told her, “Have you realized that it was easier for your mind to come out with ideas on how to consume 100k, than on how to create it?”
It was quite a learning experience for us. It actually left me thinking about why it’s easier to think destructively than creatively.

Is it just due to critical words by parents, teachers and other authority figures as we were growing up? Are there other factors that contribute to this condition?

In your own opinion, why do you think its easier for the human mind to think in negative terms than in positive terms?
We’d appreciate your comments.

Sometimes You Need To Cry…

Tear drops.

Its not bad to cry after all.
In the quietness of your own solitude, its ok to let the tears flow.
Become a baby again. Lean on the shoulders of your own soul and find comfort in your own freedom to be you…to be true to your own feelings and emotions.
Its all about acceptance, the openness and courage to be transparent, not to others but to your own self. To look into your inner being without fear and confront what you see.
To face the pains…face the fears.
To face the hurts, the disappointments, the betrayals…

Then loneliness can be a friend.
It can be embraced with expectation.
The expectation of adventure and discovery…
Yes there’s the fear as you go through the corridors of your own mind…as you view the gallery of your memories…the museum of past experiences and your own interpretations of their meanings.
Broken dreams…broken hopes.
Joys…smiles…happiness…fleeting pleasures…
They all seem to come alive, each full of tales, each full of songs.

Time slows down to the rhythm of the soul…almost still
The moment is sacred because it’s unique and only you can experience it. The joys cannot be shared…neither can the calm sadness. It’s’s a tale of the sanctity of who you really are.
It’s the place only you can be, only you have been; and it’s so because only you can understand it.

Sounds mean very little here…it’s so spiritual. It’s true reality.
Human voices become sacrilegious…
The pictures cannot be painted on canvas..
The music cannot be sung by mortal lips, or played by mortal hands.
The quietness can be threatening…also the loneliness.
But the bold embrace it and conquer it…then the quietness becomes your aide, the loneliness, your friend.
That is when the tears begin…and the sounds of truth play in your heart in its own ethereal beauty…to the stringed instruments of eternity…that says all at once…
Thats why you cry because you know.

The tears speak a language that is hard to utter…
But like unwinding of a ballad dancer, the soul soars…
Like a little butterfly, a new being emerges from the hardness of the fears to embrace a new tenderness, a new vulnerability, a new trust.
But now it’s a trust in the real, in the true, in the understanding that everything ultimately changes.
And in the tears, in the sadness, there is a strange joy…it’s unspeakable…it’s full of glory…it’s heavenly.
Nothing is ever the same.
It’s evolution. It’s metamorphosis…it becomes a new aware of you

Yes sometimes you need to cry.
I know that.
I think you do too.
Go on…it’s ok.

What Inspires You?

I asked my wife this question last night.

We were reviewing the content of my sermon on Sunday which was on the subject of self discovery. She wanted to know more about herself.

It was a period to also reflect on our lives with the intention of knowing more about ourselves and ultimately being able to optimize our potentials and capacities.

While waiting for her to gather her thoughts together to be able to answer the question, I thought of my own answers too! Well, I came up with this brief list:

  1. Browsing the internet – researching, online socializing, blogging (and all the thousands of activities that fall under this!!)
  2. Watching cable tv – news, current affairs, documentaries, and inspiring movies
  3. A beautiful environment.

In the meantime, she had come up with some of her own:

  1. Going out to a great restaurant and having a good time
  2. Observing nature – the sea, the sunset, forests, and so on

As we discussed, I had an idea…

…to ask you the same question! (He he he)

So what inspires you?
(By that I mean, what activity is it that you enjoy doing so much, and which every time you are engaged in it, raises the level of your energy, excitement, and enthusiasm.)
Leave your comments and thoughts below. If you have a blog on issues related to self discovery, leave a link in your comment.

Hey! You don’t have to die!

I’ve discovered that there’s something worse than death, and that’s the fear of death. You don’t know what this fear is until you face it! For instance, when you’ve been diagnosed of a terminal disease like cancer, or HIV – when the doctors tell you that there’s nothing else they can do, at such times the fear is simply torturous. It’s terrifying.

Imagine what it’s like to be in the shoes of the woman with the issue of blood where, a situation in which, rather than your condition improving with medication, it’s getting worse. It’s a terrifying experience. You’re taking drugs, applying creams, using herbs, and so on yet things are still getting worse. You are spending a lot of your hard earned cash all to no avail. It’s even worse when you don’t know what is wrong with you. The medical people have run all sorts of tests and they still can’t say exactly what the problem with you is. The uncertainty can be tormenting.

The most depressing aspect of it, from my own experience is the fact that you can’t share it with anyone. You see, emotions, pains, and fears can be masked by make-up, good dressing, smiles and an outward show of boldness. So you are trapped in a private cell of torture, torment, and panic. Something within you is shivering with fear. Not even your closest friend is permitted to enter that inner closet. It all boils down to one phrase, the fear of death.

Fear is worst than any germ or killer virus. These other ones attack the body. But fear attacks the spirit and the soul. It hits at the very foundation of the being. It pollutes the thoughts, emotions, and attitudes thereby paralyzing the individual. Besides, it is satan’s most powerful tool.Are you hiding in a cell of fear? The truth is that you don’t have to be there anymore.

See Hebrews 2:9, 14, 15.
9But we see Jesus, who was made a little lower than angels, now crowned with glory and honor because he suffered death, so that by the grace of God he might taste death for everyone. 14Since the children have flesh and blood, he too shared in their humanity so that by his death he might destroy him who holds the power of death, that is the devil – 15and free those who all their lives were held in slavery by their fear of death.

These verses reveal 4 important truths:
1. Jesus Christ has tasted (or experienced) death for each of us.
2. He destroyed the one who holds the power of death, which is the devil.
3. He now holds that power!
4. He has freed us from the manipulation of the fear of death.

But all these are nothing if you don’t know these truths. Because, you see, according to John 8:32, “You will know the truth and the truth shall set you free.” The truth sets you free, but it only does so through your knowledge of it. The knowledge of truth is the instrument that the truth uses to set you free.

If you are in this situation of tormenting fear, I want you to know that your faith is under trial. This not to say that God is the one behind your problems – because He’s not. I’m simply saying that this is an opportunity to renew your faith in God; to rediscover the promises and benefits of your relationship with Him. I have been in that dark pit too, so I know what it feels like. I also know how to come out of that place and that is simply to focus on the truth.

Job was there and he was able to come out because of what he knew.
“I know that my Redeemer lives, and that in the end he will stand upon the earth. And after my skin has been destroyed, yet in my flesh I will see God; I myself will see him with my own eyes – I , and not another. How my heart yearns within me!” Job 19:23-27

David overcame too by what he knew.
“I am still confident of this: I will see the goodness of the LORD in the land of the living.” Psalm 27:13

These are not just mere bold confessions of faith heroes, they are promises of God to you. Can claim them right away! You really don’t have to die.

Have you ever been in a situation where you are scared of death, for any reasons? What was it like? What did you do to recover your courage and zest of living?

Please post your comments below

By the way?Who are You talking to?

One day, a young undergraduate of Electronic Engineering at the university here came to see me. He was the prayer coordinator for one of the large Christian Students Fellowships on Campus and wanted to spend some days at our home for a time of prayer. I allowed him the use of our guest room.

He spent three nights here and we could barely sleep at night!

His style of prayer is common here – rapidly moving around the room and screaming at the top of his voice. You could hear every bit of his prayer from any part of the house. I was used to all that anyway because, as I said, it’s quite a common style of prayer here.

Something rather interesting, however, occurred on the morning he was to leave. That morning, I had to deliver a talk at a seminar of the Presbyterian Student’s Fellowship after my usual early morning workout at the Campus mini-stadium. Since I probably wouldn’t be at home at the time of his leaving later that day, he had to see me before I went for my morning exercises. He seemed a bit perplexed as we sat together in the sitting room and I perceived he had some questions on his mind.

