Stop Slaving For People To Like You

If you claim to be a disciple of Jesus Christ—that is, a Consecrated One—yet want to fit into the world, be acceptable in it, and liked by it, something is definitely wrong with you. Period. This message is sent to free you from such ugly shackles.

“You adulterous people, don’t you know that friendship with the world is hatred towards God? Anyone who chooses to be a friend of the world becomes an enemy of God.”~ James 4:4

My friend, it’s not a good thing if everybody likes you. As a matter of fact, the only way that  everybody— or the majority—would like you, is if you were a perfect hypocrite. To be liked and accepted by everybody is essentially a curse.

“Woe to you when all men speak well of you, for that is how their fathers treated the false prophets.”~ Luke 6:26

So, why would you work so hard to get people to accept you and like you. Why in the world would you even care? What’s there to gain? It doesn’t make any sense. It’s not worth all the stress and twisting in the wind. It’s not worth living a fake life; not being true to your own self; being a stupid slave of other people’s opinions.

All of these folks you’re trying so hard to fit in with, would they die for you? Would they be buried with you when you finally wrap up your journey in this region of time and space?

Why are you terrified to come out of your ugly closet and let this worthless world know that you stand for Jesus Christ? Why would their useless opinions of you matter more than the precious blood of Jesus Christ shed on the cross of Calvary to redeem you from sin and death? Tell me: who would love you like Jesus Christ and die a shameful and torturous death for you?

If a deranged 65 year old man with a wife, ex-wives and grown up sons and daughters—a grandfather for that matter—could wake up one morning and decide he is now a woman; if he’s not ashamed to broadcast that to the world; if he’s not even ashamed to have a show to parade his perversions—why in the world should any believer in God and His Son Jesus Christ ever apologize for their glorious faith?

Please, crawl out of your disgraceful closet of timidity and senseless fear. Quit trying to please every Dick and Harry that aren’t even worth your while at the end of the day. Submit your entire life to the only One that matters and live to please only Him.

It’s about time you stopped slaving for their empty likes, and started living the glorious life that God planned for you in His Son and through His precious Holy Spirit.

Break New Grounds and Experience More Bliss!

It’s 2015 and I’m excited to get on with my journey! I hope you are as well. And I hope we will be able to share them together.

Last year was good; really good. I pushed the limits in my personal journey, especially with regards to exploring myself. I journeyed deep within me to discover, capture, experience, and enjoy my own bliss. So— though I also took baby steps in the aspect of not judging others, and letting them be themselves—the orientation of last year’s journey was primarily inward; self-exploratory, revolving around the concepts of personal acceptance, personal freedom, and personal happiness. I discovered a lot; I learned a lot; and I was tremendously satiated with exhilarating bliss.

This year, while I fully intend to continue my inward drilling, my journey will assume a more outward thrust. I will push myself more in the direction of enlarging the place of my tent, and stretching my tent curtains wide to accommodate more people—especially those that speak a different ‘language’ from me. I know that this will demand that I lengthen my cords, and strengthen my stakes; but I’m open to the challenge, and I’m excited to confront it.

My journey this year will proceed along the core themes of accepting others unconditionally, sharing my life with courage, expressing my thoughts with authenticity, and supporting other people’s quest for happiness. In other words: acceptance, sharing, authenticity, and love. By sharing all I’ve learned so far, I intend to help as many people as I can to explore their own selves, discover their unique paths, and walk it with courage. I plan to help more people discover themselves, experience greater personal freedom and happiness.

And as a result of this I expect to experience greater abundance in my life this year than ever before. Seriously; I feel very strongly about this. I really believe that this year will be one of overflowing abundance for me, and for you as well if you can believe and work towards it.

Yes. Work. Because, though I’m very sure that my God has willed tremendous abundance for me this year, I perceive that my personal capacity for selfless love will decide how much bliss and abundance I get to experience this year. So, compelled by that awareness, I urge you to challenge yourself this year to push your own limits and boundaries. Move out of your comfort zone and challenge yourself in new ways. Resolve and strive to reach new heights and create new experiences you’ve never had before.

And along that path, I’d like you to know that I plan to support you as much as I can. I already have several exciting programs lined up to that effect.

Wildfire Tours, Retreats, and Lectures

2014-10-10 10.58.04Last year I did a few personal tours; and I was deeply moved by them. For one, I realized that every one of earth’s natural wonders, and each of mankind’s historical monuments, tell a unique story, teach vital lessons, and impart extraordinary passion to open minds. So this year, I will be expanding and extending my tours. In other words, whereas so far I’ve only toured within the US, and strictly with key missions team members, this year the Wildfire Tours will be open to more people, and will visit destinations in other countries like Nigeria and the UK.

Similarly, whereas the two Wildfire Retreats we held in the US last year were restricted to our missions team and their close family members, this year they will be open to the public as spiritual getaways for all that desire to experience the bliss of self-discovery and personal freedom.

I also plan to deliver public and private lectures, as well as hold multiple discussions in several venues around the US, Nigeria, and the UK.

All of my tours, retreats, lectures, and conversations this year will be aimed at helping as many people as I can to break new grounds and experience more happiness in their lives. If you are interested in traveling with me and participating in these tours, discussions, lectures, and retreats, you may want to visit here for more details.

