Sometimes You Need To Cry…

Tear drops.

Its not bad to cry after all.
In the quietness of your own solitude, its ok to let the tears flow.
Become a baby again. Lean on the shoulders of your own soul and find comfort in your own freedom to be you…to be true to your own feelings and emotions.
Its all about acceptance, the openness and courage to be transparent, not to others but to your own self. To look into your inner being without fear and confront what you see.
To face the pains…face the fears.
To face the hurts, the disappointments, the betrayals…

Then loneliness can be a friend.
It can be embraced with expectation.
The expectation of adventure and discovery…
Yes there’s the fear as you go through the corridors of your own mind…as you view the gallery of your memories…the museum of past experiences and your own interpretations of their meanings.
Broken dreams…broken hopes.
Joys…smiles…happiness…fleeting pleasures…
Faces…
They all seem to come alive, each full of tales, each full of songs.

Time slows down to the rhythm of the soul…almost still
The moment is sacred because it’s unique and only you can experience it. The joys cannot be shared…neither can the calm sadness. It’s within..it’s a tale of the sanctity of who you really are.
It’s the place only you can be, only you have been; and it’s so because only you can understand it.

Sounds mean very little here…it’s so spiritual. It’s true reality.
Human voices become sacrilegious…
The pictures cannot be painted on canvas..
The music cannot be sung by mortal lips, or played by mortal hands.
The quietness can be threatening…also the loneliness.
But the bold embrace it and conquer it…then the quietness becomes your aide, the loneliness, your friend.
That is when the tears begin…and the sounds of truth play in your heart in its own ethereal beauty…to the stringed instruments of eternity…that says all at once…
Thats why you cry because you know.

The tears speak a language that is hard to utter…
But like unwinding of a ballad dancer, the soul soars…
Like a little butterfly, a new being emerges from the hardness of the fears to embrace a new tenderness, a new vulnerability, a new trust.
But now it’s a trust in the real, in the true, in the understanding that everything ultimately changes.
And in the tears, in the sadness, there is a strange joy…it’s unspeakable…it’s full of glory…it’s heavenly.
Nothing is ever the same.
It’s evolution. It’s metamorphosis…it becomes a new aware of you

Yes sometimes you need to cry.
I know that.
I think you do too.
Go on…it’s ok.

What Inspires You?

I asked my wife this question last night.

We were reviewing the content of my sermon on Sunday which was on the subject of self discovery. She wanted to know more about herself.

It was a period to also reflect on our lives with the intention of knowing more about ourselves and ultimately being able to optimize our potentials and capacities.

While waiting for her to gather her thoughts together to be able to answer the question, I thought of my own answers too! Well, I came up with this brief list:

  1. Browsing the internet – researching, online socializing, blogging (and all the thousands of activities that fall under this!!)
  2. Watching cable tv – news, current affairs, documentaries, and inspiring movies
  3. A beautiful environment.

In the meantime, she had come up with some of her own:

  1. Going out to a great restaurant and having a good time
  2. Observing nature – the sea, the sunset, forests, and so on

As we discussed, I had an idea…

…to ask you the same question! (He he he)

So what inspires you?
(By that I mean, what activity is it that you enjoy doing so much, and which every time you are engaged in it, raises the level of your energy, excitement, and enthusiasm.)
Leave your comments and thoughts below. If you have a blog on issues related to self discovery, leave a link in your comment.

Hey! You don’t have to die!

I’ve discovered that there’s something worse than death, and that’s the fear of death. You don’t know what this fear is until you face it! For instance, when you’ve been diagnosed of a terminal disease like cancer, or HIV – when the doctors tell you that there’s nothing else they can do, at such times the fear is simply torturous. It’s terrifying.

Imagine what it’s like to be in the shoes of the woman with the issue of blood where, a situation in which, rather than your condition improving with medication, it’s getting worse. It’s a terrifying experience. You’re taking drugs, applying creams, using herbs, and so on yet things are still getting worse. You are spending a lot of your hard earned cash all to no avail. It’s even worse when you don’t know what is wrong with you. The medical people have run all sorts of tests and they still can’t say exactly what the problem with you is. The uncertainty can be tormenting.

The most depressing aspect of it, from my own experience is the fact that you can’t share it with anyone. You see, emotions, pains, and fears can be masked by make-up, good dressing, smiles and an outward show of boldness. So you are trapped in a private cell of torture, torment, and panic. Something within you is shivering with fear. Not even your closest friend is permitted to enter that inner closet. It all boils down to one phrase, the fear of death.

Fear is worst than any germ or killer virus. These other ones attack the body. But fear attacks the spirit and the soul. It hits at the very foundation of the being. It pollutes the thoughts, emotions, and attitudes thereby paralyzing the individual. Besides, it is satan’s most powerful tool.Are you hiding in a cell of fear? The truth is that you don’t have to be there anymore.

See Hebrews 2:9, 14, 15.
9But we see Jesus, who was made a little lower than angels, now crowned with glory and honor because he suffered death, so that by the grace of God he might taste death for everyone. 14Since the children have flesh and blood, he too shared in their humanity so that by his death he might destroy him who holds the power of death, that is the devil – 15and free those who all their lives were held in slavery by their fear of death.

These verses reveal 4 important truths:
1. Jesus Christ has tasted (or experienced) death for each of us.
2. He destroyed the one who holds the power of death, which is the devil.
3. He now holds that power!
4. He has freed us from the manipulation of the fear of death.

But all these are nothing if you don’t know these truths. Because, you see, according to John 8:32, “You will know the truth and the truth shall set you free.” The truth sets you free, but it only does so through your knowledge of it. The knowledge of truth is the instrument that the truth uses to set you free.

If you are in this situation of tormenting fear, I want you to know that your faith is under trial. This not to say that God is the one behind your problems – because He’s not. I’m simply saying that this is an opportunity to renew your faith in God; to rediscover the promises and benefits of your relationship with Him. I have been in that dark pit too, so I know what it feels like. I also know how to come out of that place and that is simply to focus on the truth.

Job was there and he was able to come out because of what he knew.
“I know that my Redeemer lives, and that in the end he will stand upon the earth. And after my skin has been destroyed, yet in my flesh I will see God; I myself will see him with my own eyes – I , and not another. How my heart yearns within me!” Job 19:23-27

David overcame too by what he knew.
“I am still confident of this: I will see the goodness of the LORD in the land of the living.” Psalm 27:13

These are not just mere bold confessions of faith heroes, they are promises of God to you. Can claim them right away! You really don’t have to die.

Have you ever been in a situation where you are scared of death, for any reasons? What was it like? What did you do to recover your courage and zest of living?

Please post your comments below

By the way?Who are You talking to?

One day, a young undergraduate of Electronic Engineering at the university here came to see me. He was the prayer coordinator for one of the large Christian Students Fellowships on Campus and wanted to spend some days at our home for a time of prayer. I allowed him the use of our guest room.

He spent three nights here and we could barely sleep at night!

His style of prayer is common here – rapidly moving around the room and screaming at the top of his voice. You could hear every bit of his prayer from any part of the house. I was used to all that anyway because, as I said, it’s quite a common style of prayer here.

Something rather interesting, however, occurred on the morning he was to leave. That morning, I had to deliver a talk at a seminar of the Presbyterian Student’s Fellowship after my usual early morning workout at the Campus mini-stadium. Since I probably wouldn’t be at home at the time of his leaving later that day, he had to see me before I went for my morning exercises. He seemed a bit perplexed as we sat together in the sitting room and I perceived he had some questions on his mind.

He didn’t waste any time before shooting it at me. “When do you pray?” he asked me.
It was now my turn to wonder!
I pondered over his question for a few seconds and all the while I kept thinking, “What’s the reason behind this?”
Of course, it didn’t take much time before it hit me! So I decided to respond with a question of mine, “Do I pray?” I asked.
“I believe you do,” was his instant reply, “or else we wouldn’t see the kind of results we see in your life and ministry here on the Campus,” he continued. “But then” he wondered out loud, “I’ve been here for the past three days and nights and I’ve never for once heard you praying.”
I wasn’t mistaken. I had perceived his thinking accurately!
This time, I was amused. “Well,” I asked smiling, “why should you hear me? Are you the one to whom I’m praying?”

Eventually, I said to him, “I’m not interested in whether you or any other human being hear me praying. I’m rather interested in Him – the One to Whom I’m praying – hearing me. If He hears me, then there will be results whether you or others hear me or not.”
I parted from him that morning still wondering whether he got the meaning and implications of my comments. Such things usually don’t sink that easily.

By the way, who are you talking to?

Please send me your comments.

Read more of my articles and blogs on success, money, marriage, and spiritual insight at:http://www.successacademyonline.org

How to Attract the Right Man for Marriage

attract the right man for marriage

Attract the right man for marriage by applying the 12 very effective tips presented in this article.

Are all the wrong people approaching you for marriage?

Is your problem that the men that approach you for marriage are not the types you would want to marry, whereas the types you would love to marry seem not to notice you?

What should you do to attract the right man for marriage?

In this article, I’ll show you 12 practical steps you can take to attract the right man for marriage.

#1.  To attract the right man for marriage, you must know, understand and be who you are.

One of the toughest challenges that young ladies face in their quest for marriage, is the inability to attract the right man for marriage.

“My problem is that the men that approach me for marriage are not the types I would want to marry, whereas the types I would love to marry seem not to notice me.”

Research shows that the above dilemma is common among ladies of marriageable age.

Why Does this happen?

Why is it that the men that approach you for marriage are not the types you would want to marry, whereas the types you would love to marry seem not to notice you?

First of all, what you see here is the Law of Attraction at work.  This Law states that you attract who you are, not who you want. 

Another way to look at it is this, ‘Birds of a feather flock together.

However, this law is a paradox!  This is because it is almost impossible to want something that is not compatible with who you are.  Your wants come out of your mental conditioning.  You want what you consider valuable. In other words, what you want is invariably connected to some sort of scale of preference in your mind.  Your ‘wanting’ is an aspect of your attitude or mentality.  And because ‘as a man thinketh in himself, so is he,’ your mentality is synonymous with your personality.

If you desire to attract the right man for marriage, you must understand that what you want is an integral aspect of who you are.

To attract the right man for marriage know, understand and be who you are.

As a Christian, your true self is that person you see when you look at Jesus Christ!  He is your mirror.

Never allow the world push you around and tell you who you’re supposed to be. Putting on a false social mask just to please everyone else, is unnecessary if you’re looking for a lasting relationship.

Be who God has said you are!

#2.  To attract the right man for marriage, you must tell yourself the right things.

To attract the right man for marriage, tell yourself the right things.

What do you believe about yourself?  What are you telling yourself?

You may be programming yourself for failure with negative thoughts.

For example, if you’ve told yourself that “all good men are taken,” then you’ve labeled the people coming to you as ‘left-overs’ even before they make their appearance!

Your pre-determined beliefs, which you may not even be conscious of, can be destructive.

Seven percent of communication is what you say, and the other 93 percent is non-verbal. That 93 percent screams your “personal truth,” what you really believe about yourself when nobody is looking. If you’re carrying baggage — insecurities, fear, desperation — people can tell.