He didn’t waste any time before shooting it at me. “When do you pray?” he asked me.
It was now my turn to wonder!
I pondered over his question for a few seconds and all the while I kept thinking, “What’s the reason behind this?”
Of course, it didn’t take much time before it hit me! So I decided to respond with a question of mine, “Do I pray?” I asked.
“I believe you do,” was his instant reply, “or else we wouldn’t see the kind of results we see in your life and ministry here on the Campus,” he continued. “But then” he wondered out loud, “I’ve been here for the past three days and nights and I’ve never for once heard you praying.”
I wasn’t mistaken. I had perceived his thinking accurately!
This time, I was amused. “Well,” I asked smiling, “why should you hear me? Are you the one to whom I’m praying?”

Eventually, I said to him, “I’m not interested in whether you or any other human being hear me praying. I’m rather interested in Him – the One to Whom I’m praying – hearing me. If He hears me, then there will be results whether you or others hear me or not.”
I parted from him that morning still wondering whether he got the meaning and implications of my comments. Such things usually don’t sink that easily.

By the way, who are you talking to?

Please send me your comments.

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How to Attract the Right Man for Marriage

attract the right man for marriage

Attract the right man for marriage by applying the 12 very effective tips presented in this article.

Are all the wrong people approaching you for marriage?

Is your problem that the men that approach you for marriage are not the types you would want to marry, whereas the types you would love to marry seem not to notice you?

What should you do to attract the right man for marriage?

In this article, I’ll show you 12 practical steps you can take to attract the right man for marriage.

#1.  To attract the right man for marriage, you must know, understand and be who you are.

One of the toughest challenges that young ladies face in their quest for marriage, is the inability to attract the right man for marriage.

“My problem is that the men that approach me for marriage are not the types I would want to marry, whereas the types I would love to marry seem not to notice me.”

Research shows that the above dilemma is common among ladies of marriageable age.

Why Does this happen?

Why is it that the men that approach you for marriage are not the types you would want to marry, whereas the types you would love to marry seem not to notice you?

First of all, what you see here is the Law of Attraction at work.  This Law states that you attract who you are, not who you want. 

Another way to look at it is this, ‘Birds of a feather flock together.

However, this law is a paradox!  This is because it is almost impossible to want something that is not compatible with who you are.  Your wants come out of your mental conditioning.  You want what you consider valuable. In other words, what you want is invariably connected to some sort of scale of preference in your mind.  Your ‘wanting’ is an aspect of your attitude or mentality.  And because ‘as a man thinketh in himself, so is he,’ your mentality is synonymous with your personality.

If you desire to attract the right man for marriage, you must understand that what you want is an integral aspect of who you are.

To attract the right man for marriage know, understand and be who you are.

As a Christian, your true self is that person you see when you look at Jesus Christ!  He is your mirror.

Never allow the world push you around and tell you who you’re supposed to be. Putting on a false social mask just to please everyone else, is unnecessary if you’re looking for a lasting relationship.

Be who God has said you are!

#2.  To attract the right man for marriage, you must tell yourself the right things.

To attract the right man for marriage, tell yourself the right things.

What do you believe about yourself?  What are you telling yourself?

You may be programming yourself for failure with negative thoughts.

For example, if you’ve told yourself that “all good men are taken,” then you’ve labeled the people coming to you as ‘left-overs’ even before they make their appearance!

Your pre-determined beliefs, which you may not even be conscious of, can be destructive.

Seven percent of communication is what you say, and the other 93 percent is non-verbal. That 93 percent screams your “personal truth,” what you really believe about yourself when nobody is looking. If you’re carrying baggage — insecurities, fear, desperation — people can tell.

So change the things you tell yourself about yourself, so that you can begin to attract the right man for marriage.

#3.  To attract the right man for marriage, you must recognize that you don’t have to be in a relationship to be whole  

To attract the right man for marriage, recognize that you don’t have to be in a relationship to be whole.

A lot of times, we are looking for something that we don’t have in ourselves.  We are looking for someone that has something we lack and need. As good as this may look, it is very dangerous.  Do you yearn to be married because you believe it will make you feel complete? Understand that marriage doesn’t complete you. If you think you need to be half of a couple to be all of who you are, you’re engaging in “wrong thinking.” You don’t need to be half of a couple to be complete.

It is much better to find wholeness and completeness in God.  That way, you are focused on your own contributions, rather on what you need.  It is often true that when you are complete in God all by yourself, you become more attractive and appealing to a broad range of personalities, including the type that you want!

Besides, it is better to be happy alone than sick with someone else. The most important relationship you have is the one you have with yourself.

#4.  To attract the right man for marriage, you must never act desperate

It can hardly be emphasized that desperation is a repulsive quality – it puts people off.  Don’t act desperate.

To attract the right man for marriage, don’t put pressure on yourself. You don’t have to be married. It’s not required.

Stop telling yourself you have to get a ring on your finger.

Send a message that you “want to” be in a relationship — not that you’ve “got to.”

Even if you hear your biological clock, it need not tick loudly enough for every eligible man to hear it!

Keep in mind that if you are desperate to get married, you could be giving out signals that are actually scaring away the opposite sex. Seven percent of communication is verbal and the other 93 percent is nonverbal. What kinds of nonverbal signals might you be sending out regarding commitment?

When you feel the pressure of time, you can make mistakes, overlook important details, or misjudge someone.

#5. To attract the right man for marriage, you must take time to define and clarify what you want or desire in a husband. 

It is  possible to attract what you want and not know it simply because you don’t understand your ‘want’.  One reason the men that approach you for marriage (apparently) are not the types you would want to marry, whereas the types you would love to marry seem not to notice you, is your ignorance of exactly what it is that you want!

So, in order to attract the right man for marriage, it is important to take time to define and clarify what you want or desire in a husband.

A lady once told me that the most important thing she desired in a would-be husband was he would let her continue to be a part of her church. She wanted someone that would not interfere with her ministry, responsibilities, and commitments to her church.  In short, someone that would give her room to be herself.

We were in a small group discussion when she said this and as the discussion went on, we inquired about the men that were already in the picture.  Of course, they were not her ‘type’ for several reasons.  Some were not from her state of origin.  Others were not sensitive or handsome enough.  But there was one particular guy that she said seemed the right man for marriage.  He had all the qualities except one – the guy lacked ‘drive’.

She wanted a guy that had drive.

Now, that was interesting because, as we reflected on the guys ‘lack of drive’, we couldn’t help wondering that this guy was a medical doctor and was aspiring to travel abroad to make some money.  I wondered out loud how possible it was for someone to accomplish what the guy had if he lacked drive!

And as we explored the guys so called ‘lack of drive’, we discovered that this was actually the one quality that she wanted the most in a man!  After all, wasn’t she also looking for a man that would allow her to be herself and continue to participate in her ministry? In other words, a man that wouldn’t mind her pursuing her own dreams – a quality she inaccurately described as lack of drive?

At the end of the day, all of us, and particularly the lady in question, realized that this guy was exactly what she was looking for!  She couldn’t recognize the fact because of her misunderstanding of the concept of ‘drive’.

To attract the right man for marriage, you must clearly understand exactly what it is that you want in a husband.

#6.  To attract the right man for marriage, you must avoid unrealistic, and utopian expectations.

Most ladies are unable to attract the right man for marriage because their expectations are unrealistic and utopian.

This is often as a result of a lack of understanding of what exactly it is that you want.  The lady in our discussion above actually had this problem too.  When she brought up the subject of drive – which by the way, as we found out, meant someone with a vision and passion to accomplish that vision – we pointed out to her that any man that possessed that quality she called ‘drive’ would not allow her to be herself and remain in her ministry!

In fact, it was that very quality she desired in the right man for marriage that this guy had – and she called it ‘lack of drive’!

In essence, her problem was that she wanted someone that was not in existence – a man who had drive (who was passionately committed to his vision), but who lacked ‘drive’ (who would accommodate non-commitment to that vision from his wife)!

Of course, she eventually realized that the guy actually had drive, or else he would not have gone through the rigors of medical school and was planning to expand his economic prospects by moving out of the country.

So her misconception of the meaning of ‘drive’ created in her an expectation of an impossible man!  This resulted in a form of blindness that prevented her from knowing that her dream man was already in her life.