Methinks this will be an exciting year. Do you agree?

Have a blissful new year!

Let’s Push The Limits

Do you have a favorite artist? Mine is Larnelle Harris. I have all his songs and absolutely adore his melodies and lyrics.  One of my all time bests of Larnelle is ‘Beyond All The Limits’. In it he sings, ‘Beyond all the limits is where I find You…’

I agree.

As I’m typing this part of the post, I’m several thousand feet above sea level, aboard my flight from Enugu where I live, to Lagos; en route to my spring missions tour of the US. And as I write, I’m listening to Larnelle —thinking about the limits in my own life that I’m currently pushing at.

You see, as I shared in my very first post of this year —A Formula For Bliss — I resolved this year to indulge myself in my bliss-creating activities; mainly to continue to express my thoughts in a manner that is devoid of any attempt to persuade or convince anyone. I think I noted then that, among other things, this would entail lots of travelling.

And that’s exactly where my limits take their roots.

I hate to travel; I hate to be separated from my biological family for even a few hours. I love being a dad. I enjoy it; and I think I’m pretty good at it. I love my family, and I know they love me as well; I can feel the love and the bond almost on a minute by minute basis. The same is true of my spiritual family. We are not many in number, but we share a powerful bond that makes us essentially one. This powerful and intense atmosphere of love means that my home is much more than a comfort or convenient zone for me; it’s like my very life itself. So, when I thought of leaving my family for the current missions tour, my stomach turned sour. And as the moment of departure approached, I actually began to have double minds; seriously. I became heavily depressed at the prospects of the trip.

But that wasn’t all.

There was the issue of flying— you know, getting into that mammoth box and being thrust thousands of feet into the skies all in the name of flying. Let me admit here that getting into an airplane and heading up into the skies scares the living daylights out of me. When you look at me on the outside, smiling confidently and in that secure all-knowing manner, you would never imagine what’s going on in my mind. Because there I’m busy chastising myself, wondering how in the world I let myself get into this thing again.

I pray that the Lord would read this present post, have mercy on me, and take away this fear of flying from my heart; because it’s very real, and sometimes embarrassing. For instance, when I need to get up to use the rest room during the long international flights, I’m sandwiched between having to either relieve myself on my seat, or walk to the rest room with wobbling feet in full view of everyone! It’s just crazy, and I don’t think you have any idea how terrifying this thing is to me.

So, as my flight date neared, I lay down on my bed, contemplating the ordeal ahead of me, and whispering “Lord, if it be thy will, let this cup…”

Yet, with all these terrifying thoughts and images going through my mind, I continued to make plans for my trip. That’s pushing the limits. As I continued to schedule one event after another, one meeting after another, from one city to the next, I was practically pushing through my limits. I didn’t think I had another viable option. I went on with booking my various hotels and making payments for other aspects of the journey. And as the D-day drew near to a few hours away, I pushed myself to pack my things for the journey.

Then came the worst part of it all — the goodbye moment. Whatever hell is, I doubt it even comes close to the agony of saying goodbye to my family for a trip. Yet, I hid the tears and put up a bold and smiling front for the benefit of others. That’s pushing the limits.

Finally, when I boarded the very first flight of the trip, and as the aircraft began what was for me a very terrifying ascent into the skies, I could literarily feel the reality of my situation—I was pushing against all the limiting forces of my life; pushing to new levels of expertise, efficiency, growth, fruitfulness, and bliss.

One fact of life is that, regardless of your particular aspirations and set of circumstances, you would definitely need to pierce through your worst nightmares — as in, persevere through them —in order to reach your wonderland; in order to enjoy your bliss. Otherwise, I doubt anyone would be able to enjoy high levels of fruitfulness and bliss.

I choose to push beyond all my limits —no matter how terrifying and painful they may be. I want to realize more and more of all that I’m capable of. I want to explore all of the Lords possibilities for my life. Thankfully, I’m driven to do so by a force within that overwhelms all my phobias, and compels me to push higher and higher.

Aboard that transatlantic 12-hr flight, instead of focusing on my flying phobias, and the agony of parting from my family, I pulled out my iPad and began to write down my experiences; which proved to be quite cathartic. This, again, amounted to pushing the limits.

Eventually, we made a smooth landing in Houston Texas. As I walked to board my connecting flight to Tulsa, my eyes were drawn to a signage. On it was boldly written the words NO GROWTH, NO GLORY. And as you can imagine, in the light of where I was then, it felt so surreal—so uncannily surreal.

Arriving in Tulsa, my first port of call, I was picked up by my host, a dear friend of mine.  After I had met with his wonderful family and other friends, and as we reviewed the various opportunities in front of me — opportunities to realize more of myself and be a blessing to tens of thousands of hungry souls across various cities of the United State— I paused to relish the awareness that, after all, pushing through all those nightmares was the right call.

Be it in your ministry, your relationships, your career, or your business, higher levels of expertise, efficiency, effectiveness, order, beauty, fruitfulness, and productivity beckon. I invite you, if you can, to join me as I press deeper, forward, and higher to experience my bliss. Let’s push the limits.

Have a blissful week!