So change the things you tell yourself about yourself, so that you can begin to attract the right man for marriage.

#3.  To attract the right man for marriage, you must recognize that you don’t have to be in a relationship to be whole  

To attract the right man for marriage, recognize that you don’t have to be in a relationship to be whole.

A lot of times, we are looking for something that we don’t have in ourselves.  We are looking for someone that has something we lack and need. As good as this may look, it is very dangerous.  Do you yearn to be married because you believe it will make you feel complete? Understand that marriage doesn’t complete you. If you think you need to be half of a couple to be all of who you are, you’re engaging in “wrong thinking.” You don’t need to be half of a couple to be complete.

It is much better to find wholeness and completeness in God.  That way, you are focused on your own contributions, rather on what you need.  It is often true that when you are complete in God all by yourself, you become more attractive and appealing to a broad range of personalities, including the type that you want!

Besides, it is better to be happy alone than sick with someone else. The most important relationship you have is the one you have with yourself.

#4.  To attract the right man for marriage, you must never act desperate

It can hardly be emphasized that desperation is a repulsive quality – it puts people off.  Don’t act desperate.

To attract the right man for marriage, don’t put pressure on yourself. You don’t have to be married. It’s not required.

Stop telling yourself you have to get a ring on your finger.

Send a message that you “want to” be in a relationship — not that you’ve “got to.”

Even if you hear your biological clock, it need not tick loudly enough for every eligible man to hear it!

Keep in mind that if you are desperate to get married, you could be giving out signals that are actually scaring away the opposite sex. Seven percent of communication is verbal and the other 93 percent is nonverbal. What kinds of nonverbal signals might you be sending out regarding commitment?

When you feel the pressure of time, you can make mistakes, overlook important details, or misjudge someone.

#5. To attract the right man for marriage, you must take time to define and clarify what you want or desire in a husband. 

It is  possible to attract what you want and not know it simply because you don’t understand your ‘want’.  One reason the men that approach you for marriage (apparently) are not the types you would want to marry, whereas the types you would love to marry seem not to notice you, is your ignorance of exactly what it is that you want!

So, in order to attract the right man for marriage, it is important to take time to define and clarify what you want or desire in a husband.

A lady once told me that the most important thing she desired in a would-be husband was he would let her continue to be a part of her church. She wanted someone that would not interfere with her ministry, responsibilities, and commitments to her church.  In short, someone that would give her room to be herself.

We were in a small group discussion when she said this and as the discussion went on, we inquired about the men that were already in the picture.  Of course, they were not her ‘type’ for several reasons.  Some were not from her state of origin.  Others were not sensitive or handsome enough.  But there was one particular guy that she said seemed the right man for marriage.  He had all the qualities except one – the guy lacked ‘drive’.

She wanted a guy that had drive.

Now, that was interesting because, as we reflected on the guys ‘lack of drive’, we couldn’t help wondering that this guy was a medical doctor and was aspiring to travel abroad to make some money.  I wondered out loud how possible it was for someone to accomplish what the guy had if he lacked drive!

And as we explored the guys so called ‘lack of drive’, we discovered that this was actually the one quality that she wanted the most in a man!  After all, wasn’t she also looking for a man that would allow her to be herself and continue to participate in her ministry? In other words, a man that wouldn’t mind her pursuing her own dreams – a quality she inaccurately described as lack of drive?

At the end of the day, all of us, and particularly the lady in question, realized that this guy was exactly what she was looking for!  She couldn’t recognize the fact because of her misunderstanding of the concept of ‘drive’.

To attract the right man for marriage, you must clearly understand exactly what it is that you want in a husband.

#6.  To attract the right man for marriage, you must avoid unrealistic, and utopian expectations.

Most ladies are unable to attract the right man for marriage because their expectations are unrealistic and utopian.

This is often as a result of a lack of understanding of what exactly it is that you want.  The lady in our discussion above actually had this problem too.  When she brought up the subject of drive – which by the way, as we found out, meant someone with a vision and passion to accomplish that vision – we pointed out to her that any man that possessed that quality she called ‘drive’ would not allow her to be herself and remain in her ministry!

In fact, it was that very quality she desired in the right man for marriage that this guy had – and she called it ‘lack of drive’!

In essence, her problem was that she wanted someone that was not in existence – a man who had drive (who was passionately committed to his vision), but who lacked ‘drive’ (who would accommodate non-commitment to that vision from his wife)!

Of course, she eventually realized that the guy actually had drive, or else he would not have gone through the rigors of medical school and was planning to expand his economic prospects by moving out of the country.

So her misconception of the meaning of ‘drive’ created in her an expectation of an impossible man!  This resulted in a form of blindness that prevented her from knowing that her dream man was already in her life.

In order to attract the right man for marriage, avoid unrealistic, conflicting, paradoxical, and utopian expectations.

#7.  To attract the right man for marriage, you must comport yourself with dignity.

Mind your signals.

Only 7 percent of communication is verbal. Become aware of the signals you are sending out.  Don’t send the wrong signals. Desperation, for example, comes through in non-verbal communication.

How you package yourself affects the kind of people that you attract.  For instance, there is a way you dress and you begin to send the signal, ‘I’m cheap…I’m available.’  Consequently, you begin to attract irresponsible and promiscuous personalities, in spite of yourself.

So be very careful about the kind of signals that are emanating from  you.

The issue of how you package yourself is therefore of paramount importance if you must attract the right man for marriage.

If you package yourself appropriately, you’ll begin to attract the kind of men that are compatible with what you want.

#8.  To attract the right man for marriage, you must move into the right ‘habitat’.

To attract the right man for marriage you must think about it this way: if you want to get a shark, where do you go to?

If you want to get a tiger, where do you go to?

So you must realize that where you are matters as far as who you attract is concerned.  It is easier to attract a shark in an ocean, than a tiger!

Lots of ladies don’t attract the right man for marriage because they are in the ‘wrong’ habitat.

To attract the right man for marriage, be in the right environment.

Decide what kind of person you’re looking for and put yourself in a target-rich environment.

If, for example, you’re looking for a man who loves the Lord, go to places that such people flourish.

And if you’re not looking for a drunk, don’t go to a bar to meet someone!

You must position yourself strategically if you want to attract the right man for marriage.

#9.  To attract the right man for marriage, you must develop the capacity to discern the ‘seed’ of the harvest.  

Life is ruled by the law of seed and harvest.

A lot of young ladies know exactly what they want in a man.  If you think of what they want as a ‘harvest’, you cannot help but wonder how many of them would recognize that harvest when it shows up on ‘seed’ form!

It is possible that you have been attracting the right men for marriage, only that they are coming in their ‘seed’ form.  In this case, the problem is that you are unable to discern the harvest in the seed.

Cultivate that powerful ability to recognize a guys potentials to be your dream man, even before those potentials become visible!

#10.  To attract the right man for marriage, you must never be quick to jump to conclusions 

Lots of ladies are simply not attracting the right men for marriage because of presumptuousness. They are very quick to jump to conclusions about the men that they meet.  They make judgments from far and often superficially.

It is possible that the qualities you want are actually present in the man, albeit potentially.  It is possible that these qualities are being beclouded by situations and circumstances.  In this case, it will require a more discerning and deeper examination to bring them to light.

So, be slow to jump to conclusions.

#11. To attract the right man for marriage, learn to go after what you want!

Research shows that so many ladies just wait for their dream man to come along without them even trying!

Some times the best way to attract the right man for marriage, is to go after him!

Smart ladies often go after what they want.

#12.  To attract the right man for marriage, cultivate a pleasant personality

To attract the right man for marriage, make out time to meet people – be more available.

Look at your life and ask yourself if you’re leaving time to meet someone.

Would someone have to throw himself on the hood of your car to cross paths with you and get your attention?

You might also want to check out this post:
3 Common Sense Keys To Attract Mr. Right

DIVINE WISDOM AND PRINCIPLES IN LEADERSHIP

He was the 11th child in a polygamous home filled with strife and envy. Betrayed by his brothers, he was sold as a slave in a foreign land where he was eventually falsely accused by his master’s wife. This slander landed him in a prison.
Yet from the prison, he rose to become arguably the most powerful man of his time.
He was undoubtedly one of the wisest men that ever lived.

Sterling Accomplishments
Among his various accomplishments, two are quite outstanding:
By the application of divine wisdom and principles in leadership:
One, he created a food surplus that fed the entire world for seven years!1 And this was in the midst of famine.
Two, he bought over the entire human and material resources of a nation!2 He gained absolute dominion over an entire nation.
Joseph entered Egypt as a slave and eventually landed in prison.
However, by the application of the divine wisdom and principles in leadership, he became the master of an entire empire!2
It takes more than luck to achieve such feat.
How did he do it?

Principles are at work
Greatness is not the result of luck. It is the result of the accurate application of divine wisdom and principles in both personal and corporate leadership.
These principles are not obvious to the casual observer. People see the results, but they don’t understand the causes. There are principles at work in the life of any man or woman you see that has attained enviable status.
It is possible to live close to a wise man and be blind to his ways. You just believe he’s lucky. But what you fail to observe is that this man is operating in accordance with certain divine wisdom and principles.
There are principles at work.
Some people have eyes but they can’t see.
What are you learning? What are you observing?
It is possible to be around a great man as he is moving towards greatness and still remain in your smallness and tomorrow wake up to be a servant to someone that was once your classmate!
Are you observant?

So what were the secrets of Joseph?
What were the principles of divine wisdom that he applied thousands of years ago that took him from the prison to the palace?
There were 5 and I love to refer to them as the Polygon of Dominion

 

SECRET #1
Foresight in Leadership
Foresight in leadership will always create distinction and dominion in life
And the seven years of famine began, just as Joseph had said…3

Foresight in leadership is the ability to clearly discern trends.
It is the perception of the significance and nature of events before they have occurred.
It is an awareness based on spiritual positioning that enables an individual know intuitively what is going to happen next.
It is a preview of a future reality that empowers an individual to take unique steps either to take advantage of coming opportunities or avoid danger.

Egypt had a different economic reality from the rest of the world because they had foresight in leadership. Joseph, a man of foresight, was put in charge.
The bible says that a people without vision perish.4
It’s talking about foresight! It’s talking about seeing far into the future, thinking ahead, planning ahead.
Individuals that can’t see into the future and plan ahead always perish. They exist in shame – they lack honour and dignity. But whenever you see an individual or a group of people that see far ahead and plan adequately, they will always be distinguished.

Individuals who have foresight will always lead others.
A man with foresight, a man who can see ahead and plan ahead will always dominate those who cannot see beyond their noses. For instance, a person who cannot see beyond his nose will always be going to someone who can see far to borrow money. People that lack foresight always serve those who do.
Do you have foresight? Can you see far? Can you look ahead? Can you think ahead? Can you plan ahead?