In order to attract the right man for marriage, avoid unrealistic, conflicting, paradoxical, and utopian expectations.

#7.  To attract the right man for marriage, you must comport yourself with dignity.

Mind your signals.

Only 7 percent of communication is verbal. Become aware of the signals you are sending out.  Don’t send the wrong signals. Desperation, for example, comes through in non-verbal communication.

How you package yourself affects the kind of people that you attract.  For instance, there is a way you dress and you begin to send the signal, ‘I’m cheap…I’m available.’  Consequently, you begin to attract irresponsible and promiscuous personalities, in spite of yourself.

So be very careful about the kind of signals that are emanating from  you.

The issue of how you package yourself is therefore of paramount importance if you must attract the right man for marriage.

If you package yourself appropriately, you’ll begin to attract the kind of men that are compatible with what you want.

#8.  To attract the right man for marriage, you must move into the right ‘habitat’.

To attract the right man for marriage you must think about it this way: if you want to get a shark, where do you go to?

If you want to get a tiger, where do you go to?

So you must realize that where you are matters as far as who you attract is concerned.  It is easier to attract a shark in an ocean, than a tiger!

Lots of ladies don’t attract the right man for marriage because they are in the ‘wrong’ habitat.

To attract the right man for marriage, be in the right environment.

Decide what kind of person you’re looking for and put yourself in a target-rich environment.

If, for example, you’re looking for a man who loves the Lord, go to places that such people flourish.

And if you’re not looking for a drunk, don’t go to a bar to meet someone!

You must position yourself strategically if you want to attract the right man for marriage.

#9.  To attract the right man for marriage, you must develop the capacity to discern the ‘seed’ of the harvest.  

Life is ruled by the law of seed and harvest.

A lot of young ladies know exactly what they want in a man.  If you think of what they want as a ‘harvest’, you cannot help but wonder how many of them would recognize that harvest when it shows up on ‘seed’ form!

It is possible that you have been attracting the right men for marriage, only that they are coming in their ‘seed’ form.  In this case, the problem is that you are unable to discern the harvest in the seed.

Cultivate that powerful ability to recognize a guys potentials to be your dream man, even before those potentials become visible!

#10.  To attract the right man for marriage, you must never be quick to jump to conclusions 

Lots of ladies are simply not attracting the right men for marriage because of presumptuousness. They are very quick to jump to conclusions about the men that they meet.  They make judgments from far and often superficially.

It is possible that the qualities you want are actually present in the man, albeit potentially.  It is possible that these qualities are being beclouded by situations and circumstances.  In this case, it will require a more discerning and deeper examination to bring them to light.

So, be slow to jump to conclusions.

#11. To attract the right man for marriage, learn to go after what you want!

Research shows that so many ladies just wait for their dream man to come along without them even trying!

Some times the best way to attract the right man for marriage, is to go after him!

Smart ladies often go after what they want.

#12.  To attract the right man for marriage, cultivate a pleasant personality

To attract the right man for marriage, make out time to meet people – be more available.

Look at your life and ask yourself if you’re leaving time to meet someone.

Would someone have to throw himself on the hood of your car to cross paths with you and get your attention?

You might also want to check out this post:
3 Common Sense Keys To Attract Mr. Right


He was the 11th child in a polygamous home filled with strife and envy. Betrayed by his brothers, he was sold as a slave in a foreign land where he was eventually falsely accused by his master’s wife. This slander landed him in a prison.
Yet from the prison, he rose to become arguably the most powerful man of his time.
He was undoubtedly one of the wisest men that ever lived.

Sterling Accomplishments
Among his various accomplishments, two are quite outstanding:
By the application of divine wisdom and principles in leadership:
One, he created a food surplus that fed the entire world for seven years!1 And this was in the midst of famine.
Two, he bought over the entire human and material resources of a nation!2 He gained absolute dominion over an entire nation.
Joseph entered Egypt as a slave and eventually landed in prison.
However, by the application of the divine wisdom and principles in leadership, he became the master of an entire empire!2
It takes more than luck to achieve such feat.
How did he do it?

Principles are at work
Greatness is not the result of luck. It is the result of the accurate application of divine wisdom and principles in both personal and corporate leadership.
These principles are not obvious to the casual observer. People see the results, but they don’t understand the causes. There are principles at work in the life of any man or woman you see that has attained enviable status.
It is possible to live close to a wise man and be blind to his ways. You just believe he’s lucky. But what you fail to observe is that this man is operating in accordance with certain divine wisdom and principles.
There are principles at work.
Some people have eyes but they can’t see.
What are you learning? What are you observing?
It is possible to be around a great man as he is moving towards greatness and still remain in your smallness and tomorrow wake up to be a servant to someone that was once your classmate!
Are you observant?

So what were the secrets of Joseph?
What were the principles of divine wisdom that he applied thousands of years ago that took him from the prison to the palace?
There were 5 and I love to refer to them as the Polygon of Dominion


Foresight in Leadership
Foresight in leadership will always create distinction and dominion in life
And the seven years of famine began, just as Joseph had said…3

Foresight in leadership is the ability to clearly discern trends.
It is the perception of the significance and nature of events before they have occurred.
It is an awareness based on spiritual positioning that enables an individual know intuitively what is going to happen next.
It is a preview of a future reality that empowers an individual to take unique steps either to take advantage of coming opportunities or avoid danger.

Egypt had a different economic reality from the rest of the world because they had foresight in leadership. Joseph, a man of foresight, was put in charge.
The bible says that a people without vision perish.4
It’s talking about foresight! It’s talking about seeing far into the future, thinking ahead, planning ahead.
Individuals that can’t see into the future and plan ahead always perish. They exist in shame – they lack honour and dignity. But whenever you see an individual or a group of people that see far ahead and plan adequately, they will always be distinguished.

Individuals who have foresight will always lead others.
A man with foresight, a man who can see ahead and plan ahead will always dominate those who cannot see beyond their noses. For instance, a person who cannot see beyond his nose will always be going to someone who can see far to borrow money. People that lack foresight always serve those who do.
Do you have foresight? Can you see far? Can you look ahead? Can you think ahead? Can you plan ahead?

The Four Elements of Foresight in leadership .
Foresight in leadership is not magic. It is purely a function of four things – sight, light, position, and orientation.
The Sentinel of ancient times illustrates the elements and strategic importance of foresight. He was a special kind of guard that was constantly on the lookout for enemy movements and advances. They were specialy chosen individuals with good sight. Yet they were normally positioned at strategic points and heights such as would enable them see farther than normal. But they also turned their faces in certain directions. The news they brought were very critical to the decisions of entire armies and nations.
Let’s analyze these four elements:

A normal human being is supposed to be born with sight. So sight is essentially a gift from the Creator.
In reality, however, not everyone possesses sight. Sight is not the same as eyes – you can have eyes without sight. Whereas the eye is the faculty, sight is the ability. An eye without sight is a situation where the faculty is there, but the ability is not. This state is called blindness.
There are also those who have deficiencies in their sight. In this case, the faculty is impaired and so affects the ability negatively.
It is the same in the spiritual realms. You are supposed to have spiritual sight.
Foresight in leadership is an aspect of spiritual sight. It’s a gift. It’s an attribute of a normal spiritual existence. It borders on intuition. It is the ability to sense and feel things beyond the natural and immediate. It is essential for success and dominion.

But then, sight without light is useless.
There is no difference between a person with sight and a blind man if he has no light.
The greatest enemy of sight is night. And the best friend of sight is light.
In the spiritual realm, the constituents of darkness are – satan, sin, and ignorance. These will fight sight anywhere and at anytime. And they can incapacitate sight as they continue to do to millions of people today. When people have sight but can’t see, then darkness is at work. It means that satan, or sin, or ignorance, or a combination of these is at work.
Light, however remains the greatest enemy of night. That is why the acquisition of light is your greatest weapon of victory over darkness – Satan, sin, and ignorance. The more light you have, the less power these have over you.

And what is this light?
It is the Word of God5.
The word of God is inclusive of (a) the revelation of the Holy Spirit in the human heart, (b) the Holy Scriptures, (c) the divine wisdom and principles of the universe, and (d) the laws of nature. These are all dimensions of the word of God. The more of these you are acquainted with, the more foresight in leadership you will have, and the more success you experience.

Position will always amplify the output of sight and light.
Men do not light a candle and put it under a bushel.6
A city set on a hill cannot be hidden.7
Position affects the sphere of sight. A certain position will give you a better view of the terrain than another. Position is a relational word. It defines where you are with respect to certain specific coordinates, or with respect to where every other things or persons are.
There are two primary points in the spiritual divide – the flesh and the spirit. Your position is described in relationship with these two coordinates. A man of the spirit is someone whose mental and thought processes are in perfect alignment with divine wisdom and principles. A man of the flesh is someone whose mental and thought processes are out of harmony with the governing laws of the universe.
Contrary to religious thoughts, spirituality has nothing to do with religious affiliations or rituals. It rather has to do with mental alignments and priorities. The mind determines spirituality.8
When your mind is aligned with the principles that shaped the universe, you are truly spiritual. Otherwise, it is carnal.
The alignment of your mind determines what you receive from the realms of the spirit! Success comes from above. Greatness is the product of releases from the supernatural and invisible realms. And the alignment of your mind is a critical factor that determines what and how much you receive.9
The mind determines spirituality. And foresight in leadership is a function of spirituality.

Orientation is related to position but it has more to do with direction – decisions, priorities.
One dictionary defined foresight as the act of looking forward.
Some people are oriented towards the past and present. In other words, the happenings of the past and present determine their decisions. They are locked in either the past or the present. So they are not able to respond to shifts in the system talk less of anticipating coming ones. It is easier to have foresight in leadership when you are oriented towards the future and difficult when all you can think about is yesterday and today.
Dr. Edward Banfield of Harvard University, after more than 50 years of research, concluded that ‘long-time perspective’ is the most accurate single predictor of upward social and economic mobility. Long time perspective turns out to be more important than family background, education, race, intelligence, connections or virtually any other single factor in determining your success in life and at work.
Successful people have a clear future orientation.10 They think five, ten and twenty years out into the future. They analyze their choices and behaviours in the present to make sure that they are consistent with the long-term future that they desire.
In your work, having a clear idea of what is really important to you in the long-term makes it much easier for you to make better decisions about your priorities in the short-term.

This long time perspective gained from foresight in leadership is the first dimension of the polygon of dominion. It is the first secret of Joseph.


Self Control In Leadership

Self Control in leadership is essential for wealth and dominion in life.
This food should be held in reserve …11

Success has ruined more people than failure!
Most people are so carried away by the euphoria of present success and good tide – such as favorable public opinion or financial windfall – that they act in ways that reverse and negate whatever gains they might have made.
Lack of self control in leadership and sobriety can reverse your fortunes in an instant! It can plunge you back to square one in a twinkle of an eye.
Your moment of glory, triumph and success is one of your most vulnerable moments. You are more likely to make wrong decisions at such times. This is why you must be careful.

Sobriety is an element of self control in leadership.
This is why the bible exhorts us to be sober and encourages a sound mind.12
A sober mind is critical for success.13
Excitement is good, but learn how to hold yourself. Learn how to control your emotions. Don’t become a victim of your own feelings. Learn to be calm, cool, and calculated, particularly in your moments of success. This is the attitude of masters, people who dominate the world.

Delay Gratification.
Joseph advised that the benefits of the years of abundance be held in reserve for future use. This is another element of self control in leadership – the ability to delay gratification. It is essential for wealth and dominion in life.
In the excitement of the moment, most people tend to squander up all that they have. They erroneously believe that things will always be like that forever. That is wishful thinking which is misconstrued as faith. Because life operates in circles and seasons.14
This indiscipline – the inability to delay gratification – is mostly seen in the area of personal and corporate finances. The moment people get unexpected financial income or sudden financial favours, they immediately squander it all and deceive themselves into thinking that things will just get better on their own. This is a primary cause of poverty.

Self control in leadership is a product of choice. It is the decision and the ability to endure immediate pain, denial, inconvenience, and hardship in order to enjoy more lasting and more gratifying pleasures.
It is the second dimension of the polygon of dominion – Joseph’s second secret.


Prudence In Leadership

Prudence in leadership is a major key to achieving greatness in life
As soon as Joseph saw his brothers, he recognized them, but he pretended to be a stranger…15

He was careful.
He was cautious.
He was a reflective individual.
Compare him with his brothers who were careless and reckless.
The quality of prudence in leadership demands that you be a person of meditation, quietness, and reflection.

The accident of birth is not enough to shape your destiny.
It’s within your power of choice to reverse any disadvantages you might have come into this world with and prudence in leadership is a major key to achieving this.

Joseph was cautious in friendship.
This is an important aspect of prudence in leadership.16
He was not too trusting.
He typified the adage, “once beaten, twice shy.”
He took time to test people before trusting them.
He had no grudges against his brothers because he had discerned the higher purpose behind their actions.17 If anything, he was grateful to God for what they did. So he had forgiven them.
But, forgiveness has nothing to do with trust.
Forgiveness is a love gift. It is given.
Trust is a reward – it is earned.

You will never amount to much in life if you are too trusting of people.
Jesus Christ is a perfect illustration of this principle.18
Never never trust people you have not yet tested, no matter what they say or do. You must give enough time to testing people before you commit yourself and your valuable resources to them.

The Fig Tree Syndrome..19
Jesus was hungry. Seeing in the distance a fig tree in leaf, He went to find out if it had any fruit. When He reached it, He found nothing but leaves because it was not the season for figs. And He cursed it!
The fig tree in the bible is often used to represent peoples and nations. Just like the fig tree in this story, there are people that when you see from far, appear to be good, dependable, resourceful and so on. But when you come close and interact with them, you are sorely disappointed.
Observe that Jesus went to find out if it had any fruit.
Prudent people are fruit inspectors
Take time to inspect before you invest.
In building relationships, study before you connect. This will save you lots of heartache.
Prudence in leadership is the third dimension of the polygon of dominion – the third secret of Joseph.



Loyalty In Leadership

Loyalty in leadership is vital to greatness
Joseph collected all the money that was to be found in Egypt and Canaan in payment for the grain they were buying, and he brought it to Pharaoh’s palace…20


Men of loyalty, faithfulness, and integrity are rare.21
Joseph knew where his loyalty lay. He was accountable. He did not try to bite the finger that fed him. He didn’t abscond with the funds. He placed it where it belonged – at the feet of the man who believed in him and gave him the opportunity when he was nothing.

What do you do with the blessings of the Lord? What do you do with the praises that people give to you as a result of your performances?
Herod misplaced his loyalty and paid for it with his life – worms ate him up! 22

Loyalty in leadership demands that you appreciate the foundation of your power, advantages, and blessings. No building can survive a disconnection from its foundation. In the same way, you must remain connected to the roots of your power and privileges, otherwise you are nothing.
The truth of the matter is that you owe all of your resources – life, talents, skills, abilities, opportunities, connections, and positions – to God. How loyal are you? How accountable are you?
Joseph clearly understood the place of Loyalty in leadership.
It is the fourth dimension of the polygon of dominion. It was Joseph’s fourth secret.



Shrewdness In Leadership

Shrewdness in leadership is an indispensible virtue for success and dominion in life
When the famine had spread over the whole country, Joseph opened the storehouses and sold grain to the Egyptians…23


Observe what Joseph did with the food he saved. He sold them.
But to whom did he sell them?
His fellow countrymen! – the people that produced the savings.
Think about it.
He didn’t dash it to them. He sold it.

A classic example of shrewdness in leadership is found in the transaction between Jacob and Esau. Jacob practically said to Esau, “You want some food? You have to buy it.”24 Now, that’s shrewdness!
Do you want to create a surplus of wealth for yourself and future generations? Do you want to dominate your world and reign in life? Then you’ve got to cultivate the virtue of shrewdness in leadership.