The Four Elements of Foresight in leadership .
Foresight in leadership is not magic. It is purely a function of four things – sight, light, position, and orientation.
The Sentinel of ancient times illustrates the elements and strategic importance of foresight. He was a special kind of guard that was constantly on the lookout for enemy movements and advances. They were specialy chosen individuals with good sight. Yet they were normally positioned at strategic points and heights such as would enable them see farther than normal. But they also turned their faces in certain directions. The news they brought were very critical to the decisions of entire armies and nations.
Let’s analyze these four elements:

Sight
A normal human being is supposed to be born with sight. So sight is essentially a gift from the Creator.
In reality, however, not everyone possesses sight. Sight is not the same as eyes – you can have eyes without sight. Whereas the eye is the faculty, sight is the ability. An eye without sight is a situation where the faculty is there, but the ability is not. This state is called blindness.
There are also those who have deficiencies in their sight. In this case, the faculty is impaired and so affects the ability negatively.
It is the same in the spiritual realms. You are supposed to have spiritual sight.
Foresight in leadership is an aspect of spiritual sight. It’s a gift. It’s an attribute of a normal spiritual existence. It borders on intuition. It is the ability to sense and feel things beyond the natural and immediate. It is essential for success and dominion.

Light
But then, sight without light is useless.
There is no difference between a person with sight and a blind man if he has no light.
The greatest enemy of sight is night. And the best friend of sight is light.
In the spiritual realm, the constituents of darkness are – satan, sin, and ignorance. These will fight sight anywhere and at anytime. And they can incapacitate sight as they continue to do to millions of people today. When people have sight but can’t see, then darkness is at work. It means that satan, or sin, or ignorance, or a combination of these is at work.
Light, however remains the greatest enemy of night. That is why the acquisition of light is your greatest weapon of victory over darkness – Satan, sin, and ignorance. The more light you have, the less power these have over you.

And what is this light?
It is the Word of God5.
The word of God is inclusive of (a) the revelation of the Holy Spirit in the human heart, (b) the Holy Scriptures, (c) the divine wisdom and principles of the universe, and (d) the laws of nature. These are all dimensions of the word of God. The more of these you are acquainted with, the more foresight in leadership you will have, and the more success you experience.

Position
Position will always amplify the output of sight and light.
Men do not light a candle and put it under a bushel.6
A city set on a hill cannot be hidden.7
Position affects the sphere of sight. A certain position will give you a better view of the terrain than another. Position is a relational word. It defines where you are with respect to certain specific coordinates, or with respect to where every other things or persons are.
There are two primary points in the spiritual divide – the flesh and the spirit. Your position is described in relationship with these two coordinates. A man of the spirit is someone whose mental and thought processes are in perfect alignment with divine wisdom and principles. A man of the flesh is someone whose mental and thought processes are out of harmony with the governing laws of the universe.
Contrary to religious thoughts, spirituality has nothing to do with religious affiliations or rituals. It rather has to do with mental alignments and priorities. The mind determines spirituality.8
When your mind is aligned with the principles that shaped the universe, you are truly spiritual. Otherwise, it is carnal.
The alignment of your mind determines what you receive from the realms of the spirit! Success comes from above. Greatness is the product of releases from the supernatural and invisible realms. And the alignment of your mind is a critical factor that determines what and how much you receive.9
The mind determines spirituality. And foresight in leadership is a function of spirituality.

Orientation.
Orientation is related to position but it has more to do with direction – decisions, priorities.
One dictionary defined foresight as the act of looking forward.
Some people are oriented towards the past and present. In other words, the happenings of the past and present determine their decisions. They are locked in either the past or the present. So they are not able to respond to shifts in the system talk less of anticipating coming ones. It is easier to have foresight in leadership when you are oriented towards the future and difficult when all you can think about is yesterday and today.
Dr. Edward Banfield of Harvard University, after more than 50 years of research, concluded that ‘long-time perspective’ is the most accurate single predictor of upward social and economic mobility. Long time perspective turns out to be more important than family background, education, race, intelligence, connections or virtually any other single factor in determining your success in life and at work.
Successful people have a clear future orientation.10 They think five, ten and twenty years out into the future. They analyze their choices and behaviours in the present to make sure that they are consistent with the long-term future that they desire.
In your work, having a clear idea of what is really important to you in the long-term makes it much easier for you to make better decisions about your priorities in the short-term.

This long time perspective gained from foresight in leadership is the first dimension of the polygon of dominion. It is the first secret of Joseph.

 

SECRET #2
Self Control In Leadership

Self Control in leadership is essential for wealth and dominion in life.
This food should be held in reserve …11

Success has ruined more people than failure!
Most people are so carried away by the euphoria of present success and good tide – such as favorable public opinion or financial windfall – that they act in ways that reverse and negate whatever gains they might have made.
Lack of self control in leadership and sobriety can reverse your fortunes in an instant! It can plunge you back to square one in a twinkle of an eye.
Your moment of glory, triumph and success is one of your most vulnerable moments. You are more likely to make wrong decisions at such times. This is why you must be careful.

Sobriety is an element of self control in leadership.
This is why the bible exhorts us to be sober and encourages a sound mind.12
A sober mind is critical for success.13
Excitement is good, but learn how to hold yourself. Learn how to control your emotions. Don’t become a victim of your own feelings. Learn to be calm, cool, and calculated, particularly in your moments of success. This is the attitude of masters, people who dominate the world.

Delay Gratification.
Joseph advised that the benefits of the years of abundance be held in reserve for future use. This is another element of self control in leadership – the ability to delay gratification. It is essential for wealth and dominion in life.
In the excitement of the moment, most people tend to squander up all that they have. They erroneously believe that things will always be like that forever. That is wishful thinking which is misconstrued as faith. Because life operates in circles and seasons.14
This indiscipline – the inability to delay gratification – is mostly seen in the area of personal and corporate finances. The moment people get unexpected financial income or sudden financial favours, they immediately squander it all and deceive themselves into thinking that things will just get better on their own. This is a primary cause of poverty.

Self control in leadership is a product of choice. It is the decision and the ability to endure immediate pain, denial, inconvenience, and hardship in order to enjoy more lasting and more gratifying pleasures.
It is the second dimension of the polygon of dominion – Joseph’s second secret.

 

SECRET #3
Prudence In Leadership

Prudence in leadership is a major key to achieving greatness in life
As soon as Joseph saw his brothers, he recognized them, but he pretended to be a stranger…15

He was careful.
He was cautious.
He was a reflective individual.
Compare him with his brothers who were careless and reckless.
The quality of prudence in leadership demands that you be a person of meditation, quietness, and reflection.

The accident of birth is not enough to shape your destiny.
It’s within your power of choice to reverse any disadvantages you might have come into this world with and prudence in leadership is a major key to achieving this.

Joseph was cautious in friendship.
This is an important aspect of prudence in leadership.16
He was not too trusting.
He typified the adage, “once beaten, twice shy.”
He took time to test people before trusting them.
He had no grudges against his brothers because he had discerned the higher purpose behind their actions.17 If anything, he was grateful to God for what they did. So he had forgiven them.
But, forgiveness has nothing to do with trust.
Forgiveness is a love gift. It is given.
Trust is a reward – it is earned.

You will never amount to much in life if you are too trusting of people.
Jesus Christ is a perfect illustration of this principle.18
Never never trust people you have not yet tested, no matter what they say or do. You must give enough time to testing people before you commit yourself and your valuable resources to them.

The Fig Tree Syndrome..19
Jesus was hungry. Seeing in the distance a fig tree in leaf, He went to find out if it had any fruit. When He reached it, He found nothing but leaves because it was not the season for figs. And He cursed it!
The fig tree in the bible is often used to represent peoples and nations. Just like the fig tree in this story, there are people that when you see from far, appear to be good, dependable, resourceful and so on. But when you come close and interact with them, you are sorely disappointed.
Observe that Jesus went to find out if it had any fruit.
Prudent people are fruit inspectors
Take time to inspect before you invest.
In building relationships, study before you connect. This will save you lots of heartache.
Prudence in leadership is the third dimension of the polygon of dominion – the third secret of Joseph.

 

 

SECRET #4
Loyalty In Leadership

Loyalty in leadership is vital to greatness
Joseph collected all the money that was to be found in Egypt and Canaan in payment for the grain they were buying, and he brought it to Pharaoh’s palace…20

 

Men of loyalty, faithfulness, and integrity are rare.21
Joseph knew where his loyalty lay. He was accountable. He did not try to bite the finger that fed him. He didn’t abscond with the funds. He placed it where it belonged – at the feet of the man who believed in him and gave him the opportunity when he was nothing.

What do you do with the blessings of the Lord? What do you do with the praises that people give to you as a result of your performances?
Herod misplaced his loyalty and paid for it with his life – worms ate him up! 22

Loyalty in leadership demands that you appreciate the foundation of your power, advantages, and blessings. No building can survive a disconnection from its foundation. In the same way, you must remain connected to the roots of your power and privileges, otherwise you are nothing.
The truth of the matter is that you owe all of your resources – life, talents, skills, abilities, opportunities, connections, and positions – to God. How loyal are you? How accountable are you?
Joseph clearly understood the place of Loyalty in leadership.
It is the fourth dimension of the polygon of dominion. It was Joseph’s fourth secret.

 

 

SECRET #5
Shrewdness In Leadership

Shrewdness in leadership is an indispensible virtue for success and dominion in life
When the famine had spread over the whole country, Joseph opened the storehouses and sold grain to the Egyptians…23

 

Observe what Joseph did with the food he saved. He sold them.
But to whom did he sell them?
His fellow countrymen! – the people that produced the savings.
Think about it.
He didn’t dash it to them. He sold it.

A classic example of shrewdness in leadership is found in the transaction between Jacob and Esau. Jacob practically said to Esau, “You want some food? You have to buy it.”24 Now, that’s shrewdness!
Do you want to create a surplus of wealth for yourself and future generations? Do you want to dominate your world and reign in life? Then you’ve got to cultivate the virtue of shrewdness in leadership.

Shrewdness in leadership is rooted in objective reasoning.
It is practical, hardheaded cleverness and judgment.
It means that your actions are not determined by your sentiments, but rather by your objectives.
Jacob was bent on obtaining the birth right. That was his goal and objective. And this goal was based on a dream – a divine dream.25 I don’t think he hated his brother. But shrewd men subject their feelings to their objectives. It appears mean and unkind, but that’s the attitude of greatness.

Joseph was bent on creating a surplus that will ensure that the nation of Egypt and the world are not destroyed by the famine. And this goal was based on a dream – a divine dream.26
What would have happened to the nation of Egypt and to the world if he had operated out of pity and sentiment and given away the food for free?
Many people think that they are being kind, whereas the truth is that they are being stupid and foolish. It is good to be generous. But generosity must be strategic, principle-based, and vision-oriented.  It must be based on divine wisdom and principles.