Shrewdness in leadership is rooted in objective reasoning.
It is practical, hardheaded cleverness and judgment.
It means that your actions are not determined by your sentiments, but rather by your objectives.
Jacob was bent on obtaining the birth right. That was his goal and objective. And this goal was based on a dream – a divine dream.25 I don’t think he hated his brother. But shrewd men subject their feelings to their objectives. It appears mean and unkind, but that’s the attitude of greatness.

Joseph was bent on creating a surplus that will ensure that the nation of Egypt and the world are not destroyed by the famine. And this goal was based on a dream – a divine dream.26
What would have happened to the nation of Egypt and to the world if he had operated out of pity and sentiment and given away the food for free?
Many people think that they are being kind, whereas the truth is that they are being stupid and foolish. It is good to be generous. But generosity must be strategic, principle-based, and vision-oriented.  It must be based on divine wisdom and principles.

The Egyptians were producing the crops. Joseph was collecting and storing 20% of their harvest. And after 7 years when the famine started, he sold it back to them!
He sold their food back to them! Now, that takes a lot of wisdom and shrewdness in leadership.
He could do that because they weren’t learning from him. He was doing something in their midst. They had eyes but they couldn’t see it. They just gave Joseph 20% and squandered the rest!
There were 7 years of abundance but at the end of the seven years, these Egyptians had no food to eat! They had to now come to Joseph – a stranger that came to their land – to buy food. They should have been imitating Joseph if they had been smart. They should have thought, “Why is this man doing this thing? Ok let’s follow suit. While I give Joseph 20% let me keep 20% or 30% for myself. How is Joseph storing it? Let me build a storehouse for myself.” No. They were simply carried away by the abundance of the moment and they paid for it with their liberty – they ended up as slaves to Joseph and Pharoah!

Jesus commended shrewdness.27
An important principle of shrewdness in leadership revealed here is this: Use what you have to acquire what you need.
That was what Jacob did with Esau. He used his position of advantage to obtain the birthright.
Don’t squander your advantages, don’t waste your resources. Put them to strategic use.
Shrewdness in leadership is the fifth dimension of the polygon of dominion – the fifth secret of Joseph.

These five secrets enabled a mere slave, a prisoner in a strange land, to gain mastery and dominion over an entire nation. Study them. Master them. Then apply them in all aspects of your life. It will deliver dominion to you too; dominion over your own spheres.

1Genesis 41:54 2Genesis 47:18-21 3Genesis 41:53 4Proverbs 29: 18a 5Psalm 36:9; 119:105,130; John 1:4 6Matthew 5:15 7Matthew 5:14 8Romans 12:2; Colossians 3:1,2 91 Corinthians 2:14 10Isaiah 46:10; Philippians 3:13; Hebrews 12:2. Observe how God, Jesus Christ, and the Apostle Paul all possess a clear future orientation. 11Genesis 41:36 12Titus 2:6; I Peter 1:13; 5:8 13Romans 12:3; II Timothy 1:7 14Genesis 8:22 15Genesis 42:6-9 16Proverbs 12:26 17Genesis 50:20 18John 2:23-25 19Mark 11:12-14 20Genesis 47:14 21Proverbs 20:6 22Acts 12: 21-23 23Genesis 41:56,57 24Genesis 25:29-34 25Genesis 25: 21-23 26Genesis 41:28-31 27Luke 16: 1-8


Success Habits

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Success Habits


Success Habits will fill your life with success and free you from stress.


Living is like a game, a journey, a race, a battle.

Consequently you either succeed or fail in it.

You either win or lose in it.

So it demands specific skills, what I’ll refer to as Success Habits.


Success Habits are behavioural patterns based on the principles of God’s word and the immutable laws of the universe that while maximizing the pleasures of living, minimizes suffering in life.


If you master these Success Habits your life will be full of success and free from stress.


The more of these Success Habits you master, the faster you succeed and the happier you become in life.



Success Habit #1:  Patience



Patience is an important Success Habit.


Hebrews 6:12

We do not want you to become lazy, but to imitate those who through faith and patience inherit what has been promised.


Patience is clearly an important Success Habit because it guarantees and enhances the output of faith.


Life is a marathon, not a sprint race.

Hence, you need Patience, not just intelligence.

Champions possess Patience.

Patience is an important Success Habit.


Proverbs 19:2b

…nor to be hasty and miss the way


Proverbs  21:5b

…as surely as haste leads to poverty.


Impatience is costly.

Your greatest mistakes will happen because of impatience.

Most businesses, ventures, and enterprises that fail do so because of lack of preparation and time.


Great businesses do not happen overnight.

‘Rome was not built in a day.’


Patience is essential for success.

It is a Success Habit.

So develop the habit of Patience.




Success Habit # 2:  Listening



Listening is a very important Success Habit.


Proverbs 17:27, 28

A man of knowledge uses words with restraint, and a man of understanding is even-tempered.

Even a fool is thought wise if he keeps silent, and discerning if he holds his tongue.



Benefits of Listening


‘A good listener is not only popular, but after a while he knows something’ – Wilson Mizner


82% of people prefer to talk to people who are great listeners, not great speakers.

People appreciate, respect, and value others who are great listeners.


‘A bore is a person who talks when you wish him to listen.’ – Ambrose Bierce


‘Knowledge speaks, but wisdom listens.’ – Jimi Hendrix


According to Linda Eve Diamond, author of the book, ‘Rule #1: STOP TALKING! – A Guide to Listening,  listening offers the following benefits:

Listening broadens us,

Lays the groundwork for peace,

Elevates the quality of our relationships,

Opens the way to success.

If nothing else, when you listen, you’ll find you are the most popular person in the room.



Listening is an art. 


It is a skill.  It is a very important success habit.


“Most of us think we’re born listeners just because our ears work. That’s like saying you are a born pianist because your family had a piano in the house.”

– Linda Eve Diamond


In other words, you have to LEARN to listen.

PRACTICE until you PERFECT listening.


You were given two ears as opposed to one mouth so that you can listen twice as much as you talk.


Listen for sounds and voices that are not audible.

Listen to what people are not saying.


“The most important thing in communication is to hear what isn’t being said.’ – Peter Drucker


Most people simply listen to the words that are being said to them, but words contain only 10% of the message. The remaining 90% is hidden in the body language and the tone of voice. Understanding body language can help you look beyond what people say to what they really mean.


Listening is respecting another person’s right and need to express himself/herself.

Listening is searching for inspiration in information and sounds


Listening is a very important Success Habit.


There is a time to talk.  There is a time to listen.

Insist on listening more than you talk.


John 21:5

He called out to them, “Friends, haven’t you any fish?”

Jesus assumed nothing.

He pursued information.

Ask questions, then listen.


Barriers to effective listening


What you ‘know’

You are looking for ‘confirmation’ not ‘information’.

What you know is often the greatest barrier to what you can and what you should know.


Information is the difference between your present and your future.



Important Keys towards Listening


Stop Talking!

If you are talking, you are not listening.

If you are thinking intently about what you want to say, you are not listening to what is being said.


Hold Your Judgements

Allow for a thoughtful pause between reacting, a space in which to ask yourself, “Do I have the whole story?”


Avoid Generalising

People are unique.


Ask Questions

Try to ask for clarifications on what the person is saying.  It aids the listening habit.



Are you listening to God?

Are you listening to nature?

Are you listening to the Holy Spirit?

Are you listening to your spouse?  To your customers?  To your children?

Your teachers?  Your staff?  Your parents?


Begin to day to practice listening.

It is a very important success habit.



Success Habit #3:  Generosity



Generosity is a very important Success Habit.


Here is what the bible has to say about generosity:


Proverbs 11:24:

There is that scattereth, and yet increaseth; and there is that withholdeth more than is meet, but it tendeth to poverty.  [KJV]

Proverbs 11:25

A generous man will prosper: he who refreshes others will himself be refreshed.

Proverbs 19:6

Many curry favor with a ruler, and everyone is the friend of a man who gives gifts.

Ecclesiastes 11:1

Give generously, for your gifts will return to you later.  [TNLTB]


And here are somethings said by some great minds on the subject:


“In the same way that the magnet subtly draws iron to itself, so the gold and silver that a man gives attract the hearts of men.”


“We’re all generous, but with different things, like time, money, talent – criticisms.” – Frank A. Clark.


“Complete possession is proved only by giving.  All you are unable to give possesses you” – Andra Gide


“Giving is the only proof that you have overcome greed” – Mike Murdock.



Generosity is clearly a very important success habit.


Benefits of Generosity


1.       Generosity leads to prosperity.


2.       Generosity is probably the greatest key to influence.


Man looks at the outward. 

Man is influenced by what can be seen, touched, and felt. 

Until our love becomes tangible, it has no impact.


What is the use of following and serving a God who does not care about your needs?

What is the use of being in a ministry that cares nothing about your needs?

In short, what do I gain by following you?

People do not ask these questions consciously, of course, but it influences their decisions and actions at a very subconscious level.


There is no way you can demonstrate love and care without generosity.

We don’t care how much you know until we know how much you care.


Generosity  has very specific advantages for the man who desires to make his mark among his fellowmen.

It attracts people, softens them up, and makes friends out of them.





Be Generous!


Luke 16:9

I tell you, use your worldly resources to benefit others and make friends. In this way, your generosity stores up a reward for you in heaven.[3]The New Living Translation Bible.


Jesus is here encouraging generosity.

But He is also saying that you must be strategic in your generosity.

Being strategic with your gifts implies that you have to do more than just give. 

It implies the following:

1. Give in a way that meets genuine and desperate needs of individuals.  It means that you should not just give, put some thought into the gift. 

2. Give in a way that gives you influence.  Generosity softens people up.  Yes it does!

Generosity gives you direct access to the power of influence.

By strategically spreading your wealth, you add value to the lives of others, creating pleasure and making valuable friends.

Don’t just give your money away.  Use your money to solve problems, to make people happy, to add value to their lives, and ultimately to gain influence.




The best use for your money is not in buying things but in buying hearts.


What has worth is worth paying for.

And nothing has as much worth as the heart of people. 

The most important treasure to God is the heart of people.

The best thing you can give God is people!

In dealing with people, be lavish with your money and keep it circulating.

The best use for your money is not in buying things but in buying hearts.

Generosity is a demonstration of love.

It generates power and influence.

Powerful people give freely, buying influence rather than things. 



Stingy souls will never be great.


Proverbs 11:24:

There is that scattereth, and yet increaseth; and there is that withholdeth more than is meet, but it tendeth to poverty.  [KJV]


Stingy souls will never be great.

They will never have influence. 

They are unnattractive. 

They are repulsive and elicit resentment from their fellow human beings.

Stinginess is the direct result of the ‘love of money’

The love of money is the root of all evil, and poverty is one of the greatest evils. 

So love of money is the root of poverty. 

This is because the love of anything makes you cling to it and hoard it. 

And when you do that with money you tend to poverty!

Millions today are held in the evil grip of poverty because of their refusal to use money creatively and strategically.

They wonder why they are poor.



Generosity will fetch loyalty much faster than intimidation or manipulation.


Proverbs 19:4,7.

4Wealth maketh many friends; but the poor is separated from his neighbour

7All the brethren of the poor do hate him: how much more do his friends go far from him? he pursueth them with words, yet they are wanting to him.


Generosity is the fastest assess to greatness.

There is no room for the stingy in the congregation of the great.

Generosity pays great dividends in the end.

Generosity will fetch loyalty much faster than intimidation or manipulation.


Wealth gives its possessor the ability to give pleasure to others.  The more you can do this, the more you attract admiration.

Whoever wants to have friends must not love his possessions but must acquire friends by means generosity.

In the same way that the magnet subtly draws iron to itself, so the gold and silver that a man gives attract the hearts of men.



The use is more important than the amount.


What matters is not the amount you have.

 What matters is how you use it.

Powerful people give freely, buying influence rather than things. 

If you accept the inferior position of always having to receive because you have no fortune yet, you may find yourself in it forever. 

So imagine yourself as much a rich man as any on the planet – because you are! 

You are a god!

Give freely, open your doors, circulate the little that you have, and consequently transform wealth into influence.



Often to secure and multiply your wealth you have to ‘waste’ it.


Supernatural Healing

 I promised you, dear Lord,

After you healed me,

To tell the story around the world.

“If you tell it around the world,”

You said,

“I’ll heal them around the world too!!”

Here’s the story Lord.

Do the rest!

Wildfire Divine Favour




To all of you who have been diagnosed of an incurable disease.

Don’t lose hope.

Rise and be healed!


I wrote this book for you.



I don’t know how the disease started. 

I was too small when it manifested in my body, too small to know when or how it began.  All I knew was that I had a kind of Asthma which the doctors described as acute and which grew worse as I grew older.


My grandfather, it was said, died at a relatively young age of asthma and I believe that the asthma in my life was an ancestral spirit transferred genetically down the line to me.  However, or whenever it came, the fact was that I had a very terrible, torturing disease that made my childhood, adolescent and teenage years very miserable and intolerable.

Besides, when I was barely 1 year and 6 months, my parents took me to an open air evangelistic rally and one of those nights it rained so heavily and having no place to run into, the rain beat down so heavily upon my frail and yet tender body.  The result was that I developed a form of bronchi pneumonia that was classified as chronic.


So I grew up very sick and as often happens in such cases, other ailments found their way into my body – like the intestinal problem; they called it intestinal obstruction.


Then my joints became infected and it became increasingly difficult to kneel for long periods of time without getting cramps in my legs and knees.  This experience was so painful I would scream again and again. My mother who was ever so close would become overwhelmed with sorrow and I could see her eyes well up with tears.  Most of those periods, it would take some time, prayer, and effort to get me to move normally again and be free from the pains.  At other times I would simply have to be rushed to the hospital where I would be admitted for days.


Then there was the acute form of malaria that necessitated my taking anti-malaria drugs every other week.


As I look back over those years of pain and suffering, I wonder which one of the ailments I dreaded and feared the most.  It is very difficult to determine as each of them came with its own peculiar pain, torture, and misery.  The stomach ailment caused me so much pain that I took more drugs than I can remember.  Most of the times I had to open the capsules and drink the powdery contents, or chew it if it was a tablet so as to hasten its operation.  I would be in such pain and be screaming.  Sometimes I just passed out into unconsciousness because of the pain and screaming.  Then my parents would rush me to the hospital where I would be admitted.


Once, when I was in the Junior Seminary, the pains in the stomach erupted so suddenly that our English teacher – God bless his soul – had to rush me to the hospital in his car.  I screamed all through and vomited all over his car.  Of course, I was instantly admitted and my parents had to be brought in.  Such incidents, matter of fact, were very regular.  In fact, the emergency ward of the hospital became like a second home!


Life was so unbearable.  It was a story of pains, sickness, and agony.  It was a history of hospitals, drugs, admissions, x-rays, and so on.




Yet I cannot think of any of those infirmities that tortured and terrified me more than that asthma.  I dreaded because it often attacked without warning and viciously; I still wonder how I managed to live through it all.


The experience was horrible.  It was as though some invisible suction tube was used to suck all the air out of the world.  Imagine being in a place where there was no air.  I would struggle to breathe, desperately gasping for breath, clasping to life, struggling to survive.  At such moments every air I succeed in taking into my lungs caused so much pain and suffering I wondered if it were not better that I just stopped breathing and die.  It was as if a comb made of tiny and sharp metal pricks was being used to scratch my heart; the pain was as though coals of fire were burning my heart.  I still can’t describe it in details.  Those around me could hear the wheezing sound as I struggled to breathe, every air that passes through making as it were a whistling sound.

It was simply horrible.


The doctors that were treating me placed me under so much restriction that I hated life.  I was eventually stopped from riding my bicycle which I loved riding so much and which my dad bought for me as a reward for my obedience. 

There were two special medical reports regulating everything from my diet to my activities.  It was just like being in a prison, cut off from all the fun and tortured by pain and agony, harassed by diseases described by doctors as incurable.