The Egyptians were producing the crops. Joseph was collecting and storing 20% of their harvest. And after 7 years when the famine started, he sold it back to them!
He sold their food back to them! Now, that takes a lot of wisdom and shrewdness in leadership.
He could do that because they weren’t learning from him. He was doing something in their midst. They had eyes but they couldn’t see it. They just gave Joseph 20% and squandered the rest!
There were 7 years of abundance but at the end of the seven years, these Egyptians had no food to eat! They had to now come to Joseph – a stranger that came to their land – to buy food. They should have been imitating Joseph if they had been smart. They should have thought, “Why is this man doing this thing? Ok let’s follow suit. While I give Joseph 20% let me keep 20% or 30% for myself. How is Joseph storing it? Let me build a storehouse for myself.” No. They were simply carried away by the abundance of the moment and they paid for it with their liberty – they ended up as slaves to Joseph and Pharoah!

Jesus commended shrewdness.27
An important principle of shrewdness in leadership revealed here is this: Use what you have to acquire what you need.
That was what Jacob did with Esau. He used his position of advantage to obtain the birthright.
Don’t squander your advantages, don’t waste your resources. Put them to strategic use.
Shrewdness in leadership is the fifth dimension of the polygon of dominion – the fifth secret of Joseph.

These five secrets enabled a mere slave, a prisoner in a strange land, to gain mastery and dominion over an entire nation. Study them. Master them. Then apply them in all aspects of your life. It will deliver dominion to you too; dominion over your own spheres.

Notes:
1Genesis 41:54 2Genesis 47:18-21 3Genesis 41:53 4Proverbs 29: 18a 5Psalm 36:9; 119:105,130; John 1:4 6Matthew 5:15 7Matthew 5:14 8Romans 12:2; Colossians 3:1,2 91 Corinthians 2:14 10Isaiah 46:10; Philippians 3:13; Hebrews 12:2. Observe how God, Jesus Christ, and the Apostle Paul all possess a clear future orientation. 11Genesis 41:36 12Titus 2:6; I Peter 1:13; 5:8 13Romans 12:3; II Timothy 1:7 14Genesis 8:22 15Genesis 42:6-9 16Proverbs 12:26 17Genesis 50:20 18John 2:23-25 19Mark 11:12-14 20Genesis 47:14 21Proverbs 20:6 22Acts 12: 21-23 23Genesis 41:56,57 24Genesis 25:29-34 25Genesis 25: 21-23 26Genesis 41:28-31 27Luke 16: 1-8

 

Success Habits


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Success Habits

 

Success Habits will fill your life with success and free you from stress.

 

Living is like a game, a journey, a race, a battle.

Consequently you either succeed or fail in it.

You either win or lose in it.

So it demands specific skills, what I’ll refer to as Success Habits.

 

Success Habits are behavioural patterns based on the principles of God’s word and the immutable laws of the universe that while maximizing the pleasures of living, minimizes suffering in life.

 

If you master these Success Habits your life will be full of success and free from stress.

 

The more of these Success Habits you master, the faster you succeed and the happier you become in life.

 

 

Success Habit #1:  Patience

 

 

Patience is an important Success Habit.

 

Hebrews 6:12

We do not want you to become lazy, but to imitate those who through faith and patience inherit what has been promised.

 

Patience is clearly an important Success Habit because it guarantees and enhances the output of faith.

 

Life is a marathon, not a sprint race.

Hence, you need Patience, not just intelligence.

Champions possess Patience.

Patience is an important Success Habit.

 

Proverbs 19:2b

…nor to be hasty and miss the way

 

Proverbs  21:5b

…as surely as haste leads to poverty.

 

Impatience is costly.

Your greatest mistakes will happen because of impatience.

Most businesses, ventures, and enterprises that fail do so because of lack of preparation and time.

 

Great businesses do not happen overnight.

‘Rome was not built in a day.’

 

Patience is essential for success.

It is a Success Habit.

So develop the habit of Patience.

 

 

 

Success Habit # 2:  Listening

 

 

Listening is a very important Success Habit.

 

Proverbs 17:27, 28

A man of knowledge uses words with restraint, and a man of understanding is even-tempered.

Even a fool is thought wise if he keeps silent, and discerning if he holds his tongue.

 

 

Benefits of Listening

 

‘A good listener is not only popular, but after a while he knows something’ – Wilson Mizner

 

82% of people prefer to talk to people who are great listeners, not great speakers.

People appreciate, respect, and value others who are great listeners.

 

‘A bore is a person who talks when you wish him to listen.’ – Ambrose Bierce

 

‘Knowledge speaks, but wisdom listens.’ – Jimi Hendrix

 

According to Linda Eve Diamond, author of the book, ‘Rule #1: STOP TALKING! – A Guide to Listening,  listening offers the following benefits:

Listening broadens us,

Lays the groundwork for peace,

Elevates the quality of our relationships,

Opens the way to success.

If nothing else, when you listen, you’ll find you are the most popular person in the room.

 

 

Listening is an art. 

 

It is a skill.  It is a very important success habit.

 

“Most of us think we’re born listeners just because our ears work. That’s like saying you are a born pianist because your family had a piano in the house.”

– Linda Eve Diamond

 

In other words, you have to LEARN to listen.

PRACTICE until you PERFECT listening.

 

You were given two ears as opposed to one mouth so that you can listen twice as much as you talk.

 

Listen for sounds and voices that are not audible.

Listen to what people are not saying.

 

“The most important thing in communication is to hear what isn’t being said.’ – Peter Drucker

 

Most people simply listen to the words that are being said to them, but words contain only 10% of the message. The remaining 90% is hidden in the body language and the tone of voice. Understanding body language can help you look beyond what people say to what they really mean.

 

Listening is respecting another person’s right and need to express himself/herself.

Listening is searching for inspiration in information and sounds

 

Listening is a very important Success Habit.

 

There is a time to talk.  There is a time to listen.

Insist on listening more than you talk.

 

John 21:5

He called out to them, “Friends, haven’t you any fish?”

Jesus assumed nothing.

He pursued information.

Ask questions, then listen.

 

Barriers to effective listening

 

What you ‘know’

You are looking for ‘confirmation’ not ‘information’.

What you know is often the greatest barrier to what you can and what you should know.

 

Information is the difference between your present and your future.

 

 

Important Keys towards Listening

 

Stop Talking!

If you are talking, you are not listening.

If you are thinking intently about what you want to say, you are not listening to what is being said.

 

Hold Your Judgements

Allow for a thoughtful pause between reacting, a space in which to ask yourself, “Do I have the whole story?”

 

Avoid Generalising

People are unique.

 

Ask Questions

Try to ask for clarifications on what the person is saying.  It aids the listening habit.

 

 

Are you listening to God?

Are you listening to nature?

Are you listening to the Holy Spirit?

Are you listening to your spouse?  To your customers?  To your children?

Your teachers?  Your staff?  Your parents?

 

Begin to day to practice listening.

It is a very important success habit.

 

 

Success Habit #3:  Generosity

 

 

Generosity is a very important Success Habit.

 

Here is what the bible has to say about generosity:

 

Proverbs 11:24:

There is that scattereth, and yet increaseth; and there is that withholdeth more than is meet, but it tendeth to poverty.  [KJV]

Proverbs 11:25

A generous man will prosper: he who refreshes others will himself be refreshed.

Proverbs 19:6

Many curry favor with a ruler, and everyone is the friend of a man who gives gifts.

Ecclesiastes 11:1

Give generously, for your gifts will return to you later.  [TNLTB]

 

And here are somethings said by some great minds on the subject:

 

“In the same way that the magnet subtly draws iron to itself, so the gold and silver that a man gives attract the hearts of men.”

 

“We’re all generous, but with different things, like time, money, talent – criticisms.” – Frank A. Clark.

 

“Complete possession is proved only by giving.  All you are unable to give possesses you” – Andra Gide

 

“Giving is the only proof that you have overcome greed” – Mike Murdock.

 

 

Generosity is clearly a very important success habit.

 

Benefits of Generosity

 

1.       Generosity leads to prosperity.

 

2.       Generosity is probably the greatest key to influence.

 

Man looks at the outward. 

Man is influenced by what can be seen, touched, and felt. 

Until our love becomes tangible, it has no impact.

 

What is the use of following and serving a God who does not care about your needs?

What is the use of being in a ministry that cares nothing about your needs?

In short, what do I gain by following you?

People do not ask these questions consciously, of course, but it influences their decisions and actions at a very subconscious level.

 

There is no way you can demonstrate love and care without generosity.

We don’t care how much you know until we know how much you care.

 

Generosity  has very specific advantages for the man who desires to make his mark among his fellowmen.

It attracts people, softens them up, and makes friends out of them.

 

 

 

 

Be Generous!

 

Luke 16:9

I tell you, use your worldly resources to benefit others and make friends. In this way, your generosity stores up a reward for you in heaven.[3]The New Living Translation Bible.

 

Jesus is here encouraging generosity.

But He is also saying that you must be strategic in your generosity.

Being strategic with your gifts implies that you have to do more than just give. 

It implies the following:

1. Give in a way that meets genuine and desperate needs of individuals.  It means that you should not just give, put some thought into the gift. 

2. Give in a way that gives you influence.  Generosity softens people up.  Yes it does!

Generosity gives you direct access to the power of influence.

By strategically spreading your wealth, you add value to the lives of others, creating pleasure and making valuable friends.

Don’t just give your money away.  Use your money to solve problems, to make people happy, to add value to their lives, and ultimately to gain influence.

 

 

 

The best use for your money is not in buying things but in buying hearts.

 

What has worth is worth paying for.

And nothing has as much worth as the heart of people. 

The most important treasure to God is the heart of people.

The best thing you can give God is people!

In dealing with people, be lavish with your money and keep it circulating.

The best use for your money is not in buying things but in buying hearts.

Generosity is a demonstration of love.

It generates power and influence.

Powerful people give freely, buying influence rather than things. 

 

 

Stingy souls will never be great.

 

Proverbs 11:24:

There is that scattereth, and yet increaseth; and there is that withholdeth more than is meet, but it tendeth to poverty.  [KJV]

 

Stingy souls will never be great.

They will never have influence. 

They are unnattractive. 

They are repulsive and elicit resentment from their fellow human beings.

Stinginess is the direct result of the ‘love of money’

The love of money is the root of all evil, and poverty is one of the greatest evils. 

So love of money is the root of poverty. 

This is because the love of anything makes you cling to it and hoard it. 

And when you do that with money you tend to poverty!

Millions today are held in the evil grip of poverty because of their refusal to use money creatively and strategically.

They wonder why they are poor.

 

 

Generosity will fetch loyalty much faster than intimidation or manipulation.

 

Proverbs 19:4,7.

4Wealth maketh many friends; but the poor is separated from his neighbour

7All the brethren of the poor do hate him: how much more do his friends go far from him? he pursueth them with words, yet they are wanting to him.

 

Generosity is the fastest assess to greatness.

There is no room for the stingy in the congregation of the great.

Generosity pays great dividends in the end.

Generosity will fetch loyalty much faster than intimidation or manipulation.

 

Wealth gives its possessor the ability to give pleasure to others.  The more you can do this, the more you attract admiration.

Whoever wants to have friends must not love his possessions but must acquire friends by means generosity.

In the same way that the magnet subtly draws iron to itself, so the gold and silver that a man gives attract the hearts of men.

 

 

The use is more important than the amount.

 

What matters is not the amount you have.

 What matters is how you use it.

Powerful people give freely, buying influence rather than things. 

If you accept the inferior position of always having to receive because you have no fortune yet, you may find yourself in it forever. 

So imagine yourself as much a rich man as any on the planet – because you are! 

You are a god!

Give freely, open your doors, circulate the little that you have, and consequently transform wealth into influence.

 

 

Often to secure and multiply your wealth you have to ‘waste’ it.

 

Supernatural Healing

 I promised you, dear Lord,

After you healed me,

To tell the story around the world.

“If you tell it around the world,”

You said,

“I’ll heal them around the world too!!”

Here’s the story Lord.

Do the rest!

Wildfire Divine Favour

 

 DEDICATION

 

To all of you who have been diagnosed of an incurable disease.

Don’t lose hope.

Rise and be healed!

 

I wrote this book for you.

 

 

I don’t know how the disease started. 

I was too small when it manifested in my body, too small to know when or how it began.  All I knew was that I had a kind of Asthma which the doctors described as acute and which grew worse as I grew older.

 

My grandfather, it was said, died at a relatively young age of asthma and I believe that the asthma in my life was an ancestral spirit transferred genetically down the line to me.  However, or whenever it came, the fact was that I had a very terrible, torturing disease that made my childhood, adolescent and teenage years very miserable and intolerable.

Besides, when I was barely 1 year and 6 months, my parents took me to an open air evangelistic rally and one of those nights it rained so heavily and having no place to run into, the rain beat down so heavily upon my frail and yet tender body.  The result was that I developed a form of bronchi pneumonia that was classified as chronic.

 

So I grew up very sick and as often happens in such cases, other ailments found their way into my body – like the intestinal problem; they called it intestinal obstruction.

 

Then my joints became infected and it became increasingly difficult to kneel for long periods of time without getting cramps in my legs and knees.  This experience was so painful I would scream again and again. My mother who was ever so close would become overwhelmed with sorrow and I could see her eyes well up with tears.  Most of those periods, it would take some time, prayer, and effort to get me to move normally again and be free from the pains.  At other times I would simply have to be rushed to the hospital where I would be admitted for days.

 

Then there was the acute form of malaria that necessitated my taking anti-malaria drugs every other week.

 

As I look back over those years of pain and suffering, I wonder which one of the ailments I dreaded and feared the most.  It is very difficult to determine as each of them came with its own peculiar pain, torture, and misery.  The stomach ailment caused me so much pain that I took more drugs than I can remember.  Most of the times I had to open the capsules and drink the powdery contents, or chew it if it was a tablet so as to hasten its operation.  I would be in such pain and be screaming.  Sometimes I just passed out into unconsciousness because of the pain and screaming.  Then my parents would rush me to the hospital where I would be admitted.

 

Once, when I was in the Junior Seminary, the pains in the stomach erupted so suddenly that our English teacher – God bless his soul – had to rush me to the hospital in his car.  I screamed all through and vomited all over his car.  Of course, I was instantly admitted and my parents had to be brought in.  Such incidents, matter of fact, were very regular.  In fact, the emergency ward of the hospital became like a second home!

 

Life was so unbearable.  It was a story of pains, sickness, and agony.  It was a history of hospitals, drugs, admissions, x-rays, and so on.

 

Asthma

 

Yet I cannot think of any of those infirmities that tortured and terrified me more than that asthma.  I dreaded because it often attacked without warning and viciously; I still wonder how I managed to live through it all.

 

The experience was horrible.  It was as though some invisible suction tube was used to suck all the air out of the world.  Imagine being in a place where there was no air.  I would struggle to breathe, desperately gasping for breath, clasping to life, struggling to survive.  At such moments every air I succeed in taking into my lungs caused so much pain and suffering I wondered if it were not better that I just stopped breathing and die.  It was as if a comb made of tiny and sharp metal pricks was being used to scratch my heart; the pain was as though coals of fire were burning my heart.  I still can’t describe it in details.  Those around me could hear the wheezing sound as I struggled to breathe, every air that passes through making as it were a whistling sound.

It was simply horrible.

 

The doctors that were treating me placed me under so much restriction that I hated life.  I was eventually stopped from riding my bicycle which I loved riding so much and which my dad bought for me as a reward for my obedience. 

There were two special medical reports regulating everything from my diet to my activities.  It was just like being in a prison, cut off from all the fun and tortured by pain and agony, harassed by diseases described by doctors as incurable.

 

I remember, once, after a very terrible asthmatic attack, one in which I had nearly lost my life, I was admitted in the hospital.  My mother sat by my bedside and watched as I took my drugs so dutifully, faithfully, and obediently.  Her eyes were filled with tears as she watched me.  She was later to sit like that for years to come both in hospital wards and in the dining table watching me take drugs and shedding tears as she did so.  In fact, I often wondered what was going through her mind at such times.  She told me later that as she watched me take those drugs – and I took quite some plenty, an average of ten tablets per meal – she would silently ask God in her heart, “How long, O God?  How long would this boy suffer like this?  How long will he continue to take hundreds of drugs like he’s doing?”  What gave her much heartache, as she said later, was the faithfulness and loyalty with which I took those drugs.  She said the sight of it broke her heart and moved her to tears.

After the particular asthmatic attack that I was narrating earlier on, my mum asked the doctor, “Is there no hope for this boy?  Is there no permanent cure for this sickness?  When will this end?”  The doctor made a statement which I overheard and which haunted me for years and which was the basis of the feelings of hopelessness and depression that afflicted me in my adolescent and teenage years; feelings that led to seven attempted suicides.  He said, “Once an asthmatic patient, always an asthmatic patient.”  I was like a man stabbed through the chest.  I felt doomed, and hopeless.

 

That doctor said they were doing the best they could and if I only followed their regulations and prescriptions, the problems would be fairly contained.  So here I was sentenced to a life of pain and agony.   I had nothing much to look forward to, other than painful asthmatic attacks, intestinal obstructions, knee cramps, drugs, admissions and their likes. 

I loved that doctor because he was caring and really did his best.  As a matter of fact, I’m yet to see over all these years another doctor like him.  And he seemed to know how to bring temporary relief to me each time I was rushed to the hospital and I was ever so grateful.  He was an expert on children and such afflictions as I had and I believe that if anyone could have cured me, it would have been him.

He did his best, but it was not enough, and I became discouraged, depressed, and hopeless.

 

The Change Begins

 

After I gave my heart to Jesus and experienced the new birth, I was so excited about it all that for some time I didn’t really mind the asthma.  It still came and went.  I still took my drugs dutifully and faithfully.  I knew that God had power to heal but strangely enough, it simply didn’t occur to me to ask Him to heal me or that He would even heal me.  It just didn’t seem to be my priority at that time.  I was simply too excited to be born-again that every other thing just faded into insignificance.

 

But, as I studied the bible on that fateful day, August 25th 1991, I came to that particular verse which was destined to alter my life so dramatically especially in the area of my health.  I read that,

 

“If anyone is IN CHRIST, he is a NEW CREATION; the OLD has GONE, the NEW has COME!” – 2 Corinthians 5:17

 

I was inextricably glued to that verse and I couldn’t help but ask in my heart if this newness only applied to the area of my morality, that is, my lifestyle, behaviour, desires, and appetites.  “What of the area of my health?”  I mused.  In my life, the OLD included asthma, pneumonia, intestinal infirmity, acute malaria, and knee cramps.  I wondered if they were among the things that were GONE.

Try as much as I could, I couldn’t push those thoughts out of my mind and somewhere from deep within me, the answer came – YES!  That inner voice which I now know to be the Holy Spirit told me that my sicknesses have all gone.  The asthma was gone and so were the rest.

 

Healed!

 

I wouldn’t say that I prayed for healing, yet in a profound and inexplicable, yet very simple way, I KNEW that I was healed.  I KNEW that I was never going to have another attack of asthma or be admitted in any hospital again.

 

The covenant with sickness was broken.

 

I was healed!

 

I was overwhelmed and deeply moved.  It was a consciousness that was joyful but very sober and solemn.  Tears of joy and gratitude filled my heart and flowed profusely.  I was actually healed.  There was no shadow of doubt anywhere.  I went to my room, to the place where my drugs were kept and put them all into a polythene bag.  I was alone in the house.  I also got hold of my two medical reports.  The former I threw away while I burnt the later.  I just knew I was never going to need them again.  The OLD has GONE!  The NEW has COME!

 

I never told my parents or any other person what I did.  I watched myself as days turned into weeks and weeks into months. I ate everything I had been forbidden to eat and did everything I was forbidden to do.  It was actually like another new birth experience.

No more drugs, no more hospitals, and no more pains. 

 

I was free!

 

Five months later, I told my parents what had happened.  I told them that I wasn’t taking any more drugs and that I was violating the doctors’ regulations.  First, they were alarmed and shocked.  But as I narrated the experience and mentioned the fact that it had occurred five months earlier, they became amazed and were filled with joy.

 

It’s been sixteen years now as I write. 

Till date, my mum still pauses to stare at me puzzled.  Many times she will express her amazement, “Just to think,” she would say at such times, “that you no longer take drugs.”

 

What a mighty God we serve.

Heaven and earth adore Him.

Angels bow before Him.

He is faithful and true to His word.

What He says He is well able to perform.

 

Truly, if anyone, anyone at all, regardless of experiences, background, or race, is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come. 

 

Things are different now and I’m no longer who I used to be.

Blessed be the Name of the Lord.

 

 

 

 

SECTION 2:  YOU TOO CAN BE HEALED!

 

 

Maybe, you too are afflicted in one way or another.  May be you are right now lying down on some hospital bed wondering where your help is going to come from.

Maybe, the experts have told you that your case is incurable and that there is nothing medical science can do for you.

 

Well, they maybe right in saying that medical science cannot do much for you at this point.  And that is why this book is in your hands!

To link you with the greatest doctor of all times!!

His name is Dr. Jesus Christ!

He is the greatest physician and with Him, nothing is impossible.

With Him, no disease is incurable!

 

Please, realize that in Jesus Christ, no case is hopeless. 

Yes, in Him we find newness and freshness. 

In Him there is real and lasting freedom. 

 

Don’t give up!

Believe in God’s word and His power to heal you of any afflictions.

Is it AIDS?

Is it cancer?

Is it diabetes?

Is it asthma?

The name doesn’t matter at all.

What matters is this – Jesus Christ has the power and wants to deliver you out of that condition.

 

I look back over the years of pain and I do realize that though satan afflicted me with painful infirmities, God allowed it because He knew He would turn it around into a testimony to His glory.  He performed that miracle in my body sixteen years ago to bring glory to Himself.  And that is the primary reason I’m writing this book – to bring glory to God.

I want the world to behold the power, the love, the mercy, and the glory of God.

He is great.  Our God is awesome and He does great, mighty, and marvelous things.  There is no one like Him, no other God besides Him.

 

Beyond that, however, I want you to know that if He did it for me, He can and will also do the same for you if you believe.  This is also why this book is written – to duplicate my testimonies in countless other lives throughout the world and through all succeeding generations.