I remember, once, after a very terrible asthmatic attack, one in which I had nearly lost my life, I was admitted in the hospital.  My mother sat by my bedside and watched as I took my drugs so dutifully, faithfully, and obediently.  Her eyes were filled with tears as she watched me.  She was later to sit like that for years to come both in hospital wards and in the dining table watching me take drugs and shedding tears as she did so.  In fact, I often wondered what was going through her mind at such times.  She told me later that as she watched me take those drugs – and I took quite some plenty, an average of ten tablets per meal – she would silently ask God in her heart, “How long, O God?  How long would this boy suffer like this?  How long will he continue to take hundreds of drugs like he’s doing?”  What gave her much heartache, as she said later, was the faithfulness and loyalty with which I took those drugs.  She said the sight of it broke her heart and moved her to tears.

After the particular asthmatic attack that I was narrating earlier on, my mum asked the doctor, “Is there no hope for this boy?  Is there no permanent cure for this sickness?  When will this end?”  The doctor made a statement which I overheard and which haunted me for years and which was the basis of the feelings of hopelessness and depression that afflicted me in my adolescent and teenage years; feelings that led to seven attempted suicides.  He said, “Once an asthmatic patient, always an asthmatic patient.”  I was like a man stabbed through the chest.  I felt doomed, and hopeless.


That doctor said they were doing the best they could and if I only followed their regulations and prescriptions, the problems would be fairly contained.  So here I was sentenced to a life of pain and agony.   I had nothing much to look forward to, other than painful asthmatic attacks, intestinal obstructions, knee cramps, drugs, admissions and their likes. 

I loved that doctor because he was caring and really did his best.  As a matter of fact, I’m yet to see over all these years another doctor like him.  And he seemed to know how to bring temporary relief to me each time I was rushed to the hospital and I was ever so grateful.  He was an expert on children and such afflictions as I had and I believe that if anyone could have cured me, it would have been him.

He did his best, but it was not enough, and I became discouraged, depressed, and hopeless.


The Change Begins


After I gave my heart to Jesus and experienced the new birth, I was so excited about it all that for some time I didn’t really mind the asthma.  It still came and went.  I still took my drugs dutifully and faithfully.  I knew that God had power to heal but strangely enough, it simply didn’t occur to me to ask Him to heal me or that He would even heal me.  It just didn’t seem to be my priority at that time.  I was simply too excited to be born-again that every other thing just faded into insignificance.


But, as I studied the bible on that fateful day, August 25th 1991, I came to that particular verse which was destined to alter my life so dramatically especially in the area of my health.  I read that,


“If anyone is IN CHRIST, he is a NEW CREATION; the OLD has GONE, the NEW has COME!” – 2 Corinthians 5:17


I was inextricably glued to that verse and I couldn’t help but ask in my heart if this newness only applied to the area of my morality, that is, my lifestyle, behaviour, desires, and appetites.  “What of the area of my health?”  I mused.  In my life, the OLD included asthma, pneumonia, intestinal infirmity, acute malaria, and knee cramps.  I wondered if they were among the things that were GONE.

Try as much as I could, I couldn’t push those thoughts out of my mind and somewhere from deep within me, the answer came – YES!  That inner voice which I now know to be the Holy Spirit told me that my sicknesses have all gone.  The asthma was gone and so were the rest.




I wouldn’t say that I prayed for healing, yet in a profound and inexplicable, yet very simple way, I KNEW that I was healed.  I KNEW that I was never going to have another attack of asthma or be admitted in any hospital again.


The covenant with sickness was broken.


I was healed!


I was overwhelmed and deeply moved.  It was a consciousness that was joyful but very sober and solemn.  Tears of joy and gratitude filled my heart and flowed profusely.  I was actually healed.  There was no shadow of doubt anywhere.  I went to my room, to the place where my drugs were kept and put them all into a polythene bag.  I was alone in the house.  I also got hold of my two medical reports.  The former I threw away while I burnt the later.  I just knew I was never going to need them again.  The OLD has GONE!  The NEW has COME!


I never told my parents or any other person what I did.  I watched myself as days turned into weeks and weeks into months. I ate everything I had been forbidden to eat and did everything I was forbidden to do.  It was actually like another new birth experience.

No more drugs, no more hospitals, and no more pains. 


I was free!


Five months later, I told my parents what had happened.  I told them that I wasn’t taking any more drugs and that I was violating the doctors’ regulations.  First, they were alarmed and shocked.  But as I narrated the experience and mentioned the fact that it had occurred five months earlier, they became amazed and were filled with joy.


It’s been sixteen years now as I write. 

Till date, my mum still pauses to stare at me puzzled.  Many times she will express her amazement, “Just to think,” she would say at such times, “that you no longer take drugs.”


What a mighty God we serve.

Heaven and earth adore Him.

Angels bow before Him.

He is faithful and true to His word.

What He says He is well able to perform.


Truly, if anyone, anyone at all, regardless of experiences, background, or race, is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come. 


Things are different now and I’m no longer who I used to be.

Blessed be the Name of the Lord.








Maybe, you too are afflicted in one way or another.  May be you are right now lying down on some hospital bed wondering where your help is going to come from.

Maybe, the experts have told you that your case is incurable and that there is nothing medical science can do for you.


Well, they maybe right in saying that medical science cannot do much for you at this point.  And that is why this book is in your hands!

To link you with the greatest doctor of all times!!

His name is Dr. Jesus Christ!

He is the greatest physician and with Him, nothing is impossible.

With Him, no disease is incurable!


Please, realize that in Jesus Christ, no case is hopeless. 

Yes, in Him we find newness and freshness. 

In Him there is real and lasting freedom. 


Don’t give up!

Believe in God’s word and His power to heal you of any afflictions.

Is it AIDS?

Is it cancer?

Is it diabetes?

Is it asthma?

The name doesn’t matter at all.

What matters is this – Jesus Christ has the power and wants to deliver you out of that condition.


I look back over the years of pain and I do realize that though satan afflicted me with painful infirmities, God allowed it because He knew He would turn it around into a testimony to His glory.  He performed that miracle in my body sixteen years ago to bring glory to Himself.  And that is the primary reason I’m writing this book – to bring glory to God.

I want the world to behold the power, the love, the mercy, and the glory of God.

He is great.  Our God is awesome and He does great, mighty, and marvelous things.  There is no one like Him, no other God besides Him.


Beyond that, however, I want you to know that if He did it for me, He can and will also do the same for you if you believe.  This is also why this book is written – to duplicate my testimonies in countless other lives throughout the world and through all succeeding generations.


I have now traveled far and wide.  I have conducted more crusades, healing and miracle services than I can remember.  I have seen all manners of miracles happen through the name of Jesus Christ as I shared my testimony and spoke about the name of Jesus Christ.

Blind eyes have opened!  The lame have walked!  The deaf have heard!

I have seen cancer disappear!

I have watched in amazement as AIDS vanished from their victims!

I have seen diabetes lose its evil grip on its victims!

I have seen literally hundreds of healings and miracles!


And I am convinced of one thing, GOD HAS NOT CHANGED!

He’s still the same today as He’s always been.

I wrote this book to tell you that you too can be healed!



In the following section, I will outline to you steps from God’s word that will enable you tap into the healing power of Jesus Christ and experience freedom from all diseases and sicknesses.








I believe you will understand me now when I say that 2Corinthians 5:17 has become a very significant and cardinal scripture in my life. 

It’s like a part of me, as though those words flow in my blood stream.  It has become a kind of anchor rock for my life.

And it’s a very powerful scripture – a miracle verse!

Read it again.


“If anyone is IN CHRIST, he is a NEW CREATION; the OLD has GONE, the NEW has COME!” – 2 Corinthians 5:17



I continually meditate on that scripture as well as the miraculous healing that God performed in my life.  I can’t get over it.  I can’t forget it.  I’m forever grateful to God for delivering me.  What amazes me the most, however, are the higher, and I believe, more enduring results of that miracle.  Yes, I’m free from pain, I’m strong, healthy and so I can do my work more effectively and with greater joy.  Yet the greatest benefits of that miracle are spiritual.


First of all, it has strengthened my faith in the word of God. 