 

I have now traveled far and wide.  I have conducted more crusades, healing and miracle services than I can remember.  I have seen all manners of miracles happen through the name of Jesus Christ as I shared my testimony and spoke about the name of Jesus Christ.

Blind eyes have opened!  The lame have walked!  The deaf have heard!

I have seen cancer disappear!

I have watched in amazement as AIDS vanished from their victims!

I have seen diabetes lose its evil grip on its victims!

I have seen literally hundreds of healings and miracles!

 

And I am convinced of one thing, GOD HAS NOT CHANGED!

He’s still the same today as He’s always been.

I wrote this book to tell you that you too can be healed!

 

 

In the following section, I will outline to you steps from God’s word that will enable you tap into the healing power of Jesus Christ and experience freedom from all diseases and sicknesses.

 

 

 

SECTION 3:  THE WORD WORKS

 

 

 

I believe you will understand me now when I say that 2Corinthians 5:17 has become a very significant and cardinal scripture in my life. 

It’s like a part of me, as though those words flow in my blood stream.  It has become a kind of anchor rock for my life.

And it’s a very powerful scripture – a miracle verse!

Read it again.

 

“If anyone is IN CHRIST, he is a NEW CREATION; the OLD has GONE, the NEW has COME!” – 2 Corinthians 5:17

 

 

I continually meditate on that scripture as well as the miraculous healing that God performed in my life.  I can’t get over it.  I can’t forget it.  I’m forever grateful to God for delivering me.  What amazes me the most, however, are the higher, and I believe, more enduring results of that miracle.  Yes, I’m free from pain, I’m strong, healthy and so I can do my work more effectively and with greater joy.  Yet the greatest benefits of that miracle are spiritual.

 

First of all, it has strengthened my faith in the word of God. 

Many people seem to have no problem accepting whatever they read in the bible.  They simply believe it is God speaking and that settles it.  For others like me, however, it has not always been that easy.  I must confess that as my mental faculties developed and my reasoning abilities increased, it became very difficult to accept what is written in the bible as the word of God.

Maybe this has happened to you.

Perhaps, it is still happening to you. 

You might even be too ‘super-spiritual’ to admit it, so you repress it.  But it is a very real feeling and satan can capitalize on it to haunt you with guilt.  Yet, you must face it and allow God to minister His grace to you to overcome every form of intellectual doubt, everything that contradicts the knowledge of God in your life.

 

In spite of my very religious background, I found myself being assailed by doubts regarding the divinity of the Holy Scriptures.  At such moments, however, I would reflect over the miraculous healing that occurred in my body and how the miracle took place.  How could the mere reading of and acceptance of a simple statement in the pages of the bible produce such a wonderful transformation in my body?  How could 2Corinthians 5:17 completely and permanently remove five terrible diseases which several doctors had labored to remove for seventeen years without any real success?  What is it about that passage that cured diseases said to be incurable?

 

If that verse is true – and I know it is because its validity manifested in the total healing of my body – then every other statement of God’s Holy Scriptures is true.  I can accept it.  I can stake my entire life on the integrity of the word of God.

And so can you.

You can read any passage in the bible, and if you will accept it with all of your heart and act upon it, it will deliver its promises to you.

 

Daily, as I meditate on 2Corinthians 5:17 and the healing of my body, my faith in God’s word grows in leaps and bounds.  The speed and completeness with which I accept scriptural statements has also been on the increase and consequently, I am experiencing manifestations of God’s promises in increasing measures in various aspects of my life.

 

I may not know you in person and we may never meet here on earth, but if I am allowed to give you just one message, I will tell you God’s Word is true.  Believe it!

Please do.

Don’t allow the philosophies and logic of men to rob you of the vibrant, life-giving, miracle-working power of the simple word of God.  I feel like standing on the tallest skyscraper and screaming to the inhabitants of the earth that God’s word works!  I wish I were standing in the pulpit of every Church, in the privacy of every home and telling all men and women everywhere, God’s word really, really works!

 

 

 

SECTION 4:  HOW TO RECEIVE YOUR HEALING

 

 

 

1.      Don’t focus on being healed. 

 

Focus on the Healer – Jesus Christ.  A lot of people make a god out of their condition, unwittingly worshipping it.  This is very wrong.  You are transformed by focus.  You become what you behold.  So rather than focusing on the pain and trying to remove it, focus on Jesus Christ, the Healer.

 

Numbers 21:8-9

The LORD said to Moses, “Make a snake and put it up on a pole; anyone who is bitten can look at it and live.  So Moses made a bronze snake and put it up on a pole.  Then when anyone was bitten by a snake and looked at the bronze snake, he lived.

 

John 3:14-15

Just as Moses lifted up the snake in the desert, so the son of Man must be lifted up, that everyone who believes in him may have eternal life.

 

When the people were bitten by the snake, they were not to look at their symptoms or complain about how bad the pain was.  They were not to look at Moses either.  They were rather to look at the bronze serpent mounted in the desert – which symbolizes Jesus Christ in His work on the cross.

 

4Surely he took up our infirmities

and carried our sorrows,

yet we considered him stricken by God,

smitten by him, and afflicted.

5But he was pierced for our transgression,

he was crushed for our iniquities;

the punishment that brought us

peace was upon him,

and by his wounds we are healed.

– Isaiah 51: 4,5.

 

Jesus Christ is the Healer.

So remove your focus from the pain and the sickness.  Focus it on the Lord Jesus Christ.  Believe in Him and trust that He has power and that He is willing to heal you.  And He will.

 

2.      Mind your atmosphere. 

 

Surround yourself with a positive environment. 

 

(i)      Surround yourself with people who believe in miracles, who are full of faith, and who have a positive mind. 

Often times, people’s conditions are worsened and many have eventually died as a result of pessimistic doctors and medical personnel.  I don’t care how good or skillful a doctor is, if he or she is not positive minded, look for another if you can afford it. 

 

The same applies to relations, and any other person for that matter.  If they do not believe in a bright future for you, if they are confessing doom and death, then politely request them to stay away until you recover!

 

(ii)    Surround yourself with pictures, and words, which build your faith. 

You become what you behold.

Get pictures that represent and express positive faith.  Hang it in the walls around you.  Get scripture verses on healing and memorize them and keep confessing them to yourself every now and then.  (I included some in No. 4 below.  Memorize them and confess them daily.)

 

(iii)   Surround yourself with books, tapes, and teachings on faith and healing. 

This includes testimonies from magazines and other writings of men of God.  It may not necessarily be on the subject of healing, but if must be on faith building subjects.  It will also be good to get worship and praise tapes and be listening to them.  All of these create a positive atmosphere that is conducive for healing and speedy recovery.

 

 

3.      Believe in the Lord Jesus Christ as your Lord and Personal Saviour.

 

Healing is one of the benefits of salvation and the new birth.

 

If you haven’t consciously surrendered your life to Jesus Christ and submitted to His Lordship over you, then follow the outlined steps below. 

 

Repent of your sins. 

Acts 20:21

21I have declared to both Jews and Greeks that they must turn to God in repentance and have faith in our Lord Jesus.

 

Believe in the life, death, and resurrection of Jesus Christ. 

John 20:30,31

30And many other signs truly did Jesus in the presence of his disciples, which are not written in this book:

31But these are written, that ye might believe that Jesus is the Christ, the Son of God; and that believing ye might have life through his name.

Acts 16:31

31And they said, Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved, and thy house.

 

Surrender your life totally to Jesus Christ. 

Job 22:21

21Submit to God and be at peace with him; in this way prosperity will come to you.

Romans 10:9-13

9That if you confess with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.

10For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you confess and are saved.

11As the Scripture says, “Anyone who trusts in him will never be put to shame.”

12For there is no difference between Jew and Gentile – the same Lord is Lord of all and richly blesses all who call on him,

13for, “Everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved.”

 

Be baptized in water into the name of Jesus Christ. 

Acts 2:38

38Then Peter said unto them, Repent, and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins, and ye shall receive the gift of the Holy Ghost.

 

Live in accordance with His word and commands. 

Acts 26:19,20

19“So then, King Agrippa, I was not disobedient to the vision from heaven.

20First to those in Damascus, then to those in Jerusalem and  in all Judea, and to the Gentiles also, I preached that they should repent and turn to God and prove their repentance by their deeds.

 

If you have met these conditions, Jesus Christ is the Lord of your life.

If not, then make sure you do it immediately.

 

 

 

4.      Meditate on these promises of God.

 

Exodus 15:26

He said, “If you listen carefully to the voice of the LORD your God and do what is right in his eyes, if you pay attention to his commands and keep all his decrees, I will not bring on you any of the diseases I brought on the Egyptians, for I am the LORD, who heals you.

 

2 Kings 20:5

This is what the LORD, the God of your father David, says:  I have heard your prayer and seen your tears;  I will heal you.

 

Psalm 103:3

Who forgives all your sins and heals all your diseases.

 

Psalm 147:3

He heals the broken hearted and binds up their wounds.

 

Isaiah 53:5:

But he was wounded for our transgressions, he was bruised for our iniquities: the chastisement of our peace was upon him; and with his stripes we are healed.

 

 

Isaiah 58:8

Then your light will break forth like the dawn, and your healing will quickly appear;  then your righteousness will go before you, and the glory of the LORD will be your rear guard.

 

Jeremiah 17:14

Heal me, O LORD, and I will be healed;  save me and I will be saved, for you are the one I praise.

 

Jeremiah 30: 27

‘But I will restore you to health and heal your wounds,’ declares the LORD

 

Malachi 4:2

But for you who revere my name, the sun of righteousness will rise with healing in its wings.  And you will go out and leap like calves released from the stall.

 

III John 1:2:

Beloved, I wish above all things that thou mayest prosper and be in health, even as thy soul prospereth

 

5.      Make these confessions daily.

 

By His wounds, I AM HEALED!

I shall not die.  I shall live to declare the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living!

 

6.      Appreciate God for what blessings you already have in your life. 

I believe that a grateful heart and a grateful mouth is one of the most powerful means of unlocking and releasing God’s healing into our lives.

 

 

 

CONCLUSION

If this booklet has helped you find healing in Jesus Christ, if you have been helped in anyway by the stories and messages in this book, please do tell me about it.

You can contact me by the following means:

 

wildfiredfavour@yahoo.co.uk

 

or call:  +234-803-4034-928

Can God Be Lonely?


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Strange Electricity
I threw everything on the bed and just fell on my knees, wet clothes, shoes, and all, I was lost in God’s love and glory!

 

That evening was quite stormy and the clouds were gathering fast.  The threat of a heavy downpour loomed overhead as lightening streaks and thunderclaps tore through the windy sky.  I was rushing home to avoid being drenched in the rain when suddenly it came!

 

Not the rain this time, but the presence of the Lord.  It enveloped me like an electrified blanket. Waves of glory surged through my entire body. It was a really strange experience and it had been happening to me for some 18 months now.

 

The visitation was always unpredictable.  Whenever it happened nothing else and no one else mattered.  At such times I would experience an overwhelming pull to be alone and to worship God.  This was 1994, and I was a second year Electronic Engineering student at the University of Nigeria, Nsukka.

 

With the first droplets of rain beginning to fall and my body tingling with the electricity of God’s presence I hastened my steps, half running, and half walking. I was a bit drenched when I got home, but what did it matter.  I just couldn’t get into my room fast enough. I threw everything on the bed and just fell on my knees, wet clothes, shoes, and all, I was lost in God’s love and glory!


A Very Odd Question
What I heard next shocked me.  But it changed my life.

 

There I was on my knees just worshipping God and loving Him, wrapped in the mantle of His warm and glorious presence when a soft, crystal clear voice floated into my consciousness.  It was distinctly audible and one I had come to recognize, the unmistakable voice of the Holy Spirit.  It asked me, “Do you know that God can be lonely?”

 

What an odd question, you might be thinking. And those were my exact sentiments.  “How could God, the omnipresent One, the All – Sufficient One, how could He ever be lonely?”  I thought.  “He is surrounded by myriads of angels and billions of human beings. What could He possibly be lacking?”

 

What I heard next shocked me.  But it changed my life.  “Yes, I can be lonely and in fact, more often than not, I am”

 

He then proceeded to give me a message, which I’ll share briefly with you here.  If this message sinks into your heart, then you are going to experience a breakthrough in your relationship with God.  You are also going to know a new victory in your prayer life and none of your needs will ever weigh you down.

 

Instantly, the Holy Spirit flashed Genesis 2:18 into my heart.  The LORD God said, ‘it is not good for the man to be alone.  I will make a helper suitable for him.’

 

Continuing to speak, He said, “How did I know that man was alone and that it wasn’t good?  Was it just through observation and my omniscient nature?  No.  I didn’t know just because of those.  I knew and felt what that man was going through because I had experienced it!”


Man’s Need
He was still alone though he had thousands of beautiful insects, birds, and other animals.

 

Take a quick look at Genesis 1 verse 1 – In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth.  This is the first sentence of the Holy Bible but the Lord made me to understand that even before the incident recorded in this first sentence He was and he wasn’t idle.  But He was alone.  And there’s just one cure for loneliness – companionship.  God knew that the man needed a companion because He had felt that same need too! The next few verses record God’s preliminary attempts to meet Adam’s need.

 

Now the LORD God had formed out of the ground all the beasts of the field and all the birds of the air.  He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name.  So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds of the air and all the beasts of the field.  But for Adam now suitable helper was found. (Genesis 2:19-20)

 

You see, Adam’s loneliness continued in spite of the beautiful and luxurious garden where he was located.  He was still alone though he had thousands of beautiful insects, birds, and other animals.  None of these could remove his loneliness.  He needed another like himself.

 

You see, this was a revelation to me that night.  I felt the radiance of God’s glory sweeping all over me as He continued.

 

God’s Need
“I needed to share my nature and powers with someone and to release the deepest thoughts of my heart.”

 

“I knew this because I also had to work to meet my need for companionship!  In the beginning, before the first angels ever beheld the light of my glory, before the first rays of sunlight caressed the surface of the earth, before any bird chirped their lovely songs…in the beginning, I was all alone, and I was lonely.  And it wasn’t good for me.”

 

“I then decided to call into existence those things which were not.  I created the order of the angels and fixed their ranks in heaven.  These things you know very well but do you know what I had in my mind when I was creating all those things?  I was searching for communion and relationship!  Just as I caused all of the animals to pass before Adam to see if his need for companionship could be met by any of them.  After creating all those angels, I found out that they were merely ministering spirits, servant beings.  I just couldn’t relate with them on an intimate level. Just like Adam couldn’t find any meaningful companionship among those animals.”

 

“So I went on to do those things that you read about in Genesis 1.  I created the heavens, the universe, and I made a model world which I called the earth. I fixed the lights in the sky, created the flowers, the waterfalls, trees and all the glories of your physical world. But do you know their effect on me? Just the kind of feeling an artist derives from a finished painting on a canvas!  I saw that my works were good and that was all.  They merely gave pleasure, aesthetic pleasures to my eyes.”

 

“Then I realized I needed more than servants and pictures before me.  I needed to fill that vacuum for communion and relationship.  I needed to share my nature and powers with someone and to release the deepest thoughts of my heart.  In my eternal and unsearchable wisdom, I found out that this could only be made by creating someone who would be like me, someone who would be able to create, and someone who could feel like I do.  I needed someone to whom I could hand over my world to, someone with whom I would commune with and relate to like a friend and like a son.”

 

Then God made that monumental statement in Genesis 1 verse 26…let us make man in our image, after our likeness…

 

Sweet, Sweet Communion
God comes walking under the lovely shades of Eden with Adam and you could hear them discussing about the beauties of the stars and the sweet fragrance of the flowers.

 

So the first man was created and God found a companion.  He put his own spirit into this man Adam and God had a relationship with Him.  God came down in the cool of the evening to walk with this man.  Can you picture this?  God comes walking under the lovely shades of Eden with Adam and you could hear them discussing about the beauties of the stars and the sweet fragrance of the flowers. You could hear God revealing His mind to Adam and giving him instructions.  It was such a wonderful communion that existed between Adam and God.

 

The Lord continued talking with me.  He said, “I still desire for that kind of relationship with man.”  The fall of Adam has come and gone.  Jesus Christ has come and destroyed the old Adamic race and has become the first born of a new race, a new man, making possible a more peculiar and intimate relationship with God.

 

As I was worshipping in God’s awesome presence that night, I felt like currents of electricity were flowing through my whole body.  It was so glorious.  Tears covered my face and I was so lost in his love that I could only sob, completely overwhelmed.  He continued to talk…

 

A Man after God’s Heart
“I desire that my Children who have been born into the image of my Son Jesus Christ should have a deep communion with me”

 

He said, “Very few of my children come to me like you are doing now.  Most of them take me to be a prayer-answering machine!  Whenever they come, they crowd me with their petitions.  I desire that my Children who have been born into the image of my Son Jesus Christ should have a deep communion with me.  Do you know why I said that David was a man after my heart?”

 

I didn’t know the answer.

 

He told me, “David knew how to relate with me.  He knew how to love me just for who I am and he knew how to praise me and the works of my hands.  He hated my enemies and sought to vindicate my name on earth.”

 

I later discovered what the Lord was talking about in Psalm 63.   Again, in Psalm 116:1, David says, “I love the LORD.”  I was amazed as the Lord unfolded these things to me.

 

He said, “My children don’t want to feel what I feel, they don’t want to share their hearts with me. They don’t want to know what my yoke is and they don’t want to understand the burden and cry and yearnings of my heart.  How I long to hold them in my hands and fellowship with them.”

 

Your Fundamental Duty
I should devote at least 75% of the time to worshipping him and just loving Him and communing with Him!

 

My heart was almost breaking as I heard these words.  Truly, God’s children are more interested in their problems and earthly concerns than in God.  We only come to God because of what we expect to receive from Him.

 

Child of God, God yearns for deep and intimate fellowship with you.  Don’t you do not withhold that from Him.  This communion and fellowship is the reason why you were made.  The Psalmist said, When I consider your heavens, the work of your fingers, the moon and the stars, which you have set n place, what is man that you are mindful of him, the son of man that you care for him?”(Psalm 8:3, 4)

 

God is interested in you.  He went through a lot to re-establish what the first Adam spoilt. Jesus Christ, the last Adam, shed His blood so that we could be reunited with God.  This message broke my heart and I came out with one determination, to have a deeper relationship with God.

 

What about you? Forget all those problems of yours. God knows all about them. He feels for us more than we can ever know but He needs you.  Come to Him like David did. Worship Him and ask Him to reveal Himself to you.  If you seek Him with all your heart, you will find him and you are going to experience answers to your prayers.

 

Do you know what He told me that night?  He said that when I am praying, I should devote at least 75% of the time to worshipping him and just loving Him and communing with Him!  The result, He said, would be so glorious and powerful I wouldn’t need any other thing.

Oh, God is so real.

 

 “I am more convinced today than ever before that intimate personal communion with God is the one single key that unlocks divine breakthroughs and supernatural favours.”

                                                                                                                                               

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

                                 

Transformation By Focus



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A young man walked up to me once after a meeting and told me about his academic problems.

He had lots of F’s and was no longer sure of graduating with a good grade.

I told him that you don’t really solve problems by looking at them…we are changed by focus.

 

What did I mean? 

And what should we focus on?

 

Well, the bible tells us in 2 Corinthians 3:18 that as we behold the Lord like in a mirror, we are transformed into His likeness.

In other words, if we want to create change in our lives and circumstances, it’s by shifting our focus from us to Him.

Now, as we do that, we are changed…we evolve, we experience what I call metamorphosis…

 

it’s not the circumstance that needs to change…it’s the person that needs to change

Exactly!

 

That was how I experienced my healing.

I was very sick from childhood.

I had acute asthma and chronic bronchitis…and lots of others.

Nothing the doctors did could give me lasting relief.

Even after I became a Christian, I was still sick.

But two months after I gave my life to Jesus Christ, I was reading the bible on a day that I was fasting and I came to 1 Corinthians 5:17…to the part that says ‘if any man is in Christ, he is a new creation…the old has passed away, the new has come.”

That verse arrested me and mysteriously, I knew that very moment that I would never be sick again.

 

I believe that what happened there was that as I beheld Christ in His word, I saw my true self. 

And the moment I saw that, the disease left…

 

so the whole essence of focus is to discover and become the new you…

 

Sure…

If we want to know ourselves, we don’t consult ourselves…

If we really want to know who we are, it’s not by looking at our strengths and weaknesses as psychologists and secular humanists teach.

All these things are consulting the flesh…looking at the natural. 

Because if we are in Christ, then we automatically have the nature and dimension of Christ…

 

So if you want to discover yourself, it’s to look at Christ to see who you are.

Then you are able to make adjustments…it’s who you are.

 

Think of the iroko tree or the oak tree. 

At one point, all that there is to that tree is  a mere single seed.

Nevertheless all of that tree, all it could ever be,  was in the seed as potential. 

 

Everything is like that with the New Creation.

You are saved, and yet you are still being saved.  It’s like God is always focusing on the end of things. 

so the process is taking you from where you are to where you should be.  

But he keeps looking at you like somebody who is already there, because that is his nature, he’s the God of faith that’s just how God is. 

 

What happens is that when people are still looking at themselves naturally and are “…trying to be something,’  they also begin to focus more or less on their limitations and weaknesses. 

But when you think of yourself as, “I’m just like Christ,  It’s His very life that I have,” then what you are doing is that you are just finding out how that nature works, how He works…then you just flow into it…more and more like Him

 

So it’s really who you are and yet it is what you are becoming. 

 

And that is why we have to not look at ourselves if we want to change.

Of course, there are so many things we want to change about ourselves, particularly as Christians, we want to change our bad habits, you know, like procrastination, laziness, and so on.  We want to change things about us that we don’t like and that God doesn’t like.