Many people seem to have no problem accepting whatever they read in the bible.  They simply believe it is God speaking and that settles it.  For others like me, however, it has not always been that easy.  I must confess that as my mental faculties developed and my reasoning abilities increased, it became very difficult to accept what is written in the bible as the word of God.

Maybe this has happened to you.

Perhaps, it is still happening to you. 

You might even be too ‘super-spiritual’ to admit it, so you repress it.  But it is a very real feeling and satan can capitalize on it to haunt you with guilt.  Yet, you must face it and allow God to minister His grace to you to overcome every form of intellectual doubt, everything that contradicts the knowledge of God in your life.


In spite of my very religious background, I found myself being assailed by doubts regarding the divinity of the Holy Scriptures.  At such moments, however, I would reflect over the miraculous healing that occurred in my body and how the miracle took place.  How could the mere reading of and acceptance of a simple statement in the pages of the bible produce such a wonderful transformation in my body?  How could 2Corinthians 5:17 completely and permanently remove five terrible diseases which several doctors had labored to remove for seventeen years without any real success?  What is it about that passage that cured diseases said to be incurable?


If that verse is true – and I know it is because its validity manifested in the total healing of my body – then every other statement of God’s Holy Scriptures is true.  I can accept it.  I can stake my entire life on the integrity of the word of God.

And so can you.

You can read any passage in the bible, and if you will accept it with all of your heart and act upon it, it will deliver its promises to you.


Daily, as I meditate on 2Corinthians 5:17 and the healing of my body, my faith in God’s word grows in leaps and bounds.  The speed and completeness with which I accept scriptural statements has also been on the increase and consequently, I am experiencing manifestations of God’s promises in increasing measures in various aspects of my life.


I may not know you in person and we may never meet here on earth, but if I am allowed to give you just one message, I will tell you God’s Word is true.  Believe it!

Please do.

Don’t allow the philosophies and logic of men to rob you of the vibrant, life-giving, miracle-working power of the simple word of God.  I feel like standing on the tallest skyscraper and screaming to the inhabitants of the earth that God’s word works!  I wish I were standing in the pulpit of every Church, in the privacy of every home and telling all men and women everywhere, God’s word really, really works!








1.      Don’t focus on being healed. 


Focus on the Healer – Jesus Christ.  A lot of people make a god out of their condition, unwittingly worshipping it.  This is very wrong.  You are transformed by focus.  You become what you behold.  So rather than focusing on the pain and trying to remove it, focus on Jesus Christ, the Healer.


Numbers 21:8-9

The LORD said to Moses, “Make a snake and put it up on a pole; anyone who is bitten can look at it and live.  So Moses made a bronze snake and put it up on a pole.  Then when anyone was bitten by a snake and looked at the bronze snake, he lived.


John 3:14-15

Just as Moses lifted up the snake in the desert, so the son of Man must be lifted up, that everyone who believes in him may have eternal life.


When the people were bitten by the snake, they were not to look at their symptoms or complain about how bad the pain was.  They were not to look at Moses either.  They were rather to look at the bronze serpent mounted in the desert – which symbolizes Jesus Christ in His work on the cross.


4Surely he took up our infirmities

and carried our sorrows,

yet we considered him stricken by God,

smitten by him, and afflicted.

5But he was pierced for our transgression,

he was crushed for our iniquities;

the punishment that brought us

peace was upon him,

and by his wounds we are healed.

– Isaiah 51: 4,5.


Jesus Christ is the Healer.

So remove your focus from the pain and the sickness.  Focus it on the Lord Jesus Christ.  Believe in Him and trust that He has power and that He is willing to heal you.  And He will.


2.      Mind your atmosphere. 


Surround yourself with a positive environment. 


(i)      Surround yourself with people who believe in miracles, who are full of faith, and who have a positive mind. 

Often times, people’s conditions are worsened and many have eventually died as a result of pessimistic doctors and medical personnel.  I don’t care how good or skillful a doctor is, if he or she is not positive minded, look for another if you can afford it. 


The same applies to relations, and any other person for that matter.  If they do not believe in a bright future for you, if they are confessing doom and death, then politely request them to stay away until you recover!


(ii)    Surround yourself with pictures, and words, which build your faith. 

You become what you behold.

Get pictures that represent and express positive faith.  Hang it in the walls around you.  Get scripture verses on healing and memorize them and keep confessing them to yourself every now and then.  (I included some in No. 4 below.  Memorize them and confess them daily.)


(iii)   Surround yourself with books, tapes, and teachings on faith and healing. 

This includes testimonies from magazines and other writings of men of God.  It may not necessarily be on the subject of healing, but if must be on faith building subjects.  It will also be good to get worship and praise tapes and be listening to them.  All of these create a positive atmosphere that is conducive for healing and speedy recovery.



3.      Believe in the Lord Jesus Christ as your Lord and Personal Saviour.


Healing is one of the benefits of salvation and the new birth.


If you haven’t consciously surrendered your life to Jesus Christ and submitted to His Lordship over you, then follow the outlined steps below. 


Repent of your sins. 

Acts 20:21

21I have declared to both Jews and Greeks that they must turn to God in repentance and have faith in our Lord Jesus.


Believe in the life, death, and resurrection of Jesus Christ. 

John 20:30,31

30And many other signs truly did Jesus in the presence of his disciples, which are not written in this book:

31But these are written, that ye might believe that Jesus is the Christ, the Son of God; and that believing ye might have life through his name.

Acts 16:31

31And they said, Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved, and thy house.


Surrender your life totally to Jesus Christ. 

Job 22:21

21Submit to God and be at peace with him; in this way prosperity will come to you.

Romans 10:9-13

9That if you confess with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.

10For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you confess and are saved.

11As the Scripture says, “Anyone who trusts in him will never be put to shame.”

12For there is no difference between Jew and Gentile – the same Lord is Lord of all and richly blesses all who call on him,

13for, “Everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved.”


Be baptized in water into the name of Jesus Christ. 

Acts 2:38

38Then Peter said unto them, Repent, and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins, and ye shall receive the gift of the Holy Ghost.


Live in accordance with His word and commands. 

Acts 26:19,20

19“So then, King Agrippa, I was not disobedient to the vision from heaven.

20First to those in Damascus, then to those in Jerusalem and  in all Judea, and to the Gentiles also, I preached that they should repent and turn to God and prove their repentance by their deeds.


If you have met these conditions, Jesus Christ is the Lord of your life.

If not, then make sure you do it immediately.




4.      Meditate on these promises of God.


Exodus 15:26

He said, “If you listen carefully to the voice of the LORD your God and do what is right in his eyes, if you pay attention to his commands and keep all his decrees, I will not bring on you any of the diseases I brought on the Egyptians, for I am the LORD, who heals you.


2 Kings 20:5

This is what the LORD, the God of your father David, says:  I have heard your prayer and seen your tears;  I will heal you.


Psalm 103:3

Who forgives all your sins and heals all your diseases.


Psalm 147:3

He heals the broken hearted and binds up their wounds.


Isaiah 53:5:

But he was wounded for our transgressions, he was bruised for our iniquities: the chastisement of our peace was upon him; and with his stripes we are healed.



Isaiah 58:8

Then your light will break forth like the dawn, and your healing will quickly appear;  then your righteousness will go before you, and the glory of the LORD will be your rear guard.


Jeremiah 17:14

Heal me, O LORD, and I will be healed;  save me and I will be saved, for you are the one I praise.


Jeremiah 30: 27

‘But I will restore you to health and heal your wounds,’ declares the LORD


Malachi 4:2

But for you who revere my name, the sun of righteousness will rise with healing in its wings.  And you will go out and leap like calves released from the stall.


III John 1:2:

Beloved, I wish above all things that thou mayest prosper and be in health, even as thy soul prospereth


5.      Make these confessions daily.


By His wounds, I AM HEALED!

I shall not die.  I shall live to declare the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living!


6.      Appreciate God for what blessings you already have in your life. 

I believe that a grateful heart and a grateful mouth is one of the most powerful means of unlocking and releasing God’s healing into our lives.





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