But what that scripture is saying is that you don’t need to try to change your habits…

 

Yes, you might be thinking, “Ok, so what do you think we should do…”

Well, it’s all quite interesting…really, come to think of it, for years, that’s all we generally do as Christians – trying to change one aspect or the other.

 

But now, think in terms of  2 Corinthians 3:18, “But we all, with open face beholding as in a glass the glory of the Lord, are changed into the same image from glory to glory, even as by the Spirit of the LORD.

 

You know, from that scripture, the bible says, ‘as we behold him…as we behold him…’

So what we should do is to behold him. 

 

If we look at him, which is different from looking at ourselves, then we are changed by Him!

Someone has said that you become what you behold.  How true!

If you are constantly focusing on your weaknesses, it is difficult to change because you are beholding the wrong thing.

We should shift our beholding from us to Him!

Then the bible says that mysteriously, we begin to evolve into His likeness.

I’ve seen that happen in my life.

 

When you focus on something, you tend to start doing that thing without even making a conscious decision about it. 

So what you focus on begins to shape you.

 

As write these things, I’m thinking about things like worship and staying in God’s presence.

As we were growing up as Christians, we get to the point where we want to stay more in His presence, we want to pray more.

At that point we may begin to make plans like “ok I will spend between 4:30am and 6:30am in prayer…,” we begin to try to have an action plan.

I think that’s the wrong focus. 

Perhaps, you are not the type that wakes up early. So you think that if you could just change the time you wake up, then your fellowship with God and prayer life would improve.

It’s the wrong focus because you are simply trying to keep awake, and that’s not the essence of worship – keeping awake!

But if you could just focus on being with God, you understand that it’s not a ‘time’ thing. 

You understand that it’s just like when you want to stay with a friend or lover – you don’t have to time it. 

You love to spend time with that person.  You naturally want to.  It’s not really a ‘time’ thing.

I know it’s good to be disciplined, but the important thing is to just focus on being with him and not trying to change something about yourself.

Wanting to be with him and being motivated by that need and being driven by that desire, things will change

What you focus on begins to shape you…

 

And it will be effortless, without struggle.

 

There’s so much struggle today as people try to improve themselves.

One of the areas I see struggles is in the so called battle against sin. 

You can’t defeat sin by looking at sin. 

Jesus Christ has already fought and defeated it. 

And He doesn’t expect us to fight what He has fought and overcome again!

He says “You’ve already overcome.  So all you do is look at me. You don’t have to fight these things…I did the fighting for you.”

 

I tried for years to overcome lack in my life.

I read books.  I read principles.  I tried to find wisdom. 

Until I realized that just as I was healed looking at Christ, the power of poverty will be broken by looking at Christ. 

So I began to meditate on the riches of Christ.

The moment I saw it, poverty lost it’s grip!

 

So it’s like as you are looking at Christ, all of a sudden, the truth hits you about that thing and once it hits you, you know that you know that you know that this is it. 

It’s not about trying to believe it, trying to have faith for this or that;  it’s like, “so this is what it is!” and it just settles it. 

it is the realization of who you are that produces the change…

 

Jesus simply says to us, “don’t try to be healthy or successful, just be.  You already are.”

You see, we are all coming from a fallen background.  So it’s understandable when we think of ourselves as imperfect.

But then, it is only when we take away our attention from our selves and focus on Jesus Christ that we can experience the transformation that we seek.

I wasn’t an exceptionally smart student when I was in school.

But after my encounter with Jesus, one day, I reasoned with the word that I have the mind of Christ.

Then, suddenly, it hit me!

 

That realization so altered my academic performance in my late secondary and university life phase,  that I became nicknamed Albert Einstein!

 

I believe that one of the things that God helped me do as a young Christian, and which I encourage to practice, is to read the bible.

I think the bible is neglected a lot in today’s Christianity because of the availability of books, tapes and activities.

So the bible has become like a relic from the past, something boring.  So we wait for the preachers to read and interpret for us.

But that direct contact with the bible is simply invaluable.

 

I remember so vividly how as a new believer, I loved to read the bible as a book.

I had the desire to finish the book of this and the book of that in the bible.

I just read it and I used a very simple translation.  So I enjoyed it.

I believe that if you are reading the bible, you are fellowshipping with God. 

Because of what is in John 1:1.

 

So it’s that closeness to the word of God that creates the change. 

And any Christian can do it. 

It’s simple. 

Just take the bible and don’t think of it as a classical literature that is beyond your comprehension. 

Take it and sit back and enjoy it as you would a love letter or even a magazine article!

A lot of these ‘books of the bible’ were just letters!  They were read single meetings!

So if we do that, it will help us a lot.

This beholding occurs as we read the bible. 

For me, that was the beginning.

 

Then eventually, because of my involvement with music, I also began to enjoy worship which is another way we can behold him. 

Through singing, being in his presence, you get to receive revelations about yourself, God and things you couldn’t have thought of.

 

Still reflecting on this issue of ‘beholding’…

If you see a lady who is always in perfect looks in terms of make-up and fashion, ask he how many times she looks into the mirror.  

You cannot have someone who doesn’t look into the mirror at all the whole day and the person is still intact fashion-wise!

People whose make-ups are always perfect look into the mirror a lot.

So I’m thinking to myself that for any Christian to maintain a godly standard and actually live out your life as a Christian, you have to ‘behold’ that often.

Which means it’s not a once-and-for-all thing.

Still with the fashion analogy; you can spend one hour looking at the mirror making sure that everything is ok, but if you stay for too long without looking at the mirror, you might not notice when things fall out of place.  Something that may even have been right may have started going wrong.  It could be something about the dress, or the mascara, or the powder, and so on.

And that’s the way it is with the Christian life.

Really, by the time a Christian starts getting off track, if he or she is sincere, it’s because you haven’t been spending time with God.

 

So begin to refocus.

 

There’s so much that has been said in terms of motivational talks about looking inwards, finding out your strengths, your weaknesses.

There’s a lot of hype today about self analysis and all that…but your focus should be on Jesus, who is the word of God. 

As you behold him, as you focus on Him, you will become more and more like him without any struggles but purely on the basis of what you are looking at.

 

So I think that the main thing we should address in our lives is the question, ‘what are we focusing on? 

What are we beholding?’

 

Focus on God and His word. 

How?

It’s simple…

If you can begin to read your bible,

If you can begin to worship

If you can begin to associate with Christians that love the Lord

It will begin to affect all aspects of your life.

Discover Your Hidden Strength

Judges 16:1-6
One day Samson went to Gaza, where he saw a prostitute.  He went to spend the night with her.  The people of Gaza were told, “Samson is here!”  So they surrounded the place and lay in wait for him all night at the city gate.  They made no move during the night, saying, “At dawn we’ll kill him.”
But Samson lay there only until the middle of the night.  Then he got up and took hold of the doors of the city gate, together with the two posts, and tore them loose, bar and all.  He lifted them to his shoulders and carried them to the top of the hill that faces Hebron.
Some time later, he fell in love with a woman in the Valley of Sorek whose name was Delilah.  The rulers of the Philistines went to her and said, “See if you can lure him into showing you the secret of his great strength and how we can overpower him so we may tie him up and subdue him.  Each one of us will give you eleven hundred shekels of silver.”
So Delilah said to Samson, “Tel me the secret of your great strength and how you can be tied up and subdued.”

Results are always obvious.
The keys to those results, however, are not always so.
Effects are visible.  Causes are mostly hidden.
Samson’s results and impact were plain to see and incontestable.  The puzzle, however, was, ‘how did he do it?  What was his secret?’
This suggests that the source of his strength was not obvious.  He probably was of an average stature.
If he had been as tall as Goliath, or Andre the giant, it wouldn’t have been a mystery.  They would have simply attributed it to his size!

When you meet great men and women, you’ll often be surprised and shocked to discover that there is really nothing extraordinary about them as far as the eyes can see.
In fact, most times, they even appear less than ordinary!
No wonder Samson was a puzzle to the Philistines.

They were, however, smart enough to recognize that Samson’s impact and achievements were not products of chance – there must be a hidden strength within.

Everyone has a strength, including you!
But only very few know what that strength is, where he is hidden, and how to tap into Him.
If you can discover your hidden strength, you will puzzle and dazzle your world.
Extraordinary, great, and outstanding individuals are those who have discovered their hidden strength and are functioning from that standpoint.

Your real strength is a hidden phenomenon!
He is rarely obvious.
He is always hidden in you.
And he is your key to success, global, and eternal impact.

Yes, you have a strength, and so does everyone.
The point, however is this, what is that strength?

Your real strength is hidden in your divine design and identity.
Who you are determines what you can do.
Knowing who you are is called self awareness.  It is achieved through a process I call self discovery.

Your real strength is not a talent, or an ability, your real strength is a person – Christ!
“I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me…” – Phillipians 4:13

Discover Yourself 1

Self discovery is essential to success, personal achievement, influence, and lasting greatness.
It is probably the most powerful tool for a life of impact.
Majority of people passing through this planet are completely estranged from their true selves, living as inferior colones of others!  This is pathetic.
Don’t let it happen to you!

Life actually begins for you the day you discover yourself.  Until then, you are merely existing.
Extraordinary men and women are individuals who have come to terms with their true selves and are translating that awareness into tangible and intangible benefits to the rest of humanity.  Your true self is your personal key to success, and impact.  Your true self is hidden in you. He or she is not always obvious!

What is Self Discovery?

Self discover simply means to find out who you truly are from the perspective of God’s original and perfect plan for you.
This article assumes that you already have eternal life.  If you don’t know what that means, or how to receive it, don’t panic!   Just read my post on that subject here.

If you are a Christian, it means that you have two selves – your natural self and your divine self.  Your natural self is pertinaceously obvious!  It is the product of a combination of several factors like your biological genetic composition, your childhood upbringing, environment and experiences, and a whole lot of other physical and psychological factors.  The fact about this self is this, it is false!
Unfortunately, this is the only self that most people ever know and build their lives and expectations on.

Self discovery has occured the moment you are able to look beyond your natural self and behold your true self – the divine self.

Self discovery is not instantaneous.  It is a progressive experience – a metamorphical experience (more of that later!)
However, it does not automatically happen in time.  There is no formal age during which self discovery occurs.  Certain factors must be present for self discovery to occur or be accelerated.
The earlier the experience of self discovery, the better for any individual.  This is because self discovery is essential to success, personal achievement, influence and lasting greatness.

Self discovery is a metamorphical process. It is a lifetime experience.  But it is not an end in itself – it is a foundation for action.
Beyond the process of self discovery is the challenge of translating your awareness of who you are into real time actions.  I consider it a challenge because the rest of the world expects you to be someone other than your true self.  They expect you to fit into some pre-fabricated mold.  In this day of peer pressure, trends, and fads, you need to realize and protect your divine identity.  This is not an easy task.  In the words of EE Cummings, it means ‘to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight and never stop fighting.’  It’s a daily, minute by minute battle.

You must courageously choose and determine to accept and be the person God has made you to be.  Tap into the originality and creative genius of God in your